Your comments intrigue me, so please don't take any of this the wrong way. it's coming from a very interested and good place. We have had custody of our nephew for one full school year now, so I am still learning about ADHD.
You say that when on medication, your personality is toned down, and you give two examples (I know...just examples) of behaviors that unless you are at a nightclub at 1am or in REALLY understanding company (or a stand-up comedian as a career), would be considered inappropriate in most social or business situations. Why do you think you are being stifled?
Both of those things are things that my nephew does and we are trying to get him to a point where he realizes that these types of behaviors are inappropriate most of the time. He will come into the living room and stand in front of the TV and start dancing, or interrupt conversations that he is not part of to say a joke (and it almost always is NOT funny, or doesn't even make sense). He is very impulsive, and unfortunately didn't have much guidance his first 11 years...nobody modeled good behavior, or called out his bad behavior so now when we redirect him, he is shocked and surprised that he is doing something inappropriate. From what I know, a big part of ADHD is the person not understanding or realizing when they are being annoying or inappropriate, then truly not understanding why their behavior is bothersome to the people around them.
Nephew explained to us that when he was on medication before, he felt like he was in a box with the lid closed. He could hear everything going on outside the box, but he couldn't get out of it to join in. Once his medication wore off, he was able to get out of the box and "become himself" again. His doctor brought up a good point. He said that the "box" was nephews mind, and all the noise he could hear were "distractions". He said that Nephew's WANT was to join in the distractions because that that what his brain is used to doing. The medication is the lid of the box saying - Wait...it's time to be quiet and focus right now...once I am over helping you focus, the box will open and you can be distracted again."
The doctor said that he needs to stop thinking about it in terms of being "himself" or not being himself on medication and understand that while the medication helps with focus, he is STILL IN CONTROL of his behavior. So, the dancing...and interrupting...and getting up from his seat 10 times during dinner...and annoying the other kids at school for attention....etc, etc, are not affected by the MEDICATION per se...but the medication can help the brain realize that these behaviors *are* inappropriate and gives the person the ability to curb them.
So, that is from the outside looking in. My question to you is - how accurate it all of that? I'm trying so hard to do the best things for my nephew, but without having experienced ADHD myself, it's hard to know exactly what he is going through every day, and what he can, and cannot help.
Also, if you don't mind saying, what field are you in? My nephew's aspirations right now are to work at his favorite fast food place lol, and play video games. He hasn't really developed an interest in anything (not that he has to at age 12 by any means) but it would be nice to know what careers work well with ADHD so we can start to help give him a path that could lead somewhere one day -or at the very least, a related activity now that he might find fun!
(And BTW...Nephew is a sweet, kind, caring, loving kid. We have zero problems with attitude or defiance. We are not trying to change him...we are trying to give him the tools to be able to succeed. We love him just the way he is