Our trip is cancelled :(

[Escape Artist]

Me too. I'm especially curious as to why her DH was so unwilling to go that he was OK with throwing away $1200 worth of airline tickets.

Well, here's what the OP had to say on the 'Welcome to the DIS' board in a post on the same subject on 12/25: "My kids are 15, 15 and 12. They tell me they don't want to miss their sports or school activities. Hubby claims we have a lot of expenses due now and would rather eat the money invested. I even took a part time job at a store to save extra money and I saved everything I earned. I'm seriously thinking about going solo. I'm the only one who wants to go to WDW now."

So it's the kid activities from their perspective, and not throwing more money at Disney from DH's perspective. I feel for OP, but I understand her family's points, too. And I'm trying to learn from this situation in doing my own planning, so I don't end up in the same boat someday.

Sue in TX
Offsite 1989, CS/BC/Cruise 2000, FW camping in May '07...here we come!

 

[Lynne M]

Hm. I still wouldn't eat the $1200. I had to cancel a trip due to family health problems a couple of years ago, and I just called US Air and cancelled the tickets. I had the full cost of the tickets credited to my account and was able to use it when I re-booked the flights a few months later.

 

[chyam]

Well then I would suggest that she get busy posting on the solo and adult boards and get herself organized and GO! That way she wouldn't lose all of the 1200.00 and if she did get a job to save to go then she could probably have a very nice trip, Deluxe resort etc etc and not have to worry about making the kids happy. But since she hasn't been back to reply she probably won't do any of that. There is more going on here than meets the eye.

 

[Eega Beeva]

WOW! "eat the $1200 bucks"?!?!?!? You gotta be kidding. I would be fuming! Then I would start making arrangements to go with my friends. There must be someway to recoup the airline tickets. Call 'em and tell 'em the truth. Go and have fun with your pals! And then do it again next year!

 

[Eega Beeva]

Well then I would suggest that she get busy posting on the solo and adult boards and get herself organized and GO! That way she wouldn't lose all of the 1200.00 and if she did get a job to save to go then she could probably have a very nice trip, Deluxe resort etc etc and not have to worry about making the kids happy. But since she hasn't been back to reply she probably won't do any of that. There is more going on here than meets the eye.

There is more going on here than meets the eye.

No doubt. BTW I had an all white cat named Binky too! He's gone 5 years now and is sadly missed. He was a good boy.

 

[Cass]

Binky is adorable sleeping with Eeyore

 

[Brise Nannie]

I vote leave them home and take some friends with you.

I agree! That's too much money to be wasted.

 

[unbroken chain]

If it's a matter of finances and timing, rather than the destination, I would think it would be wiser to wait until another time. Get the tickets credited and use them when you can afford the rest of the vacation.

The OP and her husband may agree they can afford for just her to go, but not for everyone to go. Maybe she even took this job with the agreement that all of the income would go toward this vacation. If so, that's great, and she should try to go solo!

But on the other hand, if the OP took a part time job without any specific agreement about what the money would be used for, isn't "her" money also "family" money, just as her husband's income is "family" money? Will her husband feel resentful if "her" money is used for her to take a solo vacation, while "his" money is used to pay the bills? If so, maybe it's worth the $500 in ticket change fees not to have that kind of resentment build up in a marriage. Just my 2 cents.

 

[dollcollector1]

I thought by now we would at least hear something more from the OP. I cannot imagine letting a 12 year old and 15 year old dictate where they will go on vacation, I say put them on a plane and hire a babysitter to stay with them at the resort!

I'm the OP. Friday I was served with divorce papers.

 

[Cass]

Sounds like a good time to take the kids away for an enjoyable trip with Mom.
Sorry to hear your news and I wish you all the best.

 

[Crazy Kanga]

I'm the OP. Friday I was served with divorce papers.

I am so sorry to hear that. Hopefully you and the kids can go ahead with the trip to help soften the blow, or at least put it off until later when the timing is better.

 

[zalansky]

Friday? Three days before Xmas? What kind of a person would do that to someone, even if there was disdain between the two people? And did the kids know about this and were going along with dad? I am so sorry OP. Hugs to you.

 

[soontobewed07]

I agree if you can afford to take the kids away now is the time. My mother did the same with me when I was younger and It helped. I didn't think about it for the whole 2 weeks we were there.The next few months are going to be tough and it seems as though you will need a break and some rest too!

 

[Sammie]

To the OP, good luck, so sorry to hear about the divorce situation.

As to the trip I would see if you can reschedule for a time that the kids have a break from school. At this time, with so much going on in their lives, I would not disrupt their lives anymore taking them out of school.

 

[Sammie]

Friday? Three days before Xmas? What kind of a person would do that to someone, even if there was disdain between the two people? And did the kids know about this and were going along with dad? I am so sorry OP. Hugs to you.

not that it makes it any less painful but Friday was Dec. 29 not 3 days before Christmas.

 

[Tess'smom]

I'm the OP. Friday I was served with divorce papers.

I am so sorry to hear about this. You must be so upset. My heart goes out to you. What an ignorant JA to serve you with papers a few days before the holidays. Do what you think is best about the trip. It is obviously secondary in your thoughts right now.

B

 

[dollcollector1]

Friday? Three days before Xmas? What kind of a person would do that to someone, even if there was disdain between the two people? And did the kids know about this and were going along with dad? I am so sorry OP. Hugs to you.

I am shocked and I was served the Friday after Christmas, just 2 days ago.

 

[hentob]

I'm the OP. Friday I was served with divorce papers.

Oh. I am so sorry.

 

[blueiis99]

oh my.... I am so sorry for you! Stay strong! My heart and prayers are with you!

 

[bab31]

How horrible, I have been wondering where you have been. Now I know. I wish you God's grace to lift you up. You definetly need more than pixie dust. I dont know how to salvage your trip. Money I am sure will be an issue. Take the kids and go. And actually the trip is not important in the grand scheme of things. But I do agree..treat yourself well. Hugs to you.