Hugs and prayers for you and your kids.
I too am a SAHM and I am going on year 11. I have feared what is happening to you could possibly be the future for me. I did learn a long time ago from a friend that learned the VERY hard way that the bkfree is absolutely right. You want to stay friends but remember when this is over he will be doing his thing with minimal worry about the kids. You will be the Sole support other than his check for those kids. He will get to party and have the freedom, while you are still obligated to care for your children. That sounds so harsh, but my friend learned that the hard way. Her ex basically found every excuse under the sun to not take the kids or only take them for 3 or 4 hours and then bring them back when he was suppose to have them for the entire weekend. He got defensive when she finally said something and he popped of with, "Hey, you get a check every month". To her surprise he quickly started acting like the kids where no longer his. It's very, very sad because he use to be such a great dad and now he maybe and I mean maybe sees the kids once a year. He even forgot their B-day's last year and gave them an extra present at Christmas and even said this was one was for your Birthday, Sorry I was busy. Please understand, I am not trying to scare you. I'm not saying that your soon to be ex will act like this, but my friend never thought hers would either. You can be nice and try not to make this ugly, but PLEASE protect yourself and your kids. He WILL try his hardest to pay the least no matter what he says to you. (My friend had 3 kids and the child support was granted at $658 a month) As anyone knows with teens that is nothing. I wish you the best. Keep your head high.......YOU did NOTHING WRONG! Disney will always be there for you when you are ready to go back. New Wonderful Memories are around the corner. It's a New Year so your starting with a clean slate.There's not a doubt in my mind about what I'd do in that case. Take a solo visit to Walt Disney World. I've done it several times, and it's great fun. There are many, many advantages to being there alone.
)You have gotten some good advice from other posters and I agree with them. Do not move out of your house! You husband is the one who needs to uproot and change his life drastically. Don't make it easy for him! Stop doing his laundry, cooking, shopping, etc. If this is what he wants - he can start living alone now! You will make it through this! It will not be easy, but you will become a better, stronger person in time. Life is change - it's up to you to make it a good change or a bad change! 
He is such a coward to just spring this on you. No talk about counseling or anything before this decision? 
Because of multiple "More replies below current depth..." notices on this thread I was not aware of all the circumstances regarding the OP when I made my orginal suggestion that she might want to consider taking a solo visit to WDW. (The "More replies below current depth..." mess often causes me to miss some posts.)
