Online Dating

[Scouter]

Why wouldn't they? I mean women can want and have friends with benefits too

All dating sites really should be is people looking for the same thing. If you're wanting a marriage, a long-term relationship, a casual relationship, no relationship just companionship, friends with benefits, or just hook ups only whatever, I'd just want them to be upfront about that. If you're looking for a relationship and the other person isn't and you both engage in this song and dance that's going to be where it can mess with people.

Well, of course they can.
I have no objections and when I was young I didn't care either.
But personally, I don't know any woman that would. Not in my group of friends and family and co-workers.
That's all I'm saying.


The question was "how many women really go for that"?
With a thinking emoji.
You're taking my comment the wrong way. Please don't.
I did not say how can they do that? Or why? Or it's a disgrace!
It was speculation.
I'm not a prude or not open minded like you're suggesting.

 

[La Tomate]

Saw a profile last night that the guy didn't even have one picture of his face, only one picture and it was a back/side view.
But I saw him list some initials about his personality type and then FWB and it took me a bit to remember that was "friends with benefits".
Well, at least he's honest. But I wonder how many women really go for that.

Oh yah. There's something for everyone out there - seemingly ... "Casual" is another FWB flag - if you are not into that - you may want to avoid or proceed with caution.
But yah - some ladies are into just that. no ties - just physical. When I was on that other forum that talked about online dating - I'd say it was 20/80 split. Not a lot of ladies - but some. I'd say all were very careful, and some juggled multiple FWB situations etc etc. KUDOS to them!!! I toil to meal plan for the week let alone plan my "dates" like that Most were kidless - which kinda makes sense?

 

[Mackenzie Click-Mickelson]

Well, of course they can.
I have no objections and when I was young I didn't care either.
But personally, I don't know any woman that would. Not in my group of friends and family and co-workers.
That's all I'm saying.

I do a few in fact one being my best friend of over 20 years and including my mom (and TBH I would have rather gone my entire lifetime without knowing that lol and I'm not being prude either it's just it's...my mom and I've known at least one of hers since I was a tween though I didn't have knowledge of their extent of the relationship until I was in my late 20s)

The question was "how many women really go for that"?
With a thinking emoji.
You're taking my comment the wrong way. Please don't.
I did not say how can they do that? Or why? Or it's a disgrace!
It was speculation.
I'm not a prude or not open minded like you're suggesting.

I'm honestly not suggesting anything towards you personally

At the same time if there was a woman's profile that said looking for friends with benefits I'm not sure the thought would be "I wonder how many men would go for that" so that's more what I was going for, that's all

ETA: Whatever floats people's boats, just be upfront about it. My best friend was in a throuple for a while, another friend is in a relationship with 2 men (her role is non-sexual) one of which is a transgender who had a child prior to the transition and they all live in a happiness.

 

[disneychrista]

All dating sites really should be is people looking for the same thing. If you're wanting a marriage, a long-term relationship, a casual relationship, no relationship just companionship, friends with benefits, or just hook ups only whatever, I'd just want them to be upfront about that. If you're looking for a relationship and the other person isn't and you both engage in this song and dance that's going to be where it can mess with people.

I agree. Honesty is important. One of the guys I was chatting with was very honest about sexual compatibility being a priority for him. He said he wants a relationship but doesn’t want to invest time and energy in developing a relationship with someone where the sex was there. I’m curious what happens when the sex is amazing but they aren’t compatible in other ways.

 

[shawthorne44]

I think it is more the idea that a woman would have to go to any effort to get that.

 

[shawthorne44]

I’m curious what happens when the sex is amazing but they aren’t compatible in other ways.

I used to have a friend that divorced his wife and that is how they were. He said when they weren't ---- she was a real b----, and they tried to do ---- all the time, but they couldn't. Fortunately, I don't think they had any kids.

 

[disneychrista]

I think it is more the idea that a woman would have to go to any effort to get that.

Which is a false idea. Women have to put effort into finding this type of relationship as much as men.

 

[La Tomate]

Mexican wrestling guy might be my favorite! That’s amazing Not kink shaming either and I’ve run into some interesting ones but that’s a new one to me lol. Were the other stories from “the hood” as odd as yours?! I’m trying to decide if men are just crazier or my dating experiences aren’t as interesting as I thought.

Sorry, was away camping with the Bairns -The tales from the HoOD? Similar in a lot of ways - I was definitely 'not alone' in my experiences although the details may have differed - the themes/flavours were kinda universal. On a serious note - it was a factor when deciding when I needed a break - just seeing so much negativity directed towards women, and the assumptions men would make, and the lies and distrust.... and I'm sitting here just wanting a decent human to build blanket forts with & watch crap on TV (but also gets that I have hobbies and will nerd out on them).

 

[disneychrista]

I used to have a friend that divorced his wife and that is how they were. He said when they weren't ---- she was a real b----, and they tried to do ---- all the time, but they couldn't. Fortunately, I don't think they had any kids.

How do you get to the point of marriage if all the relationship has going for it is sex?

 

[shawthorne44]

How do you get to the point of marriage if all the relationship has going for it is sex?

Not saying it was a good idea. I asked him the same question, and the answer was "Well, it really, really, really good."
(Bad) marriages have been based on less.

 

[tasha99]

Saw a profile last night that the guy didn't even have one picture of his face, only one picture and it was a back/side view.
But I saw him list some initials about his personality type and then FWB and it took me a bit to remember that was "friends with benefits".
Well, at least he's honest. But I wonder how many women really go for that.

My first OKCupid date was a guy who had listed himself as "Available." I didn't realize that was different from "Single." His wife dropped him off at the bar we met at, told me it was fine with her that he was dating, and went to watch her friend who was in a local lesbian choir practice. She then came and picked hm up an hour later. I get it--they didn't want to divorce after years of being together, and I'm pretty sure she wasn't straight. But that wasn't what I was looking for.

 

[Mackenzie Click-Mickelson]

My first OKCupid date was a guy who had listed himself as "Available." I didn't realize that was different from "Single." His wife dropped him off at the bar we met at, told me it was fine with her that he was dating, and went to watch her friend who was in a local lesbian choir practice. She then came and picked hm up an hour later. I get it--they didn't want to divorce after years of being together, and I'm pretty sure she wasn't straight. But that wasn't what I was looking for.

That's where he should have described himself as being in an open marriage. At least then you would know 1) He's married 2) They are still together but have an arrangement where each are able to see other people 3) If you even wanted to get involved in something like that.

 

[ronandannette]

How do you get to the point of marriage if all the relationship has going for it is sex?

I've known several women over the years who equate sex with love and once the couple have been intimate, they press for a commitment. It's kind of sad to me, but it is definitely a thing that happens.

 

[disneychrista]

I've known several women over the years who equate sex with love and once the couple have been intimate, they press for a commitment. It's kind of sad to me, but it is definitely a thing that happens.

That is actually a biological response to sex/orgasm for woman.

 

[Buzz Rules]

I've known several women over the years who equate sex with love and once the couple have been intimate, they press for a commitment. It's kind of sad to me, but it is definitely a thing that happens.

Part of the reason why the Catholic Church says no sex before marriage…..

 

[ronandannette]

That is actually a biological response to sex/orgasm for woman.

Then I guess you knew the answer to your own question before you asked it.

 

[disneychrista]

Then I guess you knew the answer to your own question before you asked it.

Not really. I still don't understand how a couple with nothing but great sex could get to the point of marriage. Having feelings of love (for the woman) doesn't explain it to me, the same is not true of men.

 

[limace]

People get married for all sorts of reasons, many ill-advised. Why would this be any different...

 

[Buzz Rules]

Does anyone know of a classic drunk Las Vegas wedding not ending in divorce (besides Hollywood movies)?

 

[fla4fun]

Does anyone know of a classic drunk Las Vegas wedding not ending in divorce (besides Hollywood movies)?

Yes, one. They were married for close to twenty years until the wife passed away from kidney disease. They were both kind of odd ducks though, so they were a good match.