Online Dating

[Welsh_Dragon]

My daughter, 26, is on a first meet Tinder date tonight. She is very beautiful (inside and out), not that I am biased at all , but she works very long hours in an all girls boarding school in England. During term time she has one and a half days off a week and only two hours ‘protected’ off duty time in a 24 hour day. Not much time for dating! It’s a residential post, accommodation is provided and she is required to ‘live in’ during term time. Quite rightly, any one she chooses to invite to the school accommodation has to be DBS (police criminal record) checked …. not really a great first date conversation opener. Add to that the fact that she likes to return to Wales during holidays, it doesn’t make dating easy. This chap looks ‘ordinary’, and I mean that in a good way. His personality, interests etc., seem to be her type on the app, so she has a fun evening. He lives about midway between her home with me and her school home, and they are meeting at a pub half way between his home and my home tonight.

 

[Buzz Rules]

Yes, one. They were married for close to twenty years until the wife passed away from kidney disease. They were both kind of odd ducks though, so they were a good match.

Were they complete strangers or just friends? Was it a complete random decision? Genuinely curious.

 

[disneychrista]

My daughter, 26, is on a first meet Tinder date tonight. She is very beautiful (inside and out), not that I am biased at all , but she works very long hours in an all girls boarding school in England. During term time she has one and a half days off a week and only two hours ‘protected’ off duty time in a 24 hour day. Not much time for dating! It’s a residential post, accommodation is provided and she is required to ‘live in’ during term time. Quite rightly, any one she chooses to invite to the school accommodation has to be DBS (police criminal record) checked …. not really a great first date conversation opener. Add to that the fact that she likes to return to Wales during holidays, it doesn’t make dating easy. This chap looks ‘ordinary’, and I mean that in a good way. His personality, interests etc., seem to be her type on the app, so she has a fun evening. He lives about midway between her home with me and her school home, and they are meeting at a pub half way between his home and my home tonight.

Good luck to her. I’ve discovered no matter the circumstances dating is hard.

 

[Skywalker]

Does anyone know of a classic drunk Las Vegas wedding not ending in divorce (besides Hollywood movies)?

I had a new co-worker start work in August, by September she agreed to a friendly weekend in Las Vegas with a guy we worked with, they had a shared love of gambling and Elvis, but they were each already in relationships.

Sure enough they came back married!!! The pictures are hilarious.

To their credit, they actually lasted for 3 years!!

 

[fla4fun]

Were they complete strangers or just friends? Was it a complete random decision? Genuinely curious.

Friends, random decision. I guess the feelings ran deeper than they realized.

 

[Buzz Rules]

Friends, random decision. I guess the feelings ran deeper than they realized.

I wonder how many people would do that when given the opportunity between friends and just say “hey you want to get randomly married?”. But it’s very sweet how it turned out for them. It’s sad that it couldn’t have lasted longer though.

 

[disneychrista]

I wonder how many people would do that when given the opportunity between friends and just say “hey you want to get randomly married?”. But it’s very sweet how it turned out for them. It’s sad that it couldn’t have lasted longer though.

I think friends might make the best long term partners.

 

[disneychrista]

I guess I should give an update on what I am now referring to as the failed experiment.

I have hidden my profile on POF (though I am told it is still showing up) and have deleted the app, as of yesterday. I had stopped reaching out to guys about a week - 10 days ago. I just can't do it anymore, right now. There are things I have to work on with myself before I can continue this journey. We will see, maybe in a few months I will give it another shot.

I did have a second casual date with one guy on Tuesday but I am not expecting anything much to come of it. He says he just isn't sure (what he wants) and he is "taking things slow." But in reality I am thinking he is just wanting to keep his options open in case someone better comes along (I can tell him that isn't going to happen.)

There is also another guy who says he wants to meet but he has been sick (or so he says). I have little hope that we will ever meet. But he has my cell # and stranger things have been known to happen.

I am glad I took this chance. I did have fun for awhile. I have learned some things about myself, guys, dating, etc. So when/if I do this again I will be in a much better place.

 

[White Cat]

Richard Cooper would have fun with this thread.

 

[disneychrista]

Richard Cooper would have fun with this thread.

Who?

 

[TippyThomas]

Richard Cooper would have fun with this thread.

Somehow I'm not surprised you know Rich Cooper so well.

 

[ronandannette]

Who?

Not sure if this is the guy but it's the first thing that came up when I googled. I don't quite understand what the connection is.
https://clarity.fm/richardcooper

 

[Rick195275]

Not sure if this is the guy but it's the first thing that came up when I googled. I don't quite understand what the connection is.
https://clarity.fm/richardcooper

No clue either, but people pay him $33.33 a min to speak with him apparently. So for the low price of about 2k we could pay him for an hour of his time and analysis ¯\_(ツ)_/¯

 

[ronandannette]

"Rick195275, post: 63203521, member: 625414"]
No clue eith[/B]er, but people pay him $33.33 a min to speak with him apparently. So for the low price of about 2k we could pay him for an hour of his time and analysis ¯\_(ツ)_/¯

I guess if we all chipped in...but which one of us weirdos would we get him to fix?

 

[disneychrista]

I guess if we all chipped in...but which one of us weirdos would we get him to fix?

Me, of course. Since I started this thread.

 

[Welsh_Dragon]

Me, of course. Since I started this thread.

I think that you have been incredibly brave re entering the modern dating game with all that entails. Thank you for sharing your experiences. We have laughed and sighed in exasperation with you.

 

[Scouter]

You don't you don't have to stop looking unless it was making you crazy. I'm not sure I'm really ready or not at all, but I just keep browsing daily on Bumble and Hinge. I'm not actively seeking or hoping for anything but I still look anyway.
Sadly, I had more people I would match with near my son's home area, NH and MA, than around the NY area I'm in. So when I visited him, and Bumble would show people in my area even if it
wasn't near my actual home, (I haven't tried to figure out how to shut that off or if it can at all). But I felt like I'd do better if I moved.
Which I will eventually anyway as NY is not the best place to retire in.

 

[disneychrista]

You don't you don't have to stop looking unless it was making you crazy. I'm not sure I'm really ready or not at all, but I just keep browsing daily on Bumble and Hinge. I'm not actively seeking or hoping for anything but I still look anyway.

The endless cycle of getting to know someone, plan to meet, getting my hopes up and then having it end in a cancellation is more than I can take emotionally right now. I AM ready, ready to find “the one.” I am NOT ready for the games. I was ill prepared for how the “rejection” of someone I barely know would effect me. Like I said I need to work on a few things. I’ve struggled with mild depression for years and this has been a big trigger for me. I’ve fought against taking antidepressants but in this summer of doing I have an appointment to talk to my doctor about it. So maybe in a few months I’ll be in a better place to handle the ups and downs of finding “the one.”

 

[shawthorne44]

One thing you might consider, is to have an active account but not to reach out to anyone. Consider it halfway in. Not right now, you sound like you need a break. The advantage is that someone that reaches out to you has at least shown active interest. So, less likely to fade out.

 

[Scouter]

The endless cycle of getting to know someone, plan to meet, getting my hopes up and then having it end in a cancellation is more than I can take emotionally right now. I AM ready, ready to find “the one.” I am NOT ready for the games. I was ill prepared for how the “rejection” of someone I barely know would effect me. Like I said I need to work on a few things. I’ve struggled with mild depression for years and this has been a big trigger for me. I’ve fought against taking antidepressants but in this summer of doing I have an appointment to talk to my doctor about it. So maybe in a few months I’ll be in a better place to handle the ups and downs of finding “the one.”

Me too! I've dealt with depression for over 20 years. Been on and off many drugs.
It's mild now but probably because I'm on something.
Here's my best tip-
Wellbutrin (Bupropion) has been my best choice over the years. It's the mildest of antidepressants, so doesn't do the most good for major depression, but the only
one I know of that you lose weight as a side effect!
No drowsiness, although, it can be hard to sleep in the beginning on it. It's a stimulant.
And it doesn't have sexual side effects either.