One year later

[WebmasterMaryJo]

My mom passed away in '95 and is buried at Calvary Cemetery - about 1/2 hour from me. I've probably visited her grave about a handful of times. I just don't feel that she is there. I think of her often, especially on rainy days and Christmas since she was all about those. My dad just passed away in El Paso on 11/26 last year, and he wanted to be cremated and his ashes spread here in California at our home. I haven't done that yet, and his remains are here in the house. I don't think of those as my dad. I remember the last real time I spent with him, and the last days when I was with him. I'm still really mourning my dad, but his remains don't affect me (if that makes any sense).

However, I respect the people who do want to go to graves, and if a friend or family member wanted to go, I would go with them for comfort.

 

[2sweetangels]

I lost my mom one year ago today, January 8, 2005.

I haven't been to the cemetary once since the funeral. Granted it is 2 hours away but I have no desire to go. My DH has offered many times to take me, two of my brothers who live by me have offered and even two of my kids DD25 and DS23 have went. I have one brother who lives down there so I know everything is well taken care of.

I think my one brother is a little upset with me he wanted me to go with him today. I told him I had to work but I would think about it. I could very easily have gotten off work but I chose not to.

Is this normal, cemetaries don't bother me at all.

I think in a way this year is going to be harder, I feel that my mom is getting farther away.

mom, I am sitting here reading your thread about gramma and i am in tears. At first I didn't realize what date it was untill I looked at the clock on my computer, then I busted in tears and Tim didn't understand why untill I told him what today was. Seeing gramma's grave on Christams day was alot easier then if I were to go see her today. I miss gramma so much. On New Year's Eve, I was really sad because I used to spend the night with gramma on New Year's Eve, the last time I was there was New year's eve when I was 9 months pregnant with Katelyn. I can't believe its been 1 year since she passed. I want her back, I wasn't ready for her to leave us, I still need her here. I sound selffish but I want a chance to say good-bye to her.