Okay...I've Called the Late Night DISers, Now I'm Calling the Single DISers (Part 2)

[SyracuseWolvrine]

Originally posted by floridaminnie
?'s for you guys. I was reading one of my e-mails and was wondering is their really such a thing as true love? I go back in forth, but since I haven't experienced it I don't know.

I don't know for sure, but I believe that there is. I don't know how to describe it, but I guess it's like a feeling that you'll be together no matter what. I have a friend whos GF broke up with him, early in the relationship. 2 days later, they were back together, because they both realized they wanted the relationship, more than anything else, and that they would rather work past the minor disagreement rather than lose the other. I'd say that's true love.

 

[Serena]

Suzanne, I agree, I think it does exist. I also think it exists at different levels and with more than one person. I think it's too big of a coincidence to think that the one we were meant for happens to be in your neck of the woods.
There are couples that I see or hear about that are thrilled to be together no matter what. I'd like that for myself.

 

[Costumesaremylife]

True Love. I think it exists. I see it in my aunt and uncle who met at a USO dance and have been together forever. Their daughter (my cousin) and her husband are the same way. Met as kids and married at 20. They aren't perfect or anything, still they are the way I want to be when I get married. My parents are still married, and still love each other. Unfortunately due to my dad's stroke his personality is hard to deal with, so we all have a hard time getting along with him. I'm still hoping that true love exists.

My life is kind of a bummer right now, I owe $1,000 to the credit card company because I broke my dumb tooth. I have been working steady since February, but still I am trying to catch up from not working November-January. I have work lined up until The end of june so hopefully I won't have to use my disney money for dental work!

I hope everyone is doing well! Sounds like major uprooting and life contemplation is going on. Is this board having a collective mid life crisis?

The artist formerly known as SuprGro78

 

[DocRafiki]

Collective mid-life crisis? LOL! Well I will join in. I quit my "freelance" job or whatever you want to call it today. I've been working at another clinic once weekly for about 5 weeks now... DOING THEM A FAVOR because they lost BOTH of their doctors and would have to shut down if they didn't find someone (driving an hour each way + tolls + getting up 4 hours earlier than I do at my normal job). Well today I got some attitude from the hospital director that was the LAST STRAW (there were a few; I counted them) and told her that I would NOT be coming back. Ooh yeah. Feels good. Have I mentioned I love my boss?

Ah, the drama. And the poor people who go to that clinic.

 

[mickeysdsnyprncs]

PW: and You seem like you need it.

FL : True Love.... yeah i think it is out there somewhere. I also think that you can have it with more that one person but not at the same time. i think that PW had True love, (without trying to upset anyone.) And I think that she will find it again someday.

Costume: Singing the same song as me: "I owe, I owe"

As for me..... i am going to go talk to my ex tomorrow. Been thinking about him a lot lately. And why i left. The only thing I came up with is taht i was scared. i was about to move in with him and if I would've stayed, i would probably be planning a wedding, I just wasn't ready for that yet. Still not ready to marry yet. One good thing that came from me leaving is that I am going back to school. YAY! I am happy about that. And the disney thing that is a great thing. I know I said I didn't want to start anything before I left but I can't get him outta my head. We shall see what comes out of this after tomorrow.

Goodnight all.

 

[Pin Wizard]

True love...absolutely! My question is why are some people able to be with that person and others aren't. Why might one person feel that way while the other doesn't. And maybe the other does but it's not discussed. I don't like assuming that someone feels something, so I don't. Sheesh! I could go on for days with the questions! I'll force myself to stop here with them.

 

[Pin Wizard]

Thanks, MDP...I'll take the and the .

Collective midlife crisis...LOL! I'm starting to think that when we approach "that age" we realize what's truly important and want to obtain that...for the women. The men? I think they want to be kids again. LOL! DHT is a prime example...rides his Harley. And one day he said he wore his Harley jacket...for me! Yeah, right! LOL! They can be too funny.

In my book, love sucks. If you're able to be with the person you feel that about, it's wonderful! But when you can't, it can be absolute torture. Double edged sword it seems. So, you keep looking hoping to find it in someone else. What a chore! LOL! It shouldn't be a chore to find ANOTHER "right" person. I'm not convinced that you can have it with more than one. I do believe we can feel or think that we have it with someone and can go through years with them. But when the right one appears, you might realize that no one before was actually "the one." Interesting. How easily we can get it wrong without even realizing it. Hmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm... Just my opinion. And what if you can't get together with that person! Do you keep looking for someone else hoping to get that same realization and feeling? Is it even possible to come close to it. Ha! I have a zillion more questions. Love should be easier. I'm truly envious of those that have it!! It's too elusive for me.

 

[floridaminnie]

It's too elusive for me.

Your telling me!

 

[floridaminnie]

I'm still doing eharmony and I've been talking to an Engineer from St. Pete (very near to where I live). We've seem to "click" so far and I've seen his picture. The only prob I see so far is that he has the same same as my brother. That could be intereseting.

 

[legs22]

Thanks for all your replies. I still don't know what my answer is And I need to call the man today. It is a drop in benefits also. Both have a 401K but new position doesn't have a pension. My health insur. now is $50 every 2 weeks for both of us and would go up to $113 for just dd (mine would be free). Dental would go from $7 every 2 weeks to $30 every 2 weeks. I'm just afraid I would jeopardize myself down the road financially and end up like my mother. My exH thinks I would be crazy to accept the new position. But there is another side to the coin. I'm just not sure how secure my current position really is. If we don't meet accreditation (would be due in part to my dept.), I imagine that would be the end of our jobs. We need to meet certain numbers by Sept. and it is now April and we are not on track to meet this goal. I feel like I should get out now.
It all boils down to one thing- FEAR. My life is ruled by fear. Fear if I stay, fear if I go.

 

[floridaminnie]

When I changed jobs to my current job my insurance for Brianna went through the roof since they pay all of mine, but none of hers. But I am MUCH happier in my current job than in my old job.

 

[Pin Wizard]

Good luck with the engineer, Suzanne! My dad was an engineer...smart guy...AND had common sense! I don't know if I could date someone with the same name as a brother. LOL! But I guess I could overcome it if I really liked the guy.

Legs...Your company is really in jeopardy of losing accreditation? YIKES! You're right...might not be there long if they don't get it. I think you're smart for looking for something else. I used to HATE when JCAHO came to the hospital.
Every three years, everyone in our department would say...I'm NOT going to be here for the next one! LOL! What a pain in the neck. Of course, my finicky boss didn't help...pull all the licenses, DEAs, and insurance copies OUT of the docs files and put in binders. A year later...take them out of the binders and put them back in the files. Aaaauugghh! We had 630 docs on staff!!! And that was just the beginning. LOL! The memory is enough to keep me from applying at a hospital here in VA! LOL!

I know I'm going backward job wise also. That's unsettling, I agree. I know people told me...make a list and weigh the pros and cons of relocating. I'm not one to do that! I go with my gut instinct for everything. It hasn't failed me yet. When I stop and think about something too long, I know it's not for me. Hmmm... It would be nice for you to be near your family. And someone else mentioned that you could take this job and keep looking for something better. That's true! And that may be what I end up doing also!!! Good luck with your decision.

 

[legs22]

No, it's not the JCAHO accreditation. We passed that with one of the highest scores ever. This one is just for our center that is part of the hospital.
Well, I called and left a message that I WAS interested in the job!!!
I think I am going with my gut too. When I think too much about it my head takes over and says "are you crazy?"
I called my insurance co.- these are just approximations now- home insurance would be HALF ($900 less per year) of what it is here and car insurance would be $600 less a year. My exH could add dd to his health policy for $75/mo. instead of me paying $226/mo. The insurance agent did ask where dd would live and where he lived so I don't think coverage would be a problem if they lived in different counties.

 

[mickeysdsnyprncs]

Legs: I was always on my dads insurance and we didn't live in the same county. In fact i might be on my mom's when i go to FL, we are trying, right now i have my own through work. I have good insurance but I have to take a leave of asbsence to go to FL. If I stay in FL I will transfer and keep everything I have already or if i come back I can go back to the store I was at or pick another one I have worked at 3 locations of the same company, I think I figured out how to do it now. The job thing I am still with GO FOR IT!! Maybe I'm but I think a new job, new start by family would be nice. Good luck with it though!

FL : Good luck with the e guy. My Aunt is marrying a guy with the same name as one of her brothers kinda funny. Makes the holidays intersting. She also dated a guy with the same name as her father.

WELCOME TO THE SINGLES THREAD SW!!!
Aren't you going to the WDWCP?

Well I am off to start my adventure for the day. Now I am getting nervous, which isn't good because I get sick when I am nervous. I just have to tell myself, "Calm down everything will be alright" and take som meds and I should be fine.

Talk to you all later.

 

[Serena]

Legs, my girls are on their dad's insurance and they aren't in the same county either.
The new informations sounds great. I really don't know you, but I think you sound happier when you talk about going home. Good luck, it will work out.

Good luck to you PW too.

MDP, I hope today is a good one.

 

[legs22]

I haven't heard back from the interview guy yet.
ACK!! I was just thinking of the message I left and I said I interviewed this past Friday- but it was actually on Monday!

 

[legs22]

He just called!!! He said that he and the doctor liked me! He said the other nurse (there will be 2 at the center) chose to start now instead of July. This is what I prayed for so dd would finish the school year here, be able to be in her dance recital in June, and give me time to get things together. BUT the position will still be open for a little while because of a company requirement since the position wouldn't start until July. So they could still interview others. ACK! He said they would decide and call at the beginning of May but right now I am their top choice! So one month to wait. Another thing I prayed about was them starting me at the very top end of the starting salary range. He said he discussed this with the doctor and with my experience they said I should start at the top end. Things are looking up!

 

[DocRafiki]

Funny article for those of you who are feeling a little left-out by all of your married friends...

Area Man Excited Friend is Getting Divorce

 

[legs22]

I now have high speed internet and cable and I am lovin' it

I figured if I finally got high speed, cable, and the newspaper delivered then I would end up getting a job and moving. And you know what? It's working.

Just to clarify- the top end of the pay scale is still the $6/hr. pay cut, but I can live on that. But I had made up my mind that I wouldn't go any lower. I was happy to get what I wanted.
I did feel really good inside driving home from work today. I felt like I could jump 100 ft. in the air.

 

[house_of_princesses]

If I may add my two cents.....

I believe true love is born out of a committment two people make to each other. A committment to ChOOsE to love that person every day, 'til death do you part. True love happens after the fire works fizzle out, the heart doesn't pound as fast when the phone rings. Then, you chose to love that person and loe and behold, there goes another round of fireworks. Loving relationships take work, and when you look for No reward, your heart soars the higher for the joy you give the other. Joy given in a hug, a morning paper brought to the bed, an unexpected meeting in the shower, offering to do that task even though it's your worst nightmare.

Love is in the committment to give freely of yourself without ever being asked to.....and doing it with a gracious heart.


Here ends the reading of HOP. Thanks for listening!