My 13DD soon to be 14 has had problems in school with behavior since forever. Now she goes to the boys and girls club afterschool and gets in trouble there as well. Last year she got kicked out the the "gifted" program due to her behavior. She has even been suspended for it. Nothing extreme, talks all through class, passes notes, doesn't listen to the teacher, etc, getting caught with things she shouldn't have(gameboy, candy. etc) swearing. So, it's enough to frustrate the teachers and frustrate me. She always has to be told to do everything at home which I know is normal for that age range.
We have a trip scheduled for the week of 4/16 to WDW. On Tuesday, I pick her up and she tells me non chalantly that the Asst. Principal wants me to call him and she can't go back to school until I do. The most frustrating part is that she always blames someone else, another student, a friend, the teacher. She never does wrong. So when I ask her why she is in trouble she tells me, the teacher exaggerated and she did more than she did. Anyway, the next day there was no school. So, yesterday I left her home and called the school, the Asst. never returned my call. Last night I am venting to my Husband (her step-father and a teacher) and he says they can't legally tell her she can't come back to school with giving you written documentation and letting you know why. SO, this morning, I wake her up and ask her to tell me exactly what she was told. She mumbles something and proceeds to go to her room and return with a note stating she has been suspended until I return to the school with her. It says, she has been told repeatedly to stop talking in class, stop passing notes and candy and to pay attention. It also says she has had numerous detentions (none of which I knew about), had her seat moved and talked to several times. The only thing she says in her defense is that it was a mint, not candy. I flipped and that's when I told her she was going to be spending April vacation with her dad instead of going with us.
I wrote all that to ask if that is too harsh a punishment? I am at my wits end but have mixed feeling about her mssing the family trip. I also have two younger dd's 2 and 4 also! Now, I also feel like I have to put up or shut up!
We have a trip scheduled for the week of 4/16 to WDW. On Tuesday, I pick her up and she tells me non chalantly that the Asst. Principal wants me to call him and she can't go back to school until I do. The most frustrating part is that she always blames someone else, another student, a friend, the teacher. She never does wrong. So when I ask her why she is in trouble she tells me, the teacher exaggerated and she did more than she did. Anyway, the next day there was no school. So, yesterday I left her home and called the school, the Asst. never returned my call. Last night I am venting to my Husband (her step-father and a teacher) and he says they can't legally tell her she can't come back to school with giving you written documentation and letting you know why. SO, this morning, I wake her up and ask her to tell me exactly what she was told. She mumbles something and proceeds to go to her room and return with a note stating she has been suspended until I return to the school with her. It says, she has been told repeatedly to stop talking in class, stop passing notes and candy and to pay attention. It also says she has had numerous detentions (none of which I knew about), had her seat moved and talked to several times. The only thing she says in her defense is that it was a mint, not candy. I flipped and that's when I told her she was going to be spending April vacation with her dad instead of going with us.
I wrote all that to ask if that is too harsh a punishment? I am at my wits end but have mixed feeling about her mssing the family trip. I also have two younger dd's 2 and 4 also! Now, I also feel like I have to put up or shut up!
If I told her she wasn't going as a punishment I don't think she would mind much.
