Nose rings

[ols386]

If someone wants to have tatoos or body piercings, obviously it's their right, but I have to admit, if a waiter or waitress in a restaurant has their nose pierced, for example, for me personally, it's gross. I wouldn't get up and walk out or ask for another server if they had a nose-piercing, but for me, it looks gross.

 

[ols386]

The problem isn't with me it's with society. It's really sad that there are those in society who automatically judge people because of a certain way they look. I didn't care what society thought of me when I got my tattoos because I got them for me not for anybody else. Shouldn't people be teaching their children to not judge people based upon how they look? My parents sure did and I grew up to be a better person for it.

Yes, people should be teaching their children to not judge people based upon how they look, but that's not the world we live in. We all judge others to a certain degree...some more than others, but we all do it.

 

[Disney Doll]

Yes, people should be teaching their children to not judge people based upon how they look, but that's not the world we live in. We all judge others to a certain degree...some more than others, but we all do it.

So true. Even though who vehemently claim not to be judgemental are judgemental about things...perhaps the things they are judgemental differ from the "norm" but human nature is such that we are constantly making judgements...consciously or unconsciously.

Think about this...you're walking down a dark street and walking in your direction is a person. You immediately, consciously or unconsciously, start to "judge"...is this person dangerous to me or are they just walking their dog?, is their dog a danger to me?, should I cross the street to avoid this person?, should I attempt to go into that store over there till the person passes?.These things generally happen in a split second, but they are all judgements. And they are judgements based on what we perceive...large man walking down the street with ferocious looking dog is going to be judged as more dangerous than a petite woman walking down the street with a toy poodle.

The issue isn't about judging so much as it is about correctly judging.

 

[ols386]

So true. Even though who vehemently claim not to be judgemental are judgemental about things...perhaps the things they are judgemental differ from the "norm" but human nature is such that we are constantly making judgements...consciously or unconsciously.

Think about this...you're walking down a dark street and walking in your direction is a person. You immediately, consciously or unconsciously, start to "judge"...is this person dangerous to me or are they just walking their dog?, is their dog a danger to me?, should I cross the street to avoid this person?, should I attempt to go into that store over there till the person passes?.These things generally happen in a split second, but they are all judgements. And they are judgements based on what we perceive...large man walking down the street with ferocious looking dog is going to be judged as more dangerous than a petite woman walking down the street with a toy poodle.

The issue isn't about judging so much as it is about correctly judging.

Very true.

 

[PatsMom]

Intellectually I could care less about what a person chooses to do as far as piercings and tattoos. My step-daughter and her husband actually own a tattoo and body piercing shop an made a pretty good living (pre-recession). I like most tattoos.

Piercings are a different story. When I look at people with facial piercings it makes my face hurt! I prefer not to have my food served to me by anyone with facial piercings for that reason. I am surprised that restaurants hire servers with piercings. DD works in a restaurant and they have very strict rules about visible piercings.

 

[dismom2]

It doesn't really bother me, but I always wonder how a person can blow thier nose when the back of the earring (unless it's a loop) is blocking a good portion of thier nostril---you know? Not to be graphic, but sometimes when you blow, things have to come out--- how does it come out, and does it get stuck all over the earring back? Just one of those things I always wondered about.

 

[Kathi OD]

It doesn't really bother me, but I always wonder how a person can blow thier nose when the back of the earring (unless it's a loop) is blocking a good portion of thier nostril---you know? Not to be graphic, but sometimes when you blow, things have to come out--- how does it come out, and does it get stuck all over the earring back? Just one of those things I always wondered about.

You have waaaay too much time on your hands if you've really given that much thought....well unless you're contemplating a nose ring.

 

[NotUrsula]

I can generally look past it unless the person's hygiene is otherwise unfortunate. However, I did once have an instance of giving up patronizing a shop because of piercings.

DS was afraid of getting his hair cut when he was little; really terrified. We had to sit in the chair and put him in a wrestling hold to get him still enough. We finally had found a stylist that did a decent job and gave him his space, where he was relaxing a bit and managing to be brave.

That all ended when he was about 6 and the shop hired a new stylist with multiple facial piercings. The metal in that woman's face scared the bejeezus out of DS, and he refused to ever enter the shop again after he saw it -- he was afraid that someone there might do that to him, too. No amount of explanation would calm his fears, so we had to find a new shop to patronize. The stylist we used lost two clients (DS & DH) because of what his colleague had chosen to do to her own face.

 

[ckay87]

My mind works a little differently I guess. I agree that a person can't change the way they *feel.* And if a person finds some kind of piercing yucky, that can't be changed. However when I see some style that bothers me...and it happens (I have trouble with the ear gauges), I might think "yuck." I then might be tempted to make a judgement, but then.....here's the key....I stop and correct myself.

Had I seen the waitress with that piercing and had I thought "yuck" and if I had even considered not to patronize that business again because of it, there would be a voice in my head that would correct me. It would say "no, ckay, you are being silly. Her nose ring does not impact her ability to serve or the quality of food here." The little voice comes in handy.

 

[Magic Mom]

My mind works a little differently I guess. I agree that a person can't change the way they *feel.* And if a person finds some kind of piercing yucky, that can't be changed. However when I see some style that bothers me...and it happens (I have trouble with the ear gauges), I might think "yuck." I then might be tempted to make a judgement, but then.....here's the key....I stop and correct myself.

Had I seen the waitress with that piercing and had I thought "yuck" and if I had even considered not to patronize that business again because of it, there would be a voice in my head that would correct me. It would say "no, ckay, you are being silly. Her nose ring does not impact her ability to serve or the quality of food here." The little voice comes in handy.

There is a huge difference between seeing a peircing as gross or unattractive, and judging what kind of person he/she is. I found my waitress's nose ring (or more specifically the back of the nose ring,) gross. But that doesn't mean I was judging her as a person.

 

[PatsMom]

My mind works a little differently I guess. I agree that a person can't change the way they *feel.* And if a person finds some kind of piercing yucky, that can't be changed. However when I see some style that bothers me...and it happens (I have trouble with the ear gauges), I might think "yuck." I then might be tempted to make a judgement, but then.....here's the key....I stop and correct myself.

Had I seen the waitress with that piercing and had I thought "yuck" and if I had even considered not to patronize that business again because of it, there would be a voice in my head that would correct me. It would say "no, ckay, you are being silly. Her nose ring does not impact her ability to serve or the quality of food here." The little voice comes in handy.

I don't make judgments - but I don't eat there either. Hard to eat when you stomach is queasy. The facial piercings are fine to do but if I prefer not to look at them while I eat, I don't think that is judgemental at all. I am not saying that the pierced person is bad, I am just saying looking at them makes my face hurt! And that in turn upsets my stomach and I don't feel like eating.

My little voice would be telling me "you are crazy to spend money to eat while nauseated".

 

[dismom2]

You have waaaay too much time on your hands if you've really given that much thought....well unless you're contemplating a nose ring.

I have too much time on my hands if I am curious about something? Everybody on this planet is curious about a million different things---little silly things and bigger things. It's part of human nature
Not like I sit here all the time wondering if it's hard for a person with a nose piercing to blow thier nose, but when this thread came up, I thought I would throw that out there because the question has crossed my mind a couple of times. Maybe I am thinking about getting one and want all the facts first. I suppose the next time you are curious about something it really means that you have too much time on your hands (according to your logic), and all these people on the Dis who are asking questions, making comments and discussing anything and everything, they must all have too much time on thier hands, too? It was a legitimate question.

 

[Kathi OD]

I have too much time on my hands if I am curious about something? Everybody on this planet is curious about a million different things---little silly things and bigger things. It's part of human nature
Not like I sit here all the time wondering if it's hard for a person with a nose piercing to blow thier nose, but when this thread came up, I thought I would throw that out there because the question has crossed my mind a couple of times. Maybe I am thinking about getting one and want all the facts first. I suppose the next time you are curious about something it really means that you have too much time on your hands (according to your logic), and all these people on the Dis who are asking questions, making comments and discussing anything and everything, they must all have too much time on thier hands, too? It was a legitimate question.

The laughing guys were meant to show that I wasn't being all that serious. Sheesh, sorry to be lighthearted!

 

[Handbag Lady]

If I choose not to patronize a restaurant because I think the servers are gross, that's my business.

Amen.


I HATE it when my servers have big honking things sticking out of their faces and/or noses. It makes me lose my appetite.

And I have 10 piercings myself (not on my face).

It just grosses me out, like the OP, when you can see the things inside the nostrils. I usually just kindly ask the manager to move us or we just make up some excuse and leave.

I suppose, just as they have the right to wear their piercings, I have the right to not patronize an establishment.

 

[Bob NC]

Ok, a bagger at my grocery had those BIG holes in his earlobes. Being the total piercing **** that I am I thought they were mirrored earrings, yes I'm a nitwit. The day I realized I could actually SEE thru the 1 inch holes in his earlobes was a delight. When I realized they were holes I couldn't stop looking at them. I could see people walking by THRU his earlobes. Well, my eyes suddenly meet his and he says, "What you looking at?".....My response? "Don't EVEN tell me you did that to your face and you don't want people looking at you."

 

[NEVERENOUGHWDW]

Gag!
We went to dinner tonight, and as the waitress was telling us the specials, it was hard not to notice the big booger in her nose. It was making me sick. Then it caught the light and I realized it was the back to her nose ring. WTH! That is just so gross. I don't care what it is, I don't want to have to see things hanging out of my waitress's nose.

IMHO nose rings = yuck!