No baby . . .

[Planogirl]

I'm so very sorry that you are going through this. Whatever happens be kind to yourself and lean on those that can help.

{{{{{Hugs}}}}}

 

[bsnyder]

GEM, sending you huge hugs and many prayers!

 

[adamak]

Be strong. Stay calm. No matter what happened, please do not get too depressed over it. You never know.

Things happen for a reason. There must be a bigger plan.

Most of all, be informative. My friend lost her 2 babies, and nearly lost her 3rd. Luckily, she researches over the internet, and understand all the symptons, and be proactive. Now she has this healthy 3 year old who is stronger than any kid I know.

You never know. We're with you.

 

[Deb in IA]

Very sorry regarding your loss.

My sister also lost a baby a year and a half ago. It was, and still is, very difficult for her to talk about it.

Yes, you are right in mourning your baby. It WAS a baby, with hopes and dreams for the future. And with time, the hurt will ease. But you will never forget your first "baby".

 

[RNMOM]

Gem, I am so sorry you and your DH are having to go through this. Love comes so easily with the idea of a child.

I know it is hard, we are here for you.

 

[shep]

(((hugs)))
Sorry for your loss...

 

[JohnTBap]

My thoughts and prayers are with you at this very difficult time.

 

[KimRaye]

TAKE time to deal with it on our own, as you see fit and are able to. I'm very sorry. There were many others here who shared their experiences and, I hope, helped you in some way. ALL of you needed this. Thank you all for sharing and, I'm really very saddened about all your losses. {{HUGS}}

 

[tiggerlover]

GEM, I just wanted to add my {{HUGS}} and prayers for you during this most difficult time. I have been there too and know the raw emotions you are feeling. From the moment the pregnancy test comes back positive the love begins, and I am sorry your doctor was so incensitive to your feelings. You are not a failure, because you did nothing to cause your current condition, I know there are a lot of "what if I did this or what if I did that", but it simply was nothing you did. However, from reading some of the other posts here it looks like there could be hope, don't give up the hope and we will all think good thoughts for you.

In the event the worst does become a reality, allow yourself to grieve and ignore the ignorant people who sometimes say hurtful things (simply because they don't know). When I lost my baby I grieved like I lost my best friend for a very long time, people didn't understand and they were cruel because they would say it isn't like there ever was a baby it was just a bunch of cells and I should just get over it. This was hurtful because I was emotionally connected to this child, and yes empty sack or deformed fetus, to me and my husband there was a child.

As far as treatment in my case, the doctor sent me home to wait it out and I miscarried completely on my own a day or two after I started bleeding, so no other procedure was necessary.

You are in my thoughts and prayers, I pray for the best for you and your baby.

{{{HUGS}}}

Debbi

 

[lvs_eeyore]

((((((((GEM)))))))))) You will be in my thoughts and in my prayers.

 

[dianeschlicht]

(((((((hugs))))))), and prayers for you and DH.

 

[Miss Jasmine]

GEM, You and your DH are in my thoughts and prayers. {{{HUGS}}}

 

[becka]

{{hugs}} and prayers for you and your DH Gem.

 

[CathyCanada]

Hugs to you GEM, I am so sorry.
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[Rock'n Robin]

Gem I am so sorry. I lost my first baby at about 12 weeks, although it was definately a baby, it was just not living inside. I am praying that you get one of the miracles some of the posters have gotten. If not, I also hope you have a quick recovery. I later had 3 beautiful babies, but still feel the pain around Thanksgiving when I found out the first one was lost, and that was 12 years ago.
Robin M.

 

[Kteacher]

I am so sorry to hear this I went through 2 miscarriages inbetween my first and second child, and I completely understand all the emotions you're going through. It takes time, but it does get easier. The main thing is-do not blame yourself. This has nothing to do with anything you did or didn't do. Take care. There are lots of us here you can lean on.

 

[minnie56]

Wait and see....you never know at this point.
With my third pregnancy (I miscarried once and had a daughter second time)I started spotting in my 7th week. I went to my OBGYN who sent me for all the ultrasounds you have had. It was a Friday and I didn't ask many questions. The technician said she could see an area of bleeding but didn't elaborate.
The radiologist called me at home that night and told me the sac was empty, there was nothing inside and to get up and walk around to help move things along. He felt I would spontaneously abort. I had a good stiff drink!
On the Monday my Dr's office called and scheduled an appt for a D&C to be preceded by another ultrasound. I couldn't understand the futility of this but my Dr asked that I "humour him"! Off I went for the appt and the technician asked me what had transpired during my previous ultrasound. I advised her what I had been told and she said " well, there's something there now..and it's heart is beating"!!!! That little 'heart' is now my 15 year old daughter!
So, strange things do happen and you just don't know!
Whatever happens....hang in there!

 

[meeshi]

GEM, I don't know what to say. I'm sorry you are going through this. All I can offer you is (((((HUGS))))) and prayers for you and your dh. Praying for a miracle for you.

 

[Towncrier]

All I can offer are hugs and prayers. You've gotten a lot of good advice in this thread. Above all, you are not a failure. That is evident in all the planning and preparation that you have done to bring a new life into this world. Unless there is a medical reason, I suggest that you go ahead with plans for your vacation.

When my wife's father passed away just a week before our anniversary, Sue wanted to just stay home. I knew that her dad would not have wanted us to change our plans, so on the appointed day, we headed back to the place where we honeymooned for our annual visit. Later Sue told me that she was glad that "life went on" and that we had gone ahead with our original plans. I think that it must have helped with her grieving.

 

[christineann]

You're in my thoughts and prayers, too