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[ADAMANDLISA]

On to a serious note for a minute. I got some really bad news from my sister last night. Her friend's baby, who was just born, was born with a severly underdeveloped brain. They made the hardest decision of their lives last night (believe me, I know this first-hand), and took their little angel off of life support. They had no idea this was coming. She was full-term when the baby was born....

Having had a baby pass away, I know the incredible amount of pain and grief she is feeling right now and I feel so bad for her and her husband. I am praying that they find the strength to make it through this horrible time.

The bad thing for me is, it has brought up so many old feelings and memories...feels like just yesterday. Now I am feeling so anxious about everything....I pray that we will all have healthy babies and no complications.

 

[Disney Ron]

Is anyone thinking of having their tubes tied after this birth?
This will be my DH's 4th child and my 2nd. We are getting to old to keep trying again...just wondering if anyone else is considering getting their tubes tied. I am going to inquire if it can be done right after the delivery?!

I was on the pill when we got pregnant this time. I messed up a little, pills are just getting to be a pain after so many years of taking them. DH works two jobs and I am a SAHM so I rather be the one having the procedure.

 

[Disney Ron]

On to a serious note for a minute. I got some really bad news from my sister last night. Her friend's baby, who was just born, was born with a severly underdeveloped brain. They made the hardest decision of their lives last night (believe me, I know this first-hand), and took their little angel off of life support. They had no idea this was coming. She was full-term when the baby was born....

Having had a baby pass away, I know the incredible amount of pain and grief she is feeling right now and I feel so bad for her and her husband. I am praying that they find the strength to make it through this horrible time.

The bad thing for me is, it has brought up so many old feelings and memories...feels like just yesterday. Now I am feeling so anxious about everything....I pray that we will all have healthy babies and no complications.

I pray for this too. Hugs to you and your friend.

 

[ADAMANDLISA]

Is anyone thinking of having their tubes tied after this birth?
This will be my DH's 4th child and my 2nd. We are getting to old to keep trying again...just wondering if anyone else is considering getting their tubes tied. I am going to inquire if it can be done right after the delivery?!

I was on the pill when we got pregnant this time. I messed up a little, pills are just getting to be a pain after so many years of taking them. DH works two jobs and I am a SAHM so I rather be the one having the procedure.

Yes, well...DH will be getting a vasectomy. This is my 6th pregnancy and I just can't do it again. Luckily DH agrees that me being down for a week would be a lot more work for him than his procedure. (Thank goodness!)

If you get a c-section, they can do it at the same time. I talked to my doctor about it, just in case. She says it's VERY permanent. Not sure if I'm ready for VERY yet. If you give birth naturally, I think you have to wait a while, not positive.

 

[FormrCastMbr]

Lisa, Hugs to you and prayers for the family. I pray too that we all have healthy babies...

Ann, I did tell my dr that if I have a c section that I want a tubal...it's in the chart. I am too old to do this again. I sit here and after a good nights sleep, I am exhausted and unmotivated...

 

[Disney Ron]

If you get a c-section, they can do it at the same time. I talked to my doctor about it, just in case. She says it's VERY permanent. Not sure if I'm ready for VERY yet. If you give birth naturally, I think you have to wait a while, not positive.

Ugh, I was hoping to do it all in one shot. I will have to check. If not, then DH would probably opt to have it done instead...so I can take care of the two little ones. I think he would think surgery would be easier.

 

[Piecey]

I just noticed the name you chose. My DS is Luke James, so I love your choice!


Ann

Wow! Thats so neat!!

Thanks, I love the name-- clearly you do too!
I just love Lucas and James is my brother's name. It worked.

 

[Disney Ron]

Lisa, Hugs to you and prayers for the family. I pray too that we all have healthy babies...

Ann, I did tell my dr that if I have a c section that I want a tubal...it's in the chart. I am too old to do this again. I sit here and after a good nights sleep, I am exhausted and unmotivated...

Lauren, I am right there with you. I worry about having the two if I am going to be able to keep up. DH will be 48 and I will be 40 when this one comes.
Somedays are harder than others. Can I ask how old you are? I have assumed we around the same age. If that is to forward you can pm nosey me!!!

You are doing good with keeping that sugar in line. Keep it up

Ann

 

[Piecey]

Lisa, I'm sorry to hear about their poor baby. I hope that we all have healthy babies too ...


I truly think this is it for us. IF we have another, it'll be soon. We don't want them spread out any longer than 2 years.. and so it's down to more of a money thing, which makes me sad. There are a lot of things in the works right now for us that if they pan out, will make things a lot easier and we'll definitely have #2 but if they don't, DH will be going to get a Vasectomy.

I cannot, absolutely cannot, handle birth control pills after 2 months of taking them. It's odd, but I've been on 9 different types and after 2 months, once they start building up in my system, I'm done for.
I'm afraid to try the shots because I'm afraid of them doing the same thing and then we're stuck-- since they're a concentrated, one-time dose.
Our marriage is 100% wonderful when I am NOT on Birth Control... but we were both close to calling it quits when I was on it. Very strange, they just make me really miserable/mean/sick/witchy.

It's actually how we ended up pregnant.. DH's dad died unexpectedly and I was due to start a new set (the old ones were making me evil again, but at least by that point DH and I recgonized it and knew when to call the Dr. and get a new Rx) but we were away from home and I didn't have the prescription.. and we just got caught up in things and forgot.
And a baby was made.

So yeah.. anyway, sorry about my rambling... but basically DH will be getting whatever because the only hospital in town that I trust (I'm weird, I have problems, whatever, lol) is a catholic one and will not do birth control. DH will go to the VA hospital an hour away so..

 

[Laura]

On to a serious note for a minute. I got some really bad news from my sister last night. Her friend's baby, who was just born, was born with a severly underdeveloped brain. They made the hardest decision of their lives last night (believe me, I know this first-hand), and took their little angel off of life support. They had no idea this was coming. She was full-term when the baby was born....

Having had a baby pass away, I know the incredible amount of pain and grief she is feeling right now and I feel so bad for her and her husband. I am praying that they find the strength to make it through this horrible time.

The bad thing for me is, it has brought up so many old feelings and memories...feels like just yesterday. Now I am feeling so anxious about everything....I pray that we will all have healthy babies and no complications.

Ugh--that's really sad. And to not know before the birth is just awful. I know I was holding my breath at my 2nd ultrasound when the tech was checking the heart and brain, hoping they would look okay. I hope they still are.

I hope we all have perfectly normal deliveries and perfectly healthy babies.

 

[december]

On to a serious note for a minute. I got some really bad news from my sister last night. Her friend's baby, who was just born, was born with a severly underdeveloped brain. They made the hardest decision of their lives last night (believe me, I know this first-hand), and took their little angel off of life support. They had no idea this was coming. She was full-term when the baby was born....

Having had a baby pass away, I know the incredible amount of pain and grief she is feeling right now and I feel so bad for her and her husband. I am praying that they find the strength to make it through this horrible time.

The bad thing for me is, it has brought up so many old feelings and memories...feels like just yesterday. Now I am feeling so anxious about everything....I pray that we will all have healthy babies and no complications.

That is so sad. My sister's baby was stillborn almost 21 yrs ago, and she never got over it. I was only 15, and it sticks in my mind with each pregnancy. They never found out why, which just makes it scarier for me.

Is anyone thinking of having their tubes tied after this birth?
This will be my DH's 4th child and my 2nd. We are getting to old to keep trying again...just wondering if anyone else is considering getting their tubes tied. I am going to inquire if it can be done right after the delivery?!

I was on the pill when we got pregnant this time. I messed up a little, pills are just getting to be a pain after so many years of taking them. DH works two jobs and I am a SAHM so I rather be the one having the procedure.

I'm getting a tubal. My dr. told me that he would do it right after delivery, and we are planning for a ******l delivery. He said it was easier with a section, but that it really wouldn't be a problem either way. I'm 36, my kids are 11 and 9, and I get pregnant really easy. I got off the pill this summer because they were having a really weird effect on my skin-dark brown blotches all over my face. I told dh he had until the end of the year to get me pregnant or I was getting an IUD. 6 wks later I was pregnant. We are so thrilled about this little girl, but I don't think I can do it again.

 

[bkreitzel]

lisa-
how are you holding up? i am so sorry for the friend of your family - and for you...having a baby is so filled w/ anxiety ANYWAY that my heart just goes out to you.
i would think w/ todays technology that for them NOT to catch such a thing is a rarity. please have faith that things will be okay.

laura-
"We were considering this: http://www.stokke-highchair.com/en-u...highchair.aspx
Sort of in the same grow-with-your-child vein. But it's expensive"
OMIGOSH ... GET THE CHAIR!!!!
We bought one for DD1 when she was 2 1/2 ... when DD2 came along she had a FIT at like 6 months and kept insisting on using it, so we bought another one. You would LOVE it. Have you tried them out in person?
I would say that 1 out of every 4 families that comes to our house ends up buying their own after watching their child use mine - and I am not exaggerating. In fact, we had a family from my husbands lunch over today and from the sounds of the DAd, this is on his shopping list ...the back is curved so it is very comfortable, there is an adjustable footrest and seat adjusts.
the colors them come in are really varied .. my SIL bought the red ones after visiting us and they are really cute. (her kids NEVER sit at the table and sat EVERY MEAL at our house. if i remember, they got online and orderd two before they even left our house the wknd they tried them!) we bought the color to match our table and the blend in seamlessly. until we pull them out you would not guess we had a highchair at the table (annabel never used a traditional highchair just this utilizing the strap). pushed in, they are about the height of the tablethey wipe up easily. they hold up to a 300 lb adult - and i often sit on this chair

 

[ADAMANDLISA]

lisa-
how are you holding up? i am so sorry for the friend of your family - and for you...having a baby is so filled w/ anxiety ANYWAY that my heart just goes out to you.
i would think w/ todays technology that for them NOT to catch such a thing is a rarity. please have faith that things will be okay.

Feeling better! My situation was so different than my sister's friend...but making the decision to take a child off of life support is something we both went through. My daughter passed from complications from being premature. This baby is definitely holding on for dear life in there.

Being so hormonal and emotional, it just hits you twice as hard, I guess.



How are you feeling? Have you gotten checked yet and is your husband home yet?

 

[Disney Ron]

I'm getting a tubal. My dr. told me that he would do it right after delivery, and we are planning for a ******l delivery. He said it was easier with a section, but that it really wouldn't be a problem either way. I'm 36, my kids are 11 and 9, and I get pregnant really easy. I got off the pill this summer because they were having a really weird effect on my skin-dark brown blotches all over my face. I told dh he had until the end of the year to get me pregnant or I was getting an IUD. 6 wks later I was pregnant. We are so thrilled about this little girl, but I don't think I can do it again.

This makes me feel better. It sounds like it is up to the Dr.'s discretion. I am going to discuss it with my OB at my next appointment.

Thanks,
Ann

 

[december]

My appt is Tuesday. He is supposed to have my paperwork for the tubal ready for me to sign, so I should be able to give you more info then.

 

[staley7580]

On to a serious note for a minute. I got some really bad news from my sister last night. Her friend's baby, who was just born, was born with a severly underdeveloped brain. They made the hardest decision of their lives last night (believe me, I know this first-hand), and took their little angel off of life support. They had no idea this was coming. She was full-term when the baby was born....

Having had a baby pass away, I know the incredible amount of pain and grief she is feeling right now and I feel so bad for her and her husband. I am praying that they find the strength to make it through this horrible time.

The bad thing for me is, it has brought up so many old feelings and memories...feels like just yesterday. Now I am feeling so anxious about everything....I pray that we will all have healthy babies and no complications.

Oh dear. That is just so sad. Im so sorry for them.

Is anyone thinking of having their tubes tied after this birth?
This will be my DH's 4th child and my 2nd. We are getting to old to keep trying again...just wondering if anyone else is considering getting their tubes tied. I am going to inquire if it can be done right after the delivery?!

I was on the pill when we got pregnant this time. I messed up a little, pills are just getting to be a pain after so many years of taking them. DH works two jobs and I am a SAHM so I rather be the one having the procedure.

Well.. after each of my other pregnancies.. I was DONE. But a couple of years after having Alex, I was ready to give it a go for another. Then we had Mikalah, and the child is CRAZY! Good crazy, but a complete handful. I was DONE!! Again. and yet AGAIN, a couple of years later, ready to try again. Once we were starting to try again, my dad, whom I was VERY close to, died.. Which in some freaky way made me even more desperate to get pregnant. It took a year! Then I lost the baby and didnt expect to get pregnant again after that. SURPRISE!! Now?? I think we are really done! but I dont want to have anything permanent done yet. Im only 28, and who knows?? Maybe we will want another. I think Im to young to make that choice yet.

 

[Disney Ron]

. Im only 28, and who knows?? Maybe we will want another. I think Im to young to make that choice yet.

I would take my time at your age too. DH & I feel very blessed at our age with our family. And besides DH laughed and said he wouldnt touch me till we did something. We did not have any trouble getting pregnant quickly. DS was a honeymoon souvenier and with this blessing we were not trying and I was on the pill!

Ann

 

[staley7580]

I would take my time at your age too. DH & I feel very blessed at our age with our family. And besides DH laughed and said he wouldnt touch me till we did something. We did not have any trouble getting pregnant quickly. DS was a honeymoon souvenier and with this blessing we were not trying and I was on the pill!

Ann

Everyone in our family is saying to have something permanent done right away.. But DANG. No one can say what is right for our family.. You know? I am very freaked out about having something permanent done, and then regretting it.

 

[bkreitzel]

i feel like 90% sure we are done - but that is only for right now!!! my big thing is that i feel so old due to all those advanced maternal age comments and this has def. been my most trying pregnancy. i would really like 4 but am pretty sure that wont happen, i dont think i want to do this again but am leaving room to change my mind (NOW THAT is scary!! DH and I with 4 kids????
lisa-i am feeling ok ...DH is home ... and now i am feeling fine of course. my ob did not check me last week, probably b/c i said no the week before and i didnt offer it up
funny thing ... are your joints popping like mad?
mine are out of control at night, like I try to get out of bed and my hip or back just slips out and cracks? I told DH husband about this as we were falling asleep and how weird it was. Got the uh huh....
So, 3am, I am trying to get up to go to the bathroom as he is snoring away next to me...as i haul my left leg out of the bed there is this HORRENDOUS snapping sound as my PELVIS seperated and cracked ...it was the strangest thing i have ever felt in my life. and then i felt fine
DH jumps up gasping like a woman shouting OMIGO$! what happened??? he was so freaked out. i started to laugh so hard i almost didnt make it to the bathroom and then i was laughing so hard i was crying. he gets so hyper when i go into labor and I really think he thought this was it. when I finally calmed down he said he seriously thought i had broken something.

another baby must have ...
a car seat carrier WRAP-N-RIDE ... we have borrowed one from my SIL for the 2nd time. this one lines the bucket in fleece AND zips up over top and then there is an attached "hood" to flip over the babys head. it is so nice. the one we purchased for DD1, is like 80% of the ones we see in stores w/ the nice warm body protection and nothing for the face. Let me tell you from experience, in the winter there is no way to keep a blanket on that childs face in Wisconsin as you walk to the grocery or whatever ... I highly recommend finding one w/ an attached flap OR pinning or sewing your face cover on.

 

[Disney Ron]

i feel like 90% sure we are done - but that is only for right now!!! my big thing is that i feel so old due to all those advanced maternal age comments and this has def. been my most trying pregnancy.

No more advanced maternal age comments...I promise!!! Sorry.

Ann