New TTC Thread

[Todd&Copper]

Well, if 2009 doesn't bring some magic I don't know what I'll do.
I'm so upset this time around. Good ol' AF came with a vengence yesterday. Was sure we'd bring home some Disney magic, but I guess that's just for other people.
Then to top off my mood....
Just found out that an old friend of mine (also 40) is pregnant - AGAIN - with #3. This is the 2nd one in less than 2 yrs so she had to be 38 when she got pregnant w/ the other. How come some women get more fertile as they age while others get less??????????? How does that work. Heck, she even looks older than I do. Doesn't that count for something???? Just soooo not fair!!!!

I have a friend who is haivng a "surprise" baby this April. I was so jealous I could spit nails - b/c I'd heard before DH and I talked about being ready.

DH has decided that if we did not conceive this month, we will just have to try again next month, which will most likely conincide with our trip to WDW. But if we are lucky there, I am not naming my kid Walt, Mickey, Minnie or Tink.

 

[D&DDisney]

DH has decided that if we did not conceive this month, we will just have to try again next month, which will most likely conincide with our trip to WDW. But if we are lucky there, I am not naming my kid Walt, Mickey, Minnie or Tink.

How about Jasmine, Ariel or Aurora for girls and
Todd, Copper or Jack for boys.

Heck, we named our furbaby "Disney" (not sure where the litter was conceived though) cause of our many trips there.

 

[ilovefh]

Hi everyone! I'd like to join this thread! DH and I are TTC, but we are the only ones out of our friends that are so it would be nice to have someone to chat with who understands! Here is our backstory...

We decided that we would start TTC in October while in Disney. We tried and tried and when we got back I was late. We thought maybe...but nothing! I actually haven't seen AF since the end of September but we know I am not pregnant. I had a kidney stone and they did 2 blood tests to make sure because I had to have pelvic xrays. We have still been trying, even though I haven't had AF. How come when we weren't trying AF was like clockwork and now that we are I haven't had it since Sept? I've been bleeding a bit this month, but definitely not like AF. This is TMI I know, but it's not even enough that it would require a liner. My body is a mess!

What it would be great to talk to someone about is my jealousy! I have a great friend who did not want kids for a few years and she recently told me she is pregnant. I am so happy for her, but jealous because they didn't want kids for a few years and they definitely were not trying. We trying and my body is a mess!

 

[Todd&Copper]

Yup, the jealousy. And it seems like either DC/Annapolis is having a major baby boom b/c every time I look around I see pregnant ladies! Even if my office, one of my co-workers is pregnant.

I think b/c I have wanted it for a year or so and am VERY VERY ready for a baby that I am noticing other women who are expecting.

My SIL (DH's sis) had a baby last March and I still cannot really objectively look at the pictures. She has been horrible to me for years, and out of the blue acts like we are buddies and starts emailing me pics of her son last April. I just couldn't take it and asked my MIL to tell her to stop. I told her that it was b/c it was work email and I didn't want to abuse the privilege, but in all truth it was b/c I was jealous.

 

[D&DDisney]

What it would be great to talk to someone about is my jealousy! I have a great friend who did not want kids for a few years and she recently told me she is pregnant. I am so happy for her, but jealous because they didn't want kids for a few years and they definitely were not trying. We trying and my body is a mess!

Welcom ilovefh!!!
Don't be ashamed of your jealousy. We all have it. Comes with the territory.

Yup, the jealousy. And it seems like either DC/Annapolis is having a major baby boom b/c every time I look around I see pregnant ladies! Even if my office, one of my co-workers is pregnant.

I think b/c I have wanted it for a year or so and am VERY VERY ready for a baby that I am noticing other women who are expecting.

My SIL (DH's sis) had a baby last March and I still cannot really objectively look at the pictures. She has been horrible to me for years, and out of the blue acts like we are buddies and starts emailing me pics of her son last April. I just couldn't take it and asked my MIL to tell her to stop. I told her that it was b/c it was work email and I didn't want to abuse the privilege, but in all truth it was b/c I was jealous.

I hear you. What is it about a pregnancy that makes people (whom you haven't spoken to for years) suddenly come out of the woodwork and start emailing you ultrasound pics???? And, then still do it after they find out you are having TTC issues. Sheesh!

 

[WDWAurora]

Welcome to the newcomers. I so hope you're not hanging around with us for long!

D&D-I'm sorry. Makes the holidays extra tough, huh?

 

[D&DDisney]

D&D-I'm sorry. Makes the holidays extra tough, huh?

Thanks Aurora! It sure does. How are you holding out?

 

[ilovefh]

Welcom ilovefh!!!
Don't be ashamed of your jealousy. We all have it. Comes with the territory.

I told my DH it doesn't make sense. We are having to work to conceive and other people it happens "by accident." I never imagined it would take more than one month! How naive I was! I guess it is the same thought you have about a lot of things. The "it won't happen to me" thought.

 

[D&DDisney]

I often wondered what it must be like to get pregnant on demand. Must be nice. It took us 10 year of trying, medical procedures, countless drugs, painful tests, etc. for our bio-son. We also adopted our 1st son in between all that.
After I fianally did get pregnant I though - good, this is over. Next time it won't take that long. WRong again! My son is now 6 years and still we wait.
Yes, we are blessed and more fortunate then others. If no more children come along, then so be it. But, it sure would be nice to add another member to our family some day.

 

[ilovefh]

I often wondered what it must be like to get pregnant on demand. Must be nice.

Yeah the tech that did my CAT scan is the one who had to tell me I wasn't pregnant. She felt so bad! After I told her not to worry she said "Gee I sneeze and I'm pregnant." Thanks for that! Not what you should say to someone who is TTC and is having a tough time! She didn't mean to though!

 

[skuttle]

Welcome Todd&Copper and ilovefh! I hope both of you aren't here for long!! We have a great group of girls here on this thread...unfortunately some of us have been here too long! But it's also nice to have someone to talk to that knows what it's like.

ilovefh...have you talked to your doctor about your lack of a period? If you aren't getting your period, you probably aren't ovulating, and if you aren't ovulating you won't get pregnant. You should probably contact your Dr.

D&D I'm so sorry! That just sucks!

Only a few more days left of this year...then we can all hope for good luck in 2009. I never eat the traditional new year's meal...what are you supposed to eat for luck? Gotta try something different!

 

[si-am]

Hi everyone. I haven't posted here in a while, but I've been reading. I'm so sorry there hasn't been much good news around here lately.

I've been sitting out the past few months. During the holidays there just wasn't time for endless appointments and tests, not to mention we were at WDW last week for Christmas!

I've actually enjoyed the break, and now that the new year is looming, I'm starting to stress out again about the thought of starting everything up again. I'm seriously considering just forgetting about it all totally and letting nature take charge, for better or worse. I know that's foolish, but this TTC is just so draining I'm not sure I can jump back on the bandwagon again.

We'll see, though!

Maybe 2009 will be a good year for all of us! Happy New Year!

 

[chloelovesdisney]

Hi. This is my first post but I've been reading for a couple of months. We have been TTC for four months. It would be baby #1 - we are 36 (me as of this month) and 40 (him). We have been together fourteen years. I have not felt ready till now, although there has been pressure for years from family and friends.

I did go for a check up beforehand, had labs done for a few cycles and ultrasounds. I don't know why, but I knew it would not be so easy so I went straight to an expert. (Perhaps it's paranoia from years of hearing from people how I better hurry up or it will be a lost cause.) All of my numbers are within the normal range although nearing the border. Anyway, I have not started on any meds or anything yet.

The MD says if this month doesn't work out he will check my tubes ( )and possibly start me on meds this month or next depending on what I would like to do. I don't have to wait long to find out - AF is due on Wednesday. I feel a little crampy but I am trying to be positive.

Anyway, good luck to everyone and best wishes for a happy and healthy New Year!!!!!!!!!!!

 

[Todd&Copper]

Hi Chloe! Keeping my fingers crossed for you that you do not get AF this month!

 

[D&DDisney]

Only a few more days left of this year...then we can all hope for good luck in 2009. I never eat the traditional new year's meal...what are you supposed to eat for luck? Gotta try something different!

Not sure what you're supposed to eat for luck, but I looked up a fertility diet. Maybe we should put these items on our New Years Eve dinner menu...

Yams
Nuts - almonds, walnuts, pumpkin seeds
Broccoli, cabbage, cauliflower
Oysters - cuase they are high in zinc
Berries - blueberries and raspberries

With the exception of oysters I am willing to give the others a try.

 

[skuttle]

Not sure what you're supposed to eat for luck, but I looked up a fertility diet. Maybe we should put these items on our New Years Eve dinner menu...

Yams
Nuts - almonds, walnuts, pumpkin seeds
Broccoli, cabbage, cauliflower
Oysters - cuase they are high in zinc
Berries - blueberries and raspberries

With the exception of oysters I am willing to give the others a try.

Oooh....I just bought a huge bag of almonds from Sam's tonight! Yay! LOL!

Wow, lots of newbies! Welcome to you all!

Chloe...Has you DH been checked? We've been TTC #2 for 2 1/2 years now and found out about a year ago that DH had sperm issues. He's finally going to follow-up with a urologist in mid-January. If your DH hasn't been checked, I'd definitely have him checked before you start doing all kinds of tests on yourself. Good luck!

Si-am...I know what you mean! For a while I had put off having DH make his follow-up appt because I just wasn't ready to deal with all of the TTC mess yet. Then I had another chemical pregnancy in October, and that made me realize how much I really do want another baby, so DH has made his appt and I've been paying more attention to when we BD again. *sigh*

I'm just ready to make a decision. After DH's follow-up, hopefully we'll know if this is the end of the road for us, or if there's other things we can try. I'm tired of going through this month after month. I'm ready to have some sort of medical intervention other than the Metformin or just give up.

 

[D&DDisney]

I'm just ready to make a decision. After DH's follow-up, hopefully we'll know if this is the end of the road for us, or if there's other things we can try. I'm tired of going through this month after month. I'm ready to have some sort of medical intervention other than the Metformin or just give up.

Do consider IUI this year (if you haven't tried already). Really helps those "lazy little guys" with the wash and the insem helps them get closer to where they're going.

I'd like to try that again. However, I keep wondering if age will play a factor and if I should temp fate. Being on Clomid so often can't be good.
Some days I think I should just be happy with what I have and move on. But there's always that ache in my gut that there's someone missing in our family.

Whatever happened to finding a baby in a basket on your front porch???

 

[Todd&Copper]

Not sure what you're supposed to eat for luck, but I looked up a fertility diet. Maybe we should put these items on our New Years Eve dinner menu...

Yams
Nuts - almonds, walnuts, pumpkin seeds
Broccoli, cabbage, cauliflower
Oysters - cuase they are high in zinc
Berries - blueberries and raspberries

With the exception of oysters I am willing to give the others a try.

I read an article a while ago about a village in Africa where there is a greater than average number of twin births and it was tied to a variety of yam.

I love broccolli, cauliflower and cabbage, but they give me gas, and I am not sure how sexy that is to DH. I guess it might be sexy to some men, just not DH.

I cannot eat oysters raw b/c of a bad incident 10+ year ago involving too much booze, oysters and what they look like coming back up at 2 am. I am so glad I hardly ever drink anymore.

The berries and nuts are easy - they go in my oatmeal or quinoa b-fast, which will start up again once these pesky holidays are over.

 

[D&DDisney]

I read an article a while ago about a village in Africa where there is a greater than average number of twin births and it was tied to a variety of yam.

I love broccolli, cauliflower and cabbage, but they give me gas, and I am not sure how sexy that is to DH. I guess it might be sexy to some men, just not DH.

I cannot eat oysters raw b/c of a bad incident 10+ year ago involving too much booze, oysters and what they look like coming back up at 2 am. I am so glad I hardly ever drink anymore.

The berries and nuts are easy - they go in my oatmeal or quinoa b-fast, which will start up again once these pesky holidays are over.

Better watch out for the Tag Fairy with responses like that.
I'm with ya on the gas thing though.

 

[Todd&Copper]

Better watch out for the Tag Fairy with responses like that.
I'm with ya on the gas thing though.

Sorry, but it is true. I bet if even the most gorgeous woman was making her most smoldering bedroom eyes and cooing out a wonderful fantasy, while passing broccoli/cabbage/cauliflower farts, DH would find himself [frustratingly] not into it.