Never have dated...

[CptJackSparrowsGirl]

I'm ashamed. I've never have dated. I've asked to guys over the years, but never had a yes. I'm sad by this, but I hope and pray the right one comes along soon

 

[Hallowishes]

AW. i know alot of people say this but you will find a boyfriend when youre not looking.

 

[CptJackSparrowsGirl]

Hehehehe, thats what I hear *sigh* Hopefully one day

 

[Kennywife]

That happened to me. I gave up and found him online when I wasn't looking. He's my best friend and was totally worth the wait. He and I dated for 6 years before we got married. We've been happily married for 3.5 years now. Don't worry, he's out there.

Anna

 

[CptJackSparrowsGirl]

Wow, thats awesome
Thanks for the encouragement

 

[nurse.darcy]

Here are three pieces of advice when deciding on a date. . .

1. Common interest in some things is a must or you will be absolutely bored. My sweetie and I love games. . .board games and role playing games. I like swords and sorcery and my hunny likes modern warfare. . .this is not important as we "get" the obsession. It works for us.

2. Find common ground as friends first. If you can be friendly and enjoy hanging with each other, the relationship part will be easier.

3. Don't expect a night in shining armour to come sweep you off your feet. This is a true fairytale. HOWEVER, do expect to be treated with respect and admiration. Offer the same in return. There is truth in the saying that you only get as good as you give. . .

One thing to think about. . .before delving into the realm of finding your mate you must first be able to love yourself. . .including your flaws. . .embrace them and realize that they are who you are.

 

[nurse.darcy]

One other thing. . .the outer wrapping is just a shell. If the inner portion does not match the outer portion then throw it away. . .

My man would not have attracted me under normal circumstances, however, we connected on a different level - so now I find him the most attractive person in the world. . .but that has more to do with our connection than physical perfection. . .And surprisingly, that "connection" makes me physically attracted to him. I can't even imagine being with anyone else. . .its awesome.

 

[CptJackSparrowsGirl]

Thanks nurse.darcy. I've already come to the sad truth I'm insane lol
So all I need to do is find my match lol.

I love playing Halo and I'm having fun playing Modern Warfare 2

 

[nurse.darcy]

Thanks nurse.darcy. I've already come to the sad truth I'm insane lol
So all I need to do is find my match lol.

I love playing Halo and I'm having fun playing Modern Warfare 2

I wouldn't even worry about the dating part at this point. . .find common interests with a friend. Ken and I met at WDW. We had been DISfriends at that point and even during that meeting we did not pursue anything further, however, we kept talking and found "common ground". It turned a friendship into a beautiful relationship.

 

[CptJackSparrowsGirl]

I hope I find someone like that. I'm not going to go to extremes. I want to just meet some guy that I can share things with and might feel the same about me. I have a crush, but sadly he doesn't feel the same unless that has changed

 

[carouselgirl]

It will happen when you least expect it. I was the only single one left in my group of my friends. They werre all married and getting ready to start families. I was at work one day when I met my now husband. We started talking and we became friends. I didn't even realize I had feelings for him until he went out on a date with someone else. We talked a few days after his date and he told me that even though he had a nice time, he was bored and would have had more fun with me. We started dating that night and were engaged 6 months later. In May, we will be married for 10 years.

 

[CptJackSparrowsGirl]

How romantic

 

[Judy in Texas]

Don't get too wrapped in the idea of "Romantic Love", though.

The best relationships are based first on friendship and later on something deeper. When you fall head over heels in love, you both tend to be on your best behavior and you don't get to see each other's weaknesses and we do all have them! Don't sit at home waiting for Prince Charming to knock on your door because that will never happen. Join groups, volunteer, put yourself out there where other singles tend to be and look for friends, not boyfriends.

Happiness is an inside job... start there first. Project that you are a happy, confident person and that's what others will see. Project that you are sad and lonely because you don't have a significant other in your life and you may scare off that special someone who might have first become a good friend.

Chin up and good luck!

 

[Vivianne]

Don't get too wrapped in the idea of "Romantic Love", though.

The best relationships are based first on friendship and later on something deeper. When you fall head over heels in love, you both tend to be on your best behavior and you don't get to see each other's weaknesses and we do all have them! Don't sit at home waiting for Prince Charming to knock on your door because that will never happen. Join groups, volunteer, put yourself out there where other singles tend to be and look for friends, not boyfriends.

Happiness is an inside job... start there first. Project that you are a happy, confident person and that's what others will see. Project that you are sad and lonely because you don't have a significant other in your life and you may scare off that special someone who might have first become a good friend.

Chin up and good luck!

You have good advice here. Don't be ashamed of being a good decent person. You're just selective about finding a partner and that is GOOD!

The key is in finding a good...lasting relationship and that doesn't happen overnight. It takes time. Don't settle for less. All the best to you....

 

[CptJackSparrowsGirl]

Thanks everyone This is very helpful and uplefting

 

[xDisneyAngelx]

Don't worry. There's someone out there for everyone. Im in the single life now and I try my hardest to find a man who has alot of interest in Disney (its my all time interest). Its like pulling a needle out of a haystack. Anyway I know you will find someone.



**When you wish upon a star. Makes no difference who you are....anything your heart desires will come to you**

 

[nurse.darcy]

Never go for the crush. The crush is mostly a physical gratification that will leave a sour taste in your mouth in the end. Ken (Watank) and I met and became friends. Through much communication we found that we had much in common. It sparked a beautiful relationship.

 

[CptJackSparrowsGirl]

My crush and I are actually good friends. We talk almost everyday. We actually played COD: Modern Warfare II last night lol. Great fun there. We did some team deathmatches and some one on one fighting lol.

 

[monarchsfan16]

Completely feel your pain. It's discouraging.

 

[DisneyFreak06]

I was 24 when I had my first 'boyfriend'. We dated for 6 years before I ended it. We're better off as friends, which we still are. It's been 3 years and he's my best friend. That may change when one or both of us finds someone else, but for now, we're quite comfortable with that.

Hopefully I'll find my guy someday, as I'm sure you will. Just remember you don't NEED a guy to be happy. I decided that I'm going to do what I want, and I don't need a man to do it. I've travelled solo to WDW, one day I'll go solo to Europe, and I'm even thinking about possibly buying some land to eventually build on. I'm not going to wait for someone to make my dreams come true, I'm going to do that on my own. I also travel a lot with my church, and it's nice that I don't have to explain myself to someone!