need help w/ a teenage problem

[missyc]

Originally posted by Ronda93
I haven't seen anyone reply yet with "I had sex at 13 and I turned out okay".

Ok then, I will say it. Not something I'm proud of, but it happened. And I DID turn out ok. It's not the end of the world for the OP's daughter.

 

[hmwnick]

thanks to all who have offered words of wisdom...
I thought I posted a reply earlier but don't see it.... anyway...

We are gotten some help & DD is going to be ok. She was sad when I told her they could not be together. As the week progressed she seems more relieved. She has not rebelled against the restrictions placed on her. It is hard to believe but she has been in a "lighter" mood. She is even getting along w/ her siblings.

She seems more like her self. She has reconnected with some of her "boyfriendless" girl friends. I am not wearing blinders. I am still watching like a hawk (without being obvious). I have told her over & over how glad I am that she told me.

I have explained to her that we have to take care of us & BF's family has to be there for him.

DH is coming how next week & I know that will be very difficult. I have reassured her that her dad will always love her. I plan to take the day off of work so we can work thru all of this.

I am ready to get beyond this & focus on a safe, bright future, God willing.

 

[Buckalew11]

Hugs to you during a most difficult time. Kids that don't tell someone go through this alone. Many kids have sex at this young of an age and don't tell. Be glad and proud that she did. You sound like a good mom to me!

 

[mamajoan]

GOOD JOB HMWNicK

 

[Tiggeroo]

She seems more like her self. She has reconnected with some of her "boyfriendless" girl friends

This is the ting that bothers me the most about young girls getting serious boyfriends. They lose their selves. They lose connection with their girlfriends, don't do sleepovers on weekends, forget about their life goals, etc.
So happy that she's doing better. Kids are resilient. If you get her help and guide her back onto the right path she should bounce back quick.
By the way, you are doing a fantastic job, all alone, with a tough situation. Congratulations, take a nice bubble bath, you probably need it.

 

[piglet too]

It sounds like you have done the right thing and your DD is going to be much better because of it. She learned a life lesson very early, but you as her parents have done a good job. I hope your DH is as calm as possible and shows her his love, no matter what.

 

[Wishing on a star]

Here's a big group-hug for you!!!!

And, for your DD too!

I just can't even begin to imagine how HARD this has been on you, and your kids.... Especially with your DH being away! But, you kept your cool, and mustered the strength to stay strong and calm... and you have done the very very BEST!!!!!

We are soooo glad to hear your update.

And, here are wishes and prayers that your DH makes it home soon, and that everything goes well.