Need help!!! Offensive language in kids shows!

[mamaLori05]

What you choose for your 3 year old and what I choose for my 10 year old are very different. I find those shows utterly appropriate and the idea that Disney should not show them because you don't want your toddler to see them is absurd. It would be a SHAME if my kid was to lose good programming because you don't want it in your house. The Disney name is not a guarantee against any chance of offense ever by anybody. That's unrealistic, irresponsible and frankly, a little silly.

I totally agree!!!!! Why ruin it for everyone else just because you don't like it. (just as a side note, I'm talking about those that feel the need to write to disney and try and get the shows canceled, not those that simply don't have it on.)
One thing that really bugs me is when parents try to blame everything else in the world on why there little Jonny isn't listening/behaving/having issues. Those type of parents really need to take a look at their own parenting skills, because children learn the most from their parents/guardians, not tv shows, video games, ect...! Some parents really need to take responsibility for their child's actions and discipline them, instead of saying it's everyone else's fault. (Not implied to anyone in specific, or necessarily even anyone on here)

 

[jenrein]

I cringed while reading the first post. I thought...don't say anything. Just be quiet. But thats not me at all.

If you want to raise your children with that set of standards then kudos to you. I hope that in the future it doesn't backfire when your children are oblivious to what the real life holds for them.

I personally appreciate raising my children to be respectful to others and respectful OF others. I hope that as they grow older and having been surrounded by people of all levels of life, real and in entertainment, they will be able to have a more well rounded approach to society. They will be able to access situations and decide whether or not they need to remove themselves from that situation.

They will also learn that using words are just words. Are they the best words to use in any particular situation? Maybe not. But they will have a realistic outlook on the use of words and what the consequences may be- from me or the person they use the words on. What they will not have is a foggy memory of dancing pink elephants and lollipops and rainbows...

But if I hide real life from my kids then they will only want to hunt it out and search for that mysterious adult world that was never introduced little by little with guidance from a parent.

And I think baby steps may include the popular use of oh my god. If your children are such god sends then I am quite sure a quick conversation with them and you will have them appreciating the holy one to the point that they would feel like their tongue would wither up and fall off if they even thought to speak his name inappropriately.

I am also quite sure you could find a website online that would allow you to download some kind of entertainment that could fit your family's needs. As for the rest of us regular mainstream society folk, please let us keep our Nick and Disney the way it is. The shows are funny, and quite honestly are right on target for their age groups. I think that all of us allowing our children to watch are also the ones buying all the merchandise and supporting the continued programming. So I am quite sure that although you may feel better writing to them in regards to their choice of words, they may take the side of the people watching what they make and appreciating it for what it is.

Good luck.

 

[disney_family_1247]

Not to sound rude, but those are shows created for teenagers and preteens, not six year olds...All of those channels have shows and time blocks that are appropriate for young children. I have three kids, and none of them have ever been allowed to watch whatever they want on tv. Unless we put something on for them in our bedroom, they only watch tv in the living room where we can keep an eye or ear out for what is on. The older ones know to say, "This is a teenage show, can you change it Mom," if something comes on after one of their shows. In our house, it's not up to the tv channels to make parenting decisions for us .

 

[jagar100]

Well I just happened to be flipping through channels when I turned to Zoey101. It was a young girl that had something LARGE stuffed in her bra in front of some boys. The boys made a comment about "I'll give you an A for that" and the other boys said "Or a Double-D!!!"

So...mental note....no Zoey for us. Not like she's a good rolemodel anyway!

 

[sk!mom]

Right now, I have blocked Nick, Disney, and Nick Jr until I can sort out which shows run on which channels.

Just why on earth would the writers/producers feel like they need to include offensive language in kids' shows!?!! I am really outraged!

They do it because to many people the shows and language you mentioned would be completely inoffensive.

I'd be curious as to why you even have cable if your feelings on language and content are so strict? Seriously, if Nick, Nick Jr, and Disney are offensive, what do you find to watch? You seem a good candidate for approved DVD's or PBS only.

 

[eliza61]

ust why on earth would the writers/producers feel like they need to include offensive language in kids' shows!?!! I am really outraged!

Very simple solution, turn off the tv. Seriously. When my kids were younger we didn't allow any thing but disney movies. We are a minority (AA) and we felt the stereotypes that portray minorities were so offensive. We had 1 TV in the family room up until my youngest was 10. I gotta vote against you on this one. It is not the networks responsibility to instill values into your kids, it's yours. don't like what she's picking up from the **** tube, cut it off.

I gotta ask- of those of you that had families/parents that do drink (not alcoholics but drink on a weekly basis- a drink with dinner/after work etc.)- did you all wait til 21 to drink in your parents house?
l.

Darn right. My dad was a cop. ::cop: We were taught that rules were not arbitrary. The legal age to drink was 21 and that was when we were allowed to drink. My parents had no problem reminding me that I was not allowed to do what "grown folks" (as my mom would say) can do. My grandmother swore all the time, I would have gotten my teeth knock out of my mouth if I even thought about cursing.

I tell my sons all the time, when you turn 21, move out of my house, pay your own bills in your own place- you can drink like a fish. until then the law says you have to be 21 to drink even as I open a bottle of bud. Oh they are not allowed to smoke either.

 

[bookgirl]

Holy Moley, I'd never make it with any of your kids. I let the boys watch just about anything except Chuckie and Torchwood things. (I don't like slasher movies and the boys ask too many questions during sexual conversations for me to answer without having a whole family detente about who's morals get to decide the answers). I always figure as long as they are interested they can try it and then we have lots of talks about appropriate language, appropriate situations, offending others etc. So they have a great appreciation for monster movies, they understand that there are lots of words but that we don't use them in some situations (if ever), and that the world is made of up of all types.


At least you guys are watching tv WITH your kids. I can't stand when people just outright condem something, without viewing/listening to it themselves.

I say write the producers tell them your concerns, then find something that you do approve of for your kids. There's tons of stuff out there for all levels of parenting.

 

[eclairemom]

Soooo I must just be as old as dirt hear but I grew up watching TV with mom and dad on one of the 3 channels we had when I was a kid. Grew up with "All in the Family" and "The Jeffersons" and amazingly turned out ok.

When I was older my friend and I had parents and her older siblings take us to rated R movies because we were not anywhere near 16. This was way before anyone ever thought of a PG 13 movie.

Then one day there was a new TV Channel called FOX and a little show called Married with Children and a mother who pitched such a hissy fit about the content of the show it drew national attention to the fledgeling Network and ended up making Married with Children it's first hit show.

Oh lets not forget 90210 and the wholesome lives those Beverly High teens led.

Kid are going to be exposed to a lot of things both inside and outside of the home. I'm terrified of how much things have changed in the 20 + years since I graduated but realize that DD is going to be exposed to things that are out of my control as soon as she starts school and kids are growing up faster than ever and doing things that I never would have immagined when I was a teen. And.... for the record I did drink, smoke and smoke some pot but those are the least of my worries for her in her teen years.

 

[Tink-aholic]

I cringed while reading the first post. I thought...don't say anything. Just be quiet. But thats not me at all.

If you want to raise your children with that set of standards then kudos to you. I hope that in the future it doesn't backfire when your children are oblivious to what the real life holds for them.

I personally appreciate raising my children to be respectful to others and respectful OF others. I hope that as they grow older and having been surrounded by people of all levels of life, real and in entertainment, they will be able to have a more well rounded approach to society. They will be able to access situations and decide whether or not they need to remove themselves from that situation.

They will also learn that using words are just words. Are they the best words to use in any particular situation? Maybe not. But they will have a realistic outlook on the use of words and what the consequences may be- from me or the person they use the words on. What they will not have is a foggy memory of dancing pink elephants and lollipops and rainbows...

But if I hide real life from my kids then they will only want to hunt it out and search for that mysterious adult world that was never introduced little by little with guidance from a parent.

And I think baby steps may include the popular use of oh my god. If your children are such god sends then I am quite sure a quick conversation with them and you will have them appreciating the holy one to the point that they would feel like their tongue would wither up and fall off if they even thought to speak his name inappropriately.

I am also quite sure you could find a website online that would allow you to download some kind of entertainment that could fit your family's needs. As for the rest of us regular mainstream society folk, please let us keep our Nick and Disney the way it is. The shows are funny, and quite honestly are right on target for their age groups. I think that all of us allowing our children to watch are also the ones buying all the merchandise and supporting the continued programming. So I am quite sure that although you may feel better writing to them in regards to their choice of words, they may take the side of the people watching what they make and appreciating it for what it is.

Good luck.

 

[marlynnp]

I cringed while reading the first post. I thought...don't say anything. Just be quiet. But thats not me at all.

If you want to raise your children with that set of standards then kudos to you. I hope that in the future it doesn't backfire when your children are oblivious to what the real life holds for them.

I personally appreciate raising my children to be respectful to others and respectful OF others. I hope that as they grow older and having been surrounded by people of all levels of life, real and in entertainment, they will be able to have a more well rounded approach to society. They will be able to access situations and decide whether or not they need to remove themselves from that situation.

They will also learn that using words are just words. Are they the best words to use in any particular situation? Maybe not. But they will have a realistic outlook on the use of words and what the consequences may be- from me or the person they use the words on. What they will not have is a foggy memory of dancing pink elephants and lollipops and rainbows...

But if I hide real life from my kids then they will only want to hunt it out and search for that mysterious adult world that was never introduced little by little with guidance from a parent.

And I think baby steps may include the popular use of oh my god. If your children are such god sends then I am quite sure a quick conversation with them and you will have them appreciating the holy one to the point that they would feel like their tongue would wither up and fall off if they even thought to speak his name inappropriately.

I am also quite sure you could find a website online that would allow you to download some kind of entertainment that could fit your family's needs. As for the rest of us regular mainstream society folk, please let us keep our Nick and Disney the way it is. The shows are funny, and quite honestly are right on target for their age groups. I think that all of us allowing our children to watch are also the ones buying all the merchandise and supporting the continued programming. So I am quite sure that although you may feel better writing to them in regards to their choice of words, they may take the side of the people watching what they make and appreciating it for what it is.

Good luck.

You're supposed to be parenting the kids not the TV. And show content should not have to be changed because you don't 'approve'. The idiot box has an off button ~ use it!

 

[Chelley00]

My 3 year old hears someone say OMG and he says "They said a bad word". None of the other kids say it. You can teach your child "some people say that, we don't say that at our house" about anything! You just have to keep reinforcing it over and over and over.

Would I like for my kids to never hear it said like that because it's offensive to our beliefs? Sure! Is that going to happen? Nope. Same as they are going to hear other words that we think are inappropriate, if not from TV, than from a friend (no matter what type of school they go to) a neighbor or some random person at the grocery store. I think the trick is to teach your child your belief system and that some people just don't think/feel/behave/act like you do. Just because someone else can say it, doesn't mean they should

 

[luvsJack]

The first problem is that TV is not a teacher and characters on TV shows are not meant to be role models. Its entertainment and should be treated as such. Now, dd has always watched age appropriate shows, but we don't go through a bunch of shows looking for "role models" or "teaching moments" we use real life for that. If she hears a phrase such as OMG, and I hear her say it; I tell her not to and why. End of the problem (at least within my hearing range).

I think that the OP's problem is more of an age appropriate issue not that these shows are bad. If all your kids are together, then the older ones should watch something geared for the age of the younger child.

 

[Jenvenza]

I guess I am one of the only ones who almost laughed when I opened this up and saw what the offensive language was! Sorry, but I dont find that offensive at all. Not really sure what would be considered offensive in that sentence. But, whatever floats your boat!

I guess they have it in those shows, because most people wouldnt consider that offensive or bad language. Only suggestion would be to watch the shows more closely that your children watch if you have issues with "bad language".

 

[Disneygirl26]

Holy Moley, I'd never make it with any of your kids. I let the boys watch just about anything except Chuckie and Torchwood things. (I don't like slasher movies and the boys ask too many questions during sexual conversations for me to answer without having a whole family detente about who's morals get to decide the answers). I always figure as long as they are interested they can try it and then we have lots of talks about appropriate language, appropriate situations, offending others etc. So they have a great appreciation for monster movies, they understand that there are lots of words but that we don't use them in some situations (if ever), and that the world is made of up of all types.

I have to agree, I let my kids watch anything the was on Nick or Disney, I have to admit I actually like some of the shows myself. I also let my daughter play with Bratz dolls when she was younger. My kids are DS10 adn DD16 and I've never had a problem with them misbehaving, its whats you teach them not whats on T.V I thinks its unrealistic to try to view every Disney show to see which ones are good or bad, because whats going to happen when your child is at a friends or family house in its on the T.V? Eventually they're going to see something you don't approve its better to tell a child what they see is not real life and we don't act like that or say those things than to hide them and when they finally come across them act like that did something wrong.

Ok OT now,
My parents also allowed me to have a drink on special occasions when I was like 17, I don't see the problem with it, I do how ever have a problem with parents supplying alchol to their kids friends thats just wrong.