My teenage daughter is getting on my nerves about dyeing her hair!

[LuvLDM]

I have red hair. Growing up, I hated when people told me that it was their dream hair color and that they wish it came in a bottle. It bothered me. I guess I just wanted to blend in. So, when I turned 18, the hair turned black. Eek! I dyed it black for almost 2 years.. and then I finally let it grow out. I liked it for that time, but it just didn't work well.

Let her buy a box and put the dye in her hair. If she hates it, it'll grow out fairly quickly if she cuts it regularly.

I hope you don't still hate hearing it...... but, if that's you in the avatar photo your red hair is gorgeous!!!!!

 

[MUFFYCAT]

I couldn't care less what they do with their hair. It's just hair. It grows out. If they want to look temporarily stupid, that's OK with me.

Tattoos and piercings are another matter. That they can do when they are entirely self-supporting.

Consider yourself lucky if at 17 this is your worse problem.

My 2 DD, ages 19 & 16 have been dying or highlighting their hair since middle school.

 

[golfgal]

I would have no problem with my teen dd coloring her hair either. Not a battle I care to wage. I just got my 15yr old dd a bold violet/red streak in her hair, unfortunatley, 3 weeks later, you can barely see it anymore. I thought it was cute. Next time, I think we'll get a bigger streak LOL.

DD and some friends get those stick on weave things from the hair salon for marching band (why I don't know, they have to have all their hair up in their hats anyway ). DD has dark hair too and those stand out pretty well. They are reusable too, I think.

 

[elgerber]

DD and some friends get those stick on weave things from the hair salon for marching band (why I don't know, they have to have all their hair up in their hats anyway ). DD has dark hair too and those stand out pretty well. They are reusable too, I think.

We looked at those, but she didn't like the way the little clip felt, so we opted for the dye. She just a part in the school musical, so we'll probably leave it until after that is done (although it's Godspell, which appears fairly funky anyway LOL).

 

[pansmermaidzlagoon]

I agree with the poster above: "if this is your worst problem...."

DD13 started dyeing her hair this fall. It is just hair. As long as the grades are good, she is well behaved and has a caring heart..we aren't sweating the small stuff!!!

at 17 she should definitely be allowed to make these decisions on her own, especially if she is paying.

 

[scrapquitler]

Slightly OT;


DD has recently become aware that she has hair on top of her head. I never remember wanting to dye my hair when I was younger, mainly because it was ( and thanks to my hairdresser, still is ) very dark. Her hair is light brown with blonde streaks ( natural ) in it. When do they want to start this dying stuff? Just so I can be prepared.

Here it seems to be pretty common starting in 6th grade. I noticed it at dance class...during the 6th grade year, a lot of the girls in my daughters class showed up at some point with highlights (probably more than half of them by 7th grade). My DD is in 9th grade now, and there's probably at least 75% in the dance class (22 or so girls all in 8th and 9th grade) that have either highlights, a colored streak or tips, or a full on dye job.

 

[Magpie]

Slightly OT;


DD has recently become aware that she has hair on top of her head. I never remember wanting to dye my hair when I was younger, mainly because it was ( and thanks to my hairdresser, still is ) very dark. Her hair is light brown with blonde streaks ( natural ) in it. When do they want to start this dying stuff? Just so I can be prepared.

I have the opposite problem - my almost-15yo is dead set against dying her hair. She doesn't even want highlights. I was really looking forward to vicariously enjoying her "experimental" stage! She won't even let me put wraps in her hair any more.

Oh well... If anyone in this house is going to dye their hair a crazy colour, it looks like it's going to have to be me.

 

[katesorad]

I hope you don't still hate hearing it...... but, if that's you in the avatar photo your red hair is gorgeous!!!!!

Thank you!! I actually like hearing it now.. gives me a self esteem boost! haha! I actually really like my hair now. It's unique, and I think that the way my personality is, having any other color hair just doesn't fit me!

I was the only one in my family who had red hair, and my mom would always say that I got it from the milkman, which actually, in my childhood ignorance, made me think that my dad wasn't actually my dad, and I always wanted to meet the milkman. So it was a long string of traumatizing events that happened from some silly childhood thoughts that were the underlying issue that would drive me nuts whenever anyone asked about my hair.

 

[NHdisneylover]

I have the opposite problem - my almost-15yo is dead set against dying her hair. She doesn't even want highlights. I was really looking forward to vicariously enjoying her "experimental" stage! She won't even let me put wraps in her hair any more.

Oh well... If anyone in this house is going to dye their hair a crazy colour, it looks like it's going to have to be me.

Is she my daughter's twin?

No hair colors. No unusual cuts. No make-up (well, if we are going somewhere really nice she will bother with it). No funky clothes. I am always wishing she would have a little fun while she is young and can get away with it. Ah well

 

[pyrxtc]

it's hair and it will grow out and/or fade.

 

[Buckalew11]

Is she my daughter's twin?

No hair colors. No unusual cuts. No make-up (well, if we are going somewhere really nice she will bother with it). No funky clothes. I am always wishing she would have a little fun while she is young and can get away with it. Ah well

That's my almost 17 yo. I'd love to add highlights to it but she isn't interested. I have a whole beauty shop in my house and she isn't a bit interested in colors, cuts or styles.

I'm alone in MHO but I would not be happy with my daughter going real dark. And, when you're blonde and highlighted it doesn't take much to be too dark, too muddy, too funky of a color. I see it all the time and I really hate it.

But true, it is "just hair". Of course, to me it is more than "just hair", lol.

 

[kimmar067]

I have a 17 year old daughter that wants to dye her hair DARK. Her natural hair color is a dirty blonde. For the last 7 months or so she has had her hair highlighted and it has looked nice. The last time she had her hair highlighted they put in way too many highlights so now she is getting roots.

She came home from school and has decided that she wants to use a semi-permanent dye and go DARK. I am fine with her having darker hair...but the color she wants is DARK.

I am tempted to let her, on her own dime. I have a feeling that she will hate it but with it being so much darker I'm not sure how she would get it out. The bottle says it will last about a month. Having used this previously I know two things. It will last at least a month and the color on the box is lighter than what your hair will look like. Of course, Mom knows nothing.

I don't want to be too controlling, but I'm also not paying one penny to fix any hair mess and she certainly can only afford the one bottle of dye. I have paid for her hair stuff everytime but I'm not wanting to fund a disaster.

....remember: 'permanent' is NEVER 'permanent' when it comes to hair...

[....BTW, my niece has always had lighter hair [even streaked] to complement her complexion and she too, at 17, wanted a change, so my sister let her dye her hair dark, and BOY, was it DARK! However, it actually looks good on her....she just wanted a change. My sister looked at it this way: she could have opted for green or a bright pink, or some other 'unnatural' shade..... ]

 

[kimmar067]

Thank you!! I actually like hearing it now.. gives me a self esteem boost! haha! I actually really like my hair now. It's unique, and I think that the way my personality is, having any other color hair just doesn't fit me!

I was the only one in my family who had red hair, and my mom would always say that I got it from the milkman, which actually, in my childhood ignorance, made me think that my dad wasn't actually my dad, and I always wanted to meet the milkman. So it was a long string of traumatizing events that happened from some silly childhood thoughts that were the underlying issue that would drive me nuts whenever anyone asked about my hair.

 

[kellyg403]

OP, I have 5 dd's...3 dark haired and my sdd's are BLONDE. One lighter than the other. They all have gone thru the hair dying phase. Its their head, so do what you want...we do have a few rules though. No out there colors and if it turns out bad you are on your own! There have been a few tragedies but for the most part eh..nothing too bad.

Recently dsd17 went from blonde to black. She loves it. I don't. There are a few spots where it didn't take or something so it looks like red streaks here and there. The first few days I wanted to say something but she was so happy with it I figured why burst the bubble. About day 4 it had blended enough, it actually didn't look bad at all. We are on week two and she is getting roots and complaining about going so dark, why she didn't go brown etc. Not a great look on her, but she is not willing to fork out the cash to go to a professional and either am I. I would bet it would cost a fortune.

While there are drawbacks, this is one of the little/not willing to fight about issues. I figure there are bigger battles. 3 out of the 4 over 18 all got tatoos when they turned 18..all of them waited like I asked so I gave them 100 bucks as birthday money. Its a tradition almost now. The lone hold out is trying to convince me my blank canvass of a body needs a tattoo and wants me to go with her. I told her yeah/no/maybe/ok/not happening. I think mom likes the blank canvass. And the funniest part is I did not start dying my hair until late 30's. I was never the adventurous type, how I raised them to be so adventurous I have no idea.

Kelly

 

[JessicaR]

We pick our battles around here. Hair isnt one of them. Its her hair let her have at it. I was every color under the rainbow. No biggie - I promise.

 

[Disneyrsh]

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[disney1990]

My DD, while she was in high school, dyed her hair almost black, green, purple and pink. Now she is 26 and her hair is her natural hair color and she wants it that way. It's only hair.

 

[pezheadmeg]

As someone who spent her 1st two years of college changing her hair color monthly I say go for it. Dark hair actually can look surprisingly decent even on the fair skinned.

And if the demi seems too dark at the beginning. Blow dry, wait a few hours, and wash with a clarifying shampoo or head and shoulders. It'll totally make dark not seem as dark. I know that from personal experience.

 

[redlight]

At 17 I think I would let her do whatever she wants w/ her hair.

Exactly. At least she wants it dark, not blue or green.

 

[pixiewings71]

I always said it's just hair, let them do what they want. My DD22 started coloring her hair when she was 17, she had a job, she paid for it, she usually used a home kit, very rarely did she do a salon dye. She still colors it, we joke with her about how we don't even know what color her hair really is anymore....it's the same as mine really, a little darker, not as much red as I have.
DD14 & DD11 both do colored streaks in their hair, it's not a big deal, the school doesn't care and it helps them express themselves. I don't see the big deal in it.
Remember that hair always grows, if she hates it she will deal with it until it grows out.
But that's my opinion of course.