My roommate just shared something really personal with me

[honeywolf7]

and it was something that I know is very difficult for her. I'm not going to say what it is because I know there are a lot of people on the board who would judge her by this one thing alone. However, I want to know how I can be a good support for her (she and I have never been close and it really shocks me that she shared this with me.)

 

[Saffron]

I wouldn't share what your friend told you either, so without knowing what's going on ........... the best advice I think we can give you is to follow your heart.

 

[loisg1]

Just letting her know that you're someone she can talk confidentially to about this issue will probably help her a lot.

 

[honeywolf7]

So, should I approach her and bring it up or should I write her a note or what letting her know that I'm here for her?

 

[Saffron]

Follow your heart Beccy. It will tell you what to do.

 

[honeywolf7]

Saffron, my heart told me to give her a hug but my shyness/reserve held me back from doing that.

 

[JulesMom]

I would just say--I'm here, if you need to talk.

You sound like a great roommate.

 

[honeywolf7]

Thanks, Julesmom....I'm not always the way I should be with the housework but when it comes to sharing my heart, etc. I'm definitely good.

 

[goofygirl]

If you find it hard to say the words out loud, why not buy a card? There's plenty of ones about friendship. I'm sure you'll find one that says you'll support her, or something along those lines. You can slyly leave it for her before you leave for work one day, and then leave the apt if you feel awkward about her reading it in front of you.

 

[honeywolf7]

Thanks, Goofygirl. That's a really good idea.

 

[Saffron]

Awwww! Well, here is one to get you started! {{{{Hug}}}}. It feels awkward to start hugging people at first, but once you get used to it, it's hard to stop. Goofygirl's idea is great.

 

[Rajah]

Goofygirl beat me to it, but I was also going to suggest a card if you didn't feel comfortable giving her a hug yet because you're too shy. *hugs*

 

[newmousecateer]

Just treat her the way you would want to be treated if the roles were reversed and you will be fine.

 

[Serena]

As someone with a few secrets of my own. She wouldn't have said anything if she didn't like and trust you. A card would be really nice.

 

[browneyes]

I'd talk to her when the 2 of you are alone and just tell her if she ever needs to talk, you'll be there for her and you won't talk to anyone about things.