my neighbor came over to my house and yelled at me for

[grlpwrd]

I would purposely drive fast now. And spit on him if he came to my door or push him down the stairs. 2 weeks ago I had a neighbor say my kids were to noisy. I live in a town house so we share a wall. She came and yelled they are too loud and bang all the time and we are so loud she can't hear her TV. I also watch 2 kids and she told me that was against the bylaws which I checked and doesn't say anything. She was watching through my windows and at the foot of my stairs before she came to yell at me that crazy woman. I now let my kids bounce off the walls. after 7pm they need to be good but they were always fine before. Now I am hoping she comes to my house so I can give her a piece of my mind. I wanted to before but I had kids at my house and wasn't going to make a scene and my husband wouldn't let me go to her house when they left.

Why advise the OP to break the law and put people at risk? I don't understand the retaliation mentality. I would not suggest to the OP to retaliate in any way as this could put her, her family, and others in jeopardy. Retaliation would not be a good thing.

Well, I don't agree with speeding, obviously, since it is against the law. But my suggestion to those of you with children &/or pets is to keep them in your yard. It is not the rest of the world's responsibility to watch out for your kid or pet who may be in the street. As a child, I wasn't allowed in the street, knew it, and didn't go in the street. The few times I did go in the street, I was reprimanded and got the message. I have a pet. We fenced in our yard, to the tune of about $3000, to keep the pet contained.

There are also laws that protect pedestrians. They have the right of way no matter what.... plus there are leash laws in many states. Are you saying that the freedom of drivers takes precedence over the safety of kids, pets, and other pedestrians?

OP, FWIW I think you handled it well. Calling the cops was a good step to take, especially since it wouldn't behoove you to mediate with your neighbor directly. I can understand being pro-safety, but this guy sounds craaazzzyyyy.

 

[ericamanda01]

This guy sounds like he had a bad day and decided that you were his target. If he comes to your house again don't open the door, just talk to him through it. If he asks why tell him to think back to his tantrum on you first encounter with him. I would also let those that live around you know of his behavior. Now i'm not saying to gossip and turn everyone around you against him. Just explain that his behavior can be a little intimidating.

 

[JerseyJanice]

Maybe the guy was having a bad day?

Still, if you were me, my husband would have gone to his house and ripped his head off.

 

[Patty3]

I am glad that you contacted the police, when you call them back ask if the office wrote a Police Information Report and request a copy of it. There are alot of crazies out there, stay safe and I would not answer the door to him again.

 

[Alicnwondrln]

Well the police went to him home again today and no one was home. They said if he comes anywhere near me to call the police immediately

So we will see I hope he wont come near me again.

we shall see....

 

[Kimickey]

What a moron! You are a very nice person. I think if he had come up to MY front door and started yelling at me. I would have said wait a second "Sir". Kindly shut the door and would have gotten DH to handle the rest. DH is not a small guy and Mr. Man would have left with a totally different attitude. Kudo for you for keeping your cool.

 

[KimR]

Is he married? I think you need to introduce him to RickinNYC's neighbor!

 

[Jeanny]

well, not defending him, but maybe he was having a bad day, that's not an excuse for yelling at you.... This would probably antagonize him, but slow way down, almost to a stop next time you see him and ask him if he thinks you're driving slow enough now and let him know you've called the police on him for harassing you.

 

[MouseEars4us]

At our old house (2 streets over) we had a big house and barn...our property bordered 2 roads, front and back. We got a new neighbor in the back, and shortly after 2 cows for the pasture...he came up to our porch one morning, mad as a hornet, because he had cows next to him. Imagine that! You move to the country and some idiot has real cows!!
Well, my DH was stunned and speechless. But the next day, took him some fresh beef from our freezer, reminded him it is the country and offered to let him put a cow in the pasture too! That neighbor turned out to be the best guy, he watched our house when we were gone, became quite neighborly, our kids would swim in their pool... and he even said he missed the cows when they were gone.

Maybe your neighbor was having a bad day, maybe he just made a mistake. It was a good idea to be defensive and call the police, but also consider giving him a second chance. Have your DH or SO take a plate of Christmas Cookies over...is my "country-ness" showing?

 

[luvindisneyworld]

I love this idea.

well, not defending him, but maybe he was having a bad day, that's not an excuse for yelling at you.... This would probably antagonize him, but slow way down, almost to a stop next time you see him and ask him if he thinks you're driving slow enough now and let him know you've called the police on him for harassing you.

 

[Rafikifan]

Well, I don't agree with speeding, obviously, since it is against the law. But my suggestion to those of you with children &/or pets is to keep them in your yard. It is not the rest of the world's responsibility to watch out for your kid or pet who may be in the street.

You sound intelligent so I'm sure you didn't mean this the way it sounded in your post. While many communities have leash laws for pets, children are a whole different issue. If we lived in a city or near a highway or intersection then my children wouldn't be allowed on the street. But there are still MANY places in the USA that kids are welcomed to play ball and ride their bikes in the street. They know their rules and they have good old kid fun like it should be. And ANYONE who is driving a vehicle is to take responsibility and yield to pedestrians whether they are 7 or 70. I sure hope that you are a more responsible driver than your post sounded.

 

[luvthatduke]

"...my DH was stunned and speechless. But the next day, took him some fresh beef from our freezer, reminded him it is the country and offered to let him put a cow in the pasture too! That neighbor turned out to be the best guy, he watched our house when we were gone, became quite neighborly, our kids would swim in their pool... and he even said he missed the cows when they were gone."

Now that's what I call a class act!


Kelly, I'm the one who posted about a neighbor problem,
and I wanted to clarify that if this guy approaches you
again, and isn't being nice & neighborly, than I would
suggest you & DH go to the police station & actually
file a complaint against him (if you didn't already).
That puts it into the legal realm
& the police can do more (if they need to) with your complaint on file.
Once we filed our complaint (after playing nice, which was rejected,
and after several more altercations),
our neighbor was called by the sergeant & "invited" in to talk to him.
He didn't stop his harrassment, and so was officially cited.
I do hope & pray that this guy just had a bad day,
and the next time you see each other you can start over...

 

[Alicnwondrln]

Well the police did make a report and they are sending me acopy. I drive by that house sooo slow now and if i did see him out front I would love to stop and say am i going slow enough for you ? oh and by the way I called the cops on you. LOSER!!!!
I asked the cops if I should contact them to resolve things but the cops said in his day thats what people did there was civility to things but no any more and since I dont knwo there name and dont have there phone number I shoudl just stay away. Do not go to there home and try to speak with them as conversation can and does end up with confrontation. I think hes right cuz im still pissed and think I would just end up yelling back at this man.
Thanks for the advice everyone !!
Have a great day !

 

[septbride2002]

Maybe the guy was having a bad day?

That doesn't give anyone the right to unleash on someone. Especially to blind side them at their home and make them fearful. Good gosh what are some of you thinking. She already stated that she was not speeding.

I'm sorry this happened to you and from your post it looks like you have done everything that you can at this point. If he harrasses you again I have two words - Restraining Order. Also if he ever shows up on your porch again politely remind him that he is trespassing on private property.

~Amanda

 

[ericamanda01]

Just an evil little thought. The next time you see him pulling out of his drive way make sure to slow down to a near halt. I think he will get the idea when he can't back out of his driveway! Then as your leaving the neighborhood go just as slow! What can he do, complain that your going to slow!!! I just don't understand people like that.

 

[SueM in MN]

"...my DH was stunned and speechless. But the next day, took him some fresh beef from our freezer, reminded him it is the country and offered to let him put a cow in the pasture too! That neighbor turned out to be the best guy, he watched our house when we were gone, became quite neighborly, our kids would swim in their pool... and he even said he missed the cows when they were gone."

Now that's what I call a class act!
....

I agree.
My DH had the same thing happen to him a few years ago. He was outside washing his white RAV 4 (small SUV) when a man walked up and laid into him for speeding. DH told him he was not around during the times the guy said it was happening, but would still watch his speed since speeding in a residential area is bad (ie; say you didn't do it and kill him with kindness).

We couldn't figure it out since we live on a cul de sac and no one who lived there had a similar vehicle. Also DH was leaving for work before 6 am and usually getting back after 6 pm, and the guy said it was happening at various times during the day. No one was even at our house during the day most of the time.
A few days later, I was off and heard a car whizz by and looked out - a small, white SUV. It turned out the boyfriend of a girl down the cul de sac from us brought her home from school each afternoon. He stayed for about 30 minutes, then whizzed by again. The next few times I was off, I watched for him. He came pretty much like clockwork, whizzing by; then the next time was slower. We heard from some neighbors that the guy who yelled called the police and told them to watch for my DH who was "still speeding, even though I talked to him". When the police came, they caught the real speeder.