My family and I were just in a really bad accident. **Update on p.12

[Miller1412]

God is good, prayers that the angels that protected you will also keep your daughter secure and peaceful.

Hugs to everyone.

 

[Tiger Fan]

Just wanted to say I am so glad you are all going to be ok. Prayers are on the way for everyone involved.
Lisa
Tiger Fan

 

[cristbaby]

Oh you poor dear. I'm so glad you and your family are ok. Prayers and for all of you.

 

[grlpwrd]

 

[Kallison]

Praise God you are ok, prayers for everyone involved.

 

[raammartin]

Oh my gosh, Desnik, you and your family were so lucky! I can hear the pain in your post. Please don't feel guilty that you were the one driving. Just think, it could have turned out differently, worse, if you weren't the one driving. Obviously you did the best you could to avoid the trailer and your best was good enough - you are all alive. My prayers go out to your children, your husband, you, and everyone else involved.

 

[Sandy22]

Thank God you are all safe.

 

[wdw4life]

All of you are in my prayers.

 

[barkley]

isnt it amazing what we can do, not even thinking about it, a reflex action that makes every difference in the world? i had a friend who was driving down a 2 lane highway with deep ditches filled with water on both sides. suddenly she saw headlights coming straight at her-in a split second without thinking about it she laid down on the seat and held the steering wheel as straight as she could. she was hit head on but did not end up in the ditch (were she would have surely drowned). asked her how she thought of it-she replied "i don't remember thinking at all, i just did it". amazing thing the human mind.

regarding your little girl-don't be at all surprised if she is very clingy for a long time. little minds have to work these things out, even with professional help they just have to work thier minds around it in their own time. i had 2 stokes over the course of 5 months, both when my son was at school. he was 5 at the time. he became attached at the hip to me for almost a year-did not want me to leave him at school (in his mind-"mommy gets sick when i'm at school" and since he was aware that i was now at home all day no longer going to work...). it took time and patience (i would stay at school with him for the first hour, then 50 minutes, 40, ... until he told me "it's o.k. mommy you can go home WE will be o.k."

def. have your husband let his therapist know what's going on-as a PTSD person myself, i can say it is much better to address issues sooner vs. later.

my prayers are with you.

 

[Aimee K]

for you desnik
for your dh
for your dd
for you ds

 

[marlasmom]

It is a miracle that you escaped without serious injury. Thank God.

 

[disneydreamer98]

Thank God that you and your family are all okay!

 

[Kahana-ri]

What a scary story. I am just glad that you and your family are o.k. It all sounds so terrifying. I have never been in a major accident while driving myself, but could only imagine how shook up your family is. Take great care if each other.

 

[Mermaid02]

Thank God you are all okay- I hope the truck driver will pull through. Everyone will probably be really sore for a couple of days... I say watch some Disney flicks, order out and enjoy being together.

 

[justplaingoofy]

What a scary thing to go through. I am so glad to hear that all of you are okay. I am sprinkling pixie dust all over you and your family.

 

[tevagirl]

Wow, that must have been absolutely awful to witness let only be involved in. I am very happy that you and your family are okay. I hope the driver of the truck is also going to be alright. I think with time your DD will be okay. It's too fresh in her poor little mind right now. God bless you all.

 

[Martha7]

That's a terrifying story, but it sounds as though as a driver, you did a great job! A trailer like that is immense in size, and couldn't be avoided! I had an accident way back in 1977, when I was going through a green light, and another car ran the red, and just appeared in front of us. We weren't seriously hurt, although my car was totalled. I still feel a little pang of fear whenever I enter a busy intersection! I agree with the other posters who say to get the kids to their pediatrician for a check-up, and get your DH and DD into therapy when you can. Sometimes they need to work something out with a trained therapist, who can give them a way to go on with their lives, without living in fear of the next unforeseen occurrence. I'm sure it's hitting your DD for the first time that we're not invulnerable, and that bad things can happen, even when we're doing nothing wrong! Thanks for sharing your story with us! Take it easy for a while, and give yourselves time to heal, emotionally and physically!

 

[chris1gill]

I'm so sorry How did the night go for you and your family? Sometimes the second day you are quite sore...

You had angels looking out for you last night fore sure... good driving, a good vehicle and a lot of luck were on your side....

Hope you are feeling better today...

 

[Desnik]

Again thank you all for your prayers. You all are so wonderful and kind.

All of us will be going to our Dr's on Mon. just as a check up to make sure we are all OK. DH will be calling his therapist today and she will also be able to get us someone for DD to talk to.

DH and I really couldn't sleep last night. Everytime I closed my eyes I kept seeing the trailer coming at me. I don't think I'll ever get that out of my head. DH won't let me leave his side. I'm trying really hard to keep things together for everyone. My whole life I have always been "the strong one", everyone always leaning on me for support. I just am trying really hard to be strong and not fall apart. I can only handle so much.

When DH finally fell asleep he was talking in his sleep(which is actually normal for him!!LOL)he was saying look out, OMG, watch out, the trailer. It's so haertbreaking. DS woke up this morning and said, "momma, car broke? Daddy boo boo." I can't believe he remembers and knows what's going on.
When the accident happend and we got out of the car I was just sitting on the floor with both my kids, holding them and now I remember my little guy saying "oh no, car broke!"

As someond mentioned I know what you mean about the people who witnessed the accident. This one girl was just wide eyed looking at me and she was just saying I was looking in my rear view mirror and I just saw your car flipping. When we went to the hospital, the girl that was taking our info told me that she saw everything. She was on the other side a few cars behind the trailer. She was shaking and told me she was in shock and couldn't believe we were OK. She said I am so shooken up I can't imagine how you feel. I just started to cry but had to hold it back cause I didn't want to scare my kids.

I really want to thank you all for letting me share all this with you. It really helps to get it all out. Sadly I don't feel like I have family to turn to. My DSIS and I have drifted apart over the past year, my mom and I haven't talked for over 2 weeks after having a big fight, my dad can't handle stuff like this(they are divorced and he lives 1.5 hrs away), and really there is no one else. My mom and sis came yesturday and my mom just can't handle it and she had the nerve to tell me "you would have felt really guilty for not talking to me if something would've happened to you" WHAT???!!
My sister was crying and she helped me and gave my son a bath and played with the kids. What really shocked me was how my MIL came, she was the first one at the hospital. She was far away too. She is even coming here today and will stay for a few days to help out any way she can. And this woman is sick, she really can't do much but play with the kids alittle while and she is really there for us. Not even my own mother! And we aren't even close to my MIL. Lot's of problems in the past with her and DH. She cried like a baby when she saw her son.

Hopefully today will be a better day. I am really feeling anxious when I think of any of us getting in a car. I just am really scared about anything happening to us.

 

[EthansMom]

I'm so glad to hear your family is safe!