My baby has a chromosonal defect? She's HERE & HEALTHY! Post 355!!!

[raysnkaysmom]

Saw the dr this morning... they did another ultrasound... the fluid amount on the next is extremely big... double size still...
Good news, still a good strong heart beat..
I went ahead and set up for the CVS procedure on Wed morning... then, it will probably be the longest 2 week wait of my life.

Talked abit more about the possibilites... including the heart defect...and, God Forbid Trisomy 18, although she thinks the Trisomy18 is unlikely. She is still leaning towards Downs, Turners or Congenetal heart defect. This is just a day to day thing tho.... Who knows how long I will carry... I just hope it all turns out fixable, and I carry to term.

Thanks you guys!

 

[mudman]

I was hoping for an update from you...

Hang in there. You've got a lot of prayers being said for you and your baby.

 

[CJBaby]

Hang in there. You've got a lot of prayers being said for you and your baby.

 

[anniemae]

Thank you for updating us. Sending lots of prayers and good thoughts your way. Hang in there.

 

[Dan Murphy]

...........Good news, still a good strong heart beat..
I went ahead and set up for the CVS procedure on Wed morning... then, it will probably be the longest 2 week wait of my life......

Continued prayers and good wishes for you and your little one, Tracy.

 

[Nik's Mom]

Hang in there! I know the waiting is so difficult! We have 2 special needs children and are involved with special olympics. I can tell you that no matter what, you will always love your child beyond words. I will pray that God gives you the strength that you need right now and in the future.

 

[mytwotinks]

Saw the dr this morning... they did another ultrasound... the fluid amount on the next is extremely big... double size still...
Good news, still a good strong heart beat..
I went ahead and set up for the CVS procedure on Wed morning... then, it will probably be the longest 2 week wait of my life.

Talked abit more about the possibilites... including the heart defect...and, God Forbid Trisomy 18, although she thinks the Trisomy18 is unlikely. She is still leaning towards Downs, Turners or Congenetal heart defect. This is just a day to day thing tho.... Who knows how long I will carry... I just hope it all turns out fixable, and I carry to term.

Thanks you guys!

I'm so happy that the heartbeat is still strong. I'll continue to keep your family in my prayers.

 

[Viki]

Hang in there! I know the waiting is so difficult! We have 2 special needs children and are involved with special olympics. I can tell you that no matter what, you will always love your child beyond words. I will pray that God gives you the strength that you need right now and in the future.

We, too, have two special needs children (now young adults doing great and even in college), and they are the most wonderful gift we ever received. Hang in there and you have our prayers.

 

[MomAndrea]

I am so sorry that you are going through this.

I had the same thing happen in my last pregnancy. We were given 1 in 5 odds that our baby would have a chromosomal abnormality. It was truly the scariest time of my life. I cried all the time. I was terrified.

My husband and I saw a genetic counsellor and reviewed all of our options. We had a lot of consider, including 2 other children. I had amniocentesis done.

My son Harry is now 21 months old and he is perfectly healthy with normal chromosomes .

I'll be thinking of you and your family.

 

[raysnkaysmom]

I am so sorry that you are going through this.

I had the same thing happen in my last pregnancy. We were given 1 in 5 odds that our baby would have a chromosomal abnormality. It was truly the scariest time of my life. I cried all the time. I was terrified.

My husband and I saw a genetic counsellor and reviewed all of our options. We had a lot of consider, including 2 other children. I had amniocentesis done.

My son Harry is now 21 months old and he is perfectly healthy with normal chromosomes .

I'll be thinking of you and your family.

Its so wonderful to hear these success stories!! I sure hope that is the case, although the chances seem so small
But this is what I've learned/decided. Overall, in life, I am an optimistic person (like the happy one who laughs in the SPECIAL MOTHER POEM), but with this particular situation, I am choosing to be pessimistic....well, to an extent. I've heard 98% of the possibilities, and I'm preparing for them. I figure this - If I suspect the worst, and I get it....it's ok, I'm prepared for it and have some knowledge of the situation. If I get anything better than the worst, I'll be happy and relieved. This way...I can only be ready for what comes my way... and not blindsighted by the news...

Thank you all so much for your words and concern.... I have always loved these boards, even though I've been (whats the word....snarked or somethin..lol) on occassion, and disagreed with from time to time... you guys have been a wonderful contribution to my 'real' life while dealing with this.

 

[OceanAnnie]

Tracy, I've been following this thread and keeping the baby, you, and your family in my thoughts and prayers. I'm hoping and praying that the scare has been a fluke.

 

[Tiggerlover91]

My advice...hold your faith...ask g-d for help....and know that no matter what your decision will have been the right one. Best to you and your little one and hoping things come out MUCH better than you thought.

 

[GoingBald]

I kknow I am in the minority here-



Personally, I'd have an abortion.

I love all the wonderful posts from the special needs people, however sometimes caring for that special needs child is not a bed of roses.

A very close relative, who is now in her 80's, has been unable to care for her special needs "child" for quite a long time. He wasn't supposed to live past teenage years-now 45 and a handful. He lives in a group home in another town & they bring him to visit once every 6 weeks or so. He has had several stessful incidences in the home, lots of health care issues that the state takes care of-and every
incident is reported to her and stresss her out immensly.

 

[alizesmom]

Praying for good results with the CVS. Karen

 

[raysnkaysmom]

I kknow I am in the minority here-



Personally, I'd have an abortion.

I love all the wonderful posts from the special needs people, however sometimes caring for that special needs child is not a bed of roses.

A very close relative, who is now in her 80's, has been unable to care for her special needs "child" for quite a long time. He wasn't supposed to live past teenage years-now 45 and a handful. He lives in a group home in another town & they bring him to visit once every 6 weeks or so. He has had several stessful incidences in the home, lots of health care issues that the state takes care of-and every
incident is reported to her and stresss her out immensly.

Although I respect your opinion, that isn't the question here.... And...even when it's this situation, it's called termination of pregnancy, not abortion, although I agree it basically boils to the same conclusion. As my mom pointed out to me...the 'bed of roses' analogy.... raising ANY child isn't always a bed of roses... but the times you see the roses through the thorns is worth it. And, she also talked about if something happened to me, the baby would more than likely have to go to a home...or if it was beyond my care control. All I can do, is do my best. If I'm meant to have this baby, I will carry to term. If not, I won't....it's just that. So, although I know some agree with you (though most not brave enough to say it....lol) it isn't the conclusion I will follow, and I don't want this thread to turn into a debate or people bashing others....
I will take what is given to me.....and do the best I can.

 

[mytwotinks]

Its so wonderful to hear these success stories!! I sure hope that is the case, although the chances seem so small
But this is what I've learned/decided. Overall, in life, I am an optimistic person (like the happy one who laughs in the SPECIAL MOTHER POEM), but with this particular situation, I am choosing to be pessimistic....well, to an extent. I've heard 98% of the possibilities, and I'm preparing for them. I figure this - If I suspect the worst, and I get it....it's ok, I'm prepared for it and have some knowledge of the situation. If I get anything better than the worst, I'll be happy and relieved. This way...I can only be ready for what comes my way... and not blindsighted by the news...

Thank you all so much for your words and concern.... I have always loved these boards, even though I've been (whats the word....snarked or somethin..lol) on occassion, and disagreed with from time to time... you guys have been a wonderful contribution to my 'real' life while dealing with this.

This sounds like a great plan. When I found out that there was something wrong with my first pregnancy I had so many people tell me their stories of "they said there was something and then the baby was perfect" which were nice, but not the case for me. We knew there was something there. We just didn't know exactly what it was going to be. I pretty much knew that my outcome wasn't going to be a "surprise everything is fine" conclusion to my worrying.

It's hard to plan for what you don't know, but I am so thankful that I was prepared for the fear at least. I can't imagine going into delivery and thinking everything was fine and then the shock and instant fear of a baby with special needs.

My best advice is to have your house in as much order as you can before baby is born. I had months away from home with my first. I didn't have any other children which made it easier, but I had to scramble to find out what to do with my pets. Have as much of that taken care of as you can in case baby doesn't come home with you right away because you will want to be at the hospital with your new baby. Have plans for childcare. Have some food at home that will be easy to make in a hurry in between hospital visits. Maybe even have someone who would be willing to take your laundry home and do it for you and bring it back up to you. Hopefully you won't be in that position, but if you are it will be nice to be able to concentrate on your kids and meeting their needs and not worrying about how to get yourself clean socks and unerwear!

 

[Laura]

Although I respect your opinion, that isn't the question here.... And...even when it's this situation, it's called termination of pregnancy, not abortion, although I agree it basically boils to the same conclusion. As my mom pointed out to me...the 'bed of roses' analogy.... raising ANY child isn't always a bed of roses... but the times you see the roses through the thorns is worth it. And, she also talked about if something happened to me, the baby would more than likely have to go to a home...or if it was beyond my care control. All I can do, is do my best. If I'm meant to have this baby, I will carry to term. If not, I won't....it's just that. So, although I know some agree with you (though most not brave enough to say it....lol) it isn't the conclusion I will follow, and I don't want this thread to turn into a debate or people bashing others....
I will take what is given to me.....and do the best I can.

I think what someone else would do in your situation is irrelevant.

 

[OceanAnnie]

Although I respect your opinion, that isn't the question here.... And...even when it's this situation, it's called termination of pregnancy, not abortion, although I agree it basically boils to the same conclusion. As my mom pointed out to me...the 'bed of roses' analogy.... raising ANY child isn't always a bed of roses... but the times you see the roses through the thorns is worth it. And, she also talked about if something happened to me, the baby would more than likely have to go to a home...or if it was beyond my care control. All I can do, is do my best. If I'm meant to have this baby, I will carry to term. If not, I won't....it's just that. So, although I know some agree with you (though most not brave enough to say it....lol) it isn't the conclusion I will follow, and I don't want this thread to turn into a debate or people bashing others....
I will take what is given to me.....and do the best I can.

I had a lump in my throat reading your post. You expressed yourself beautifully.

 

[handicap18]

In the end things will work out the way the work out.

We had a false positive for Trisomy 18 on our first. That was scary. We went to a level 2 ultra sound in Boston and there found it was false.

On our 2nd, they found "markers" (shorter leg and arm bones, enlargement in the back of the neck) and sent us for another level 2 ultra sound in Boston. The Dr there was sure it was Down syndrome. We then did another level 2 ultra sound with our Dr's specialist and he suggest an amnio to test for chromosomes. DW wanted to have answers one way or the other. We got the fish test back in a few days and there was an extra chromosome. She would be born with Down syndrome. Ok cool. Now we know. That was 4 years ago. M-E will turn 4 in November and she is right now a "typical" 3 year old. She has 47 healthy chromosomes. Its just that that 1 extra 21st chromosome makes some things a little harder for her. It effects every peson differently.

Because of her, we have met and become friends with a number of families we never would have run into.

Remember, everyone has issues. Some kids have to get braces, some kids have to wear glasses. Some kids are dyslexic. Some kids studder. Some have sensitivity issues. Some develop alergies. Some have an extra chromosome.

"Whats an extra chromosome between friends"

The power of positive thinking goes a long way.

 

[LotsOfQuestions]

Hang in there and praying for you to have the strength to handle whatever news comes your way. You sound like you already have a great attitude. I always hated the phrase "God gives you what you can handle" because I have seen too many examples of the contrary. But in your case, it seems the saying is right on.