My baby has a chromosonal defect? She's HERE & HEALTHY! Post 355!!!

[pigletgirl]

Hi there,

I just wanted to add that I have a cousin with down syndrome, and he is probably one of the most happy and joyful person I have ever met. He is just a joy to be around. He is also considered to be a 'high' functioning child, and is not too far behind his peers. (he is 9).

I wish you the best of luck, and hopefully everything turns out well.

 

[LittleBlue22]

s to you

 

[HelenePA]

As for having a baby with a heart defect that might die anyway.. I can assure you I have no regrets about giving my girl a chance at life.. The first time we found out she had a defect was anything but a good day. The dr wanted us to terminate right then and there (I was well over 24 weeks but its still legal if its due to medical problems). We just couldn't do it... we went for a 2nd ultrasound with a different dr who gave us a much much clearer picture of what was going on with her. We knew after the first ultrasound we were going to give her a chance no matter what but honestly technology is so far advanced its amazing what they can do for these little babies. Her defect was rated a 9 out of 10 the only one worse than hers is HLHS even most of these babies do well now with a 3 stage operation. Like I said before the CVS is not a big deal with pain.. if you've gone thru labor this is NOTHING compared to it. *hugs again* I wish you peace with what ever decision you come too.

 

[BuzznBelle'smom]

Best wishes to you in this difficult time.

I wanted to share some wisdom I got from a friend. She had a DD born 8 weeks premature, all sorts of problems, etc. When they brought the baby home from the hospital, they refused the apnea monitor. I asked her why would they do that--after all they'd been through with this baby? And my friend said, "If God is going to take her, who am I to stop Him?" I thought that was a really smart way of looking at things. And in your case, too--if God wants this child to be with you, then he or she will be. It's in His hands. And I'm not a religious person at all. But this is the child you are carrying, for whatever reason. And whatever is meant to be, will be.

 

[raysnkaysmom]

ahhhh...still torn....
Still mostly for the CVS ...then I read the post a few before this one who opted out of the amnio and had a healthy baby... There's just so many risks... either way...ahhhhhh

I have to go to work this morning...after very little sleep last night... Don't think I"ll make the whoe day, I'm gonna try..but generally, when things are bringing me down..the people at work cheer me up.. hope so today

Thanks again

 

[alldiz]

OP

I hope everything works out for you......It sounds like you have made your mind up either way and I credit you for that. I honestly don't know if I could be as strong as you.
God Bless you and yours
Kerri

 

[robinb]

Leave it to my mom to always be upfront... she tends to be negative...but I have to hear it all right now...

{{hugs again}} I think your mother is worried about you.

 

[maryisme]

Prayers to you and your baby.

 

[alizesmom]

I can't make your decisions for you but I can give insight into living with a severely disabled child (actually I have 2). There is a lot of work, stress, teaching yourself to be an advocate with schools, doctors, hospitals, insurance companies.... You become familiar with hospitals, you become isolated from friends/family who are afraid to come near. These are obvious and hard things to live with. That being said; your life will have a new joy, a new way of looking at things, a new beat to it. Your priorities will change and you will recognize and celebrate even the smallest accomplishment. There are days of utter frustration/anger/fear but even more there are days of complete contentment and joy. I'm praying that you find out all good things and that your little one is totally healthy but if you end up in my world you will find life is still sweet. Karen

 

[Briarmom]

 

[TinkPinkPoem]

 

[krcit]

Saying prayers for you

 

[Hoodie]

I am praying for you.

I just had mine done. I completely understand what you are going through.

For a bit of encouragement, my GF had her test comeback as a 1 in 8 chance of having a major deformity and she has a healthy baby boy.

We'll all keep praying for the best outcome!

 

[mom2boys77]

Just wanted to give When I was pg with ds I did the AFP and it came back higher than normal for downs but everything came back ok and he's fine. I am hoping for the best for you.

 

[SandrainNC]

My oldest son has Down syndrome. He is one of the best things that has ever happened to me. But boy was I in shock when we found out they were testing him. Nothing showed up on the ultrasound and we chose not to have the triple screen (it wasn't a very reliable test and we knew for us, our baby was our baby no matter what, etc. - I believe they have a new test now). He was born 8 weeks early (nothing to do with the Down syndrome) and they told us that night they weren't sure but saw some markers and were testing him. I remember how I felt when we found out two days later. Shock, sadness, a big pit in my stomach. The doctor who told us the test was positive stayed and talked to us and told us how he would go to school, play sports, etc. just like other children (so many doctors these days have outdated information). He was so positive and made us feel so much better. And he was right!!!! I would not trade my little sweety for anything.

Just be sure you get accurate updated information. And please feel free to PM me if you would like. Prayers for you and your family.

Sandra

 

[5 for WDW]

Just wanted to send some more good thoughts and prayers.

I know all too well what you are going through. We had a very similar experience with our daughter. All of my triple screen tests came back elevated and my 17 week sonogram had markers for chromosonal defects.
We were sent to a genetic specialist who ran more tests, including a Level II sonogram. Those came back clear. She still suggested an amnio but, we opted against it. I was only 29 at the time.

Our daughter was born healthy with no defects at all.

 

[Nik's Mom]

I'm praying for your family! Whoever said God doesn't give you more than you can handle is so right! You will be o.k. Please keep us posted.

 

[raysnkaysmom]

You guys have been great!! When I was talking to a few people at work, I referred back to the support Ive received here....
DBF and I are goin back to dr tomorrow to get more info....

I will keep ya'll posted

 

[Freyja]

Good luck tomorrow. Hoping for a very positive outcome for you.

 

[CJBaby]

Praying for you!