My 13yo niece was crushed and publicly humilated

[Disney1fan2002]

My sister called me yesterday morning to tell me what happened to my niece on Saturday.

She had been invited to her "friend's" Bat Mitsvah. She had been looking forward to going for weeks. My sister said ten minutes after she dropped her off, she gets a phone call from her asking to come and get her. She was asked to leave.

The girl's GRANDMOTHER told my niece in front of a room full of people that the girl did not like her, and she did not want her at her party. She was asked to leave. They allowed her to wait outside until my sister came.

As she was telling me this, I asked her if she went in and ripped the mother's face off. (That is what my sister would of done in the olden days, she doesn't take crap from anyone). She said my niece was really upset, so she dealt with her at the moment. When she got home, she typed out a letter informing this mother exactly what she thought. She then forwarded it to the school principle, the girls teacher and the girl's Rabbi. I guess one other girl from their Synagogue was asked to leave also.

I just can't imagine ANYONE allowing their child to do something like this, especially on a religious occasion. I feel so bad for my niece. My stomach has been in knots since yesterday just thinking about how she must of felt standing out there.

 

[wvjules]

If she didn't like her then why did she invite her? Just to humiliate and embarass her? That's awful!

 

[momof3disneyholics]

How horrible! Why was she invited then?

 

[TEENEE]

That poor girl. I wonder if the mom even knew what grandma had done. I'm sure the Rabbi will be more than a little upset at this.

 

[dcgrumpy]

That's a horrible thing to do.

I completely understand being angry but I don't understand why she would send a letter to her teacher and principal. the Rabbi I sort of understand since it was a Bat Mitzvah.

 

[Disney1fan2002]

How horrible! Why was she invited then?

Honestly, if a girl would do this, then I am guessing she planned it all along. She pretended to be her friend so she could invite her, then she did that to her and another girl. I can't think of any other scenerio.

 

[SandraVB79]

That's a horrible thing to do.

I completely understand being angry but I don't understand why she would send a letter to her teacher and principal. the Rabbi I sort of understand since it was a Bat Mitzvah.

I'm very sorry for your niece.
Who did invite her? Was it the girl, or the mother? Why did the grandmother tell her she wasn't invited? Was this "backed up" by the parents of the girl?

And why forward the letter to the teacher and principal? To embarass the girl in the same way as your niece got embarassed?

 

[hentob]

That's a horrible thing to do.

I completely understand being angry but I don't understand why she would send a letter to her teacher and principal.

I think maybe it was a good idea for the school to be aware of the high end bullying this girl has been up to

 

[4greatboys]

Im afraid I would have had to take granny down.

 

[Disney1fan2002]

That's a horrible thing to do.

I completely understand being angry but I don't understand why she would send a letter to her teacher and principal. the Rabbi I sort of understand since it was a Bat Mitzvah.

She sent the letter to the school, so the teacher and principal would be aware of what happened over the weekend, in case the girl tried to tease or harass my neice in school.

 

[denisenh]

Why do people have to be so mean? Poor kid. The party girl and her grandmother (at the very least) obviously have no class at all.

I hope that your neice knows that its not her....its them.

 

[rie'smom]

This is so sad. Is it any wonder that girls can be so petty with role models like this? I hope your niece recovers is doing ok.

 

[rgf207]

That's horrible. Kids can be so mean and I don't care how what the saying says that "Words don't hurt." Words hurt more than anything.

I'm glad the mother sent the letter to ths school and rabbi. I hope that girl gets what she deserves. It sounds like the whole thing was planned out.

 

[Mickey'sMainMami]

That really ticks me off! It is hard enough nowadays to be an adolescent, let alone having someone make such a scene in front of her friends and classmates. I wonder what is going to happen when she goes back to school with the kids she was humiliated in front of? You know kids can be cruel, I hope they don't start teasing and embarrassing her. Boy, if that were me, I would have went in and made an even bigger scene and got right into the grandmother's face. I figure if you are going to ruin my daughter's time, I will ruin your whole party!!! No one has the right to humiliate anyone like that, and that grown old woman should have known better. It is one thing if for some reason the woman is a crazy old kook or something, but if this was some horrible plan from the begining, well I would have went off! People like this make me sick! hugs for you niece!!

 

[SandraVB79]

Even if the grandmother is a crazy old kook, and told the niece she wasn't welcome, the parents or other people would/ could/ should have said "don't mind her, of course you are welcome".

It's so strange...

 

[ericamanda01]

What in the hell is wrong with that girls grandmother! I am sick at the thought that a grown woman would go along with such a cruel prank! I have to applaud your sister, if that had been me I think I would have caused such a huge scene.

 

[java]

Wow I am shocked by the selfish rudeness of some people. Your poor niece. Did your sister call up the parents and speak with them about it? And by speak I mean did she call them up and put them all in their place?

 

[4nana]

Bless your niece's heart.

How very sad as I can't imagine any adult, let alone grandmother, seeing fit to humiliate a child in public . GMa better be careful, as the saying goes, 'what goes around comes around.'
Kuddos to your sister for informing their school!

 

[tekmom]

What DIRTBAGS! Obviously, the parents agreed with grandma pig or they would have said something. I'm so sorry for your niece. Hopefully there will be nasty karma in the other bunch's future...I'm in a mood and crap like this just sets me on fire.

 

[DISshopkeeper]

That really ticks me off! It is hard enough nowadays to be an adolescent, let alone having someone make such a scene in front of her friends and classmates. I wonder what is going to happen when she goes back to school with the kids she was humiliated in front of? You know kids can be cruel, I hope they don't start teasing and embarrassing her. Boy, if that were me, I would have went in and made an even bigger scene and got right into the grandmother's face. I figure if you are going to ruin my daughter's time, I will ruin your whole party!!! No one has the right to humiliate anyone like that, and that grown old woman should have known better. It is one thing if for some reason the woman is a crazy old kook or something, but if this was some horrible plan from the begining, well I would have went off! People like this make me sick! hugs for you niece!!

As a Mom of two emerging from their teen years, going back in and causing a scene would not have been an option. Believe me, I would have WANTED to, but I KNOW either one of them would have begged me not to. While it would have made ME feel a lot better, it would certainly have added to THEIR humiliation.

What an AWFUL thing!!!!



I'd love to know what, if any, resposes she gets on the letters she sent!