Moving away from kids...

[soccerdad72]

 

[skylizard]

My story is quite straight, problem is others jumping from point A to point D... And then everyone else taking it as the gospel

Really? Then you know you know what do.

Do you love your kids?

Yes - you stay where you are

No - you move to Dallas


It's as simple as that.

 

[lustergirl]

Lol. You opened up yourself to the message board. I seriously think you should go. Your kids can get on with their life and hopefully find a new daddy. One that loves them and reminds them everyday they are wanted. Truthfully it happened to me when I was a kid. My step dad is my dad. My real dad. My sperm donor can rot. I know my twelve year old feels the same way about his donor. Its sad. I never wanted to see my son go through what I went through. But he found a real dad too. And I am so happy for him.

My older son is by another man besides my husband. My husband raised him and he hasn't seen his real father in about 20 years. Honestly who cares. My husband is his father and he will tell you so.

 

[HHSTigerFan]

this is confusing... it sounds like you're saying you fly 4 times each weekend. So in that case, when are you actually "working" on the weekend. You can't be a flight stewart, because you wouldn't gain miles that you said you have. what is your weekend work??

One trip to my place is actually two as it's non a non stop, that's why 4 trips per week.. My job?? Director for elite travel baseball tournaments..

 

[ceemys]

There isn't anything that would separate me from my children....even divorce. Maybe you can seek some counseling on how to cope with the stress. Or find a supprot group. Do you have a job now? Maybe search for something different. I think you leaving would be a heavier weight on your shoulders and your children.

 

[RitaE]

One trip to my place is actually two as it's non a non stop, that's why 4 trips per week.. My job?? Director for elite travel baseball tournaments..

Wow, sounds so fancy. It's a shame you have to live with your Mom or Friends or New Girlfriend and won't even pay rent on your own apartment being a Director for Elite and all that.

Well, tough economy and everything. People are suffering out there.

 

[Tinker'n'Fun]

I waited for all the little "new" information to be put in play before I answered. If I was your soon to be "ex" and or your mother, I would pay for you to go - but one way. Leave but with a promise to never come back would be required. I am sure you would have no problem cashing the check.

It would be the best thing for your children. I hope your children find a real male influence in there life. My only concern would be your new "financial" clients.

 

[aaarcher86]

I waited for all the little "new" information to be put in play before I answered. If I was your soon to be "ex" and or your mother, I would pay for you to go - but one way. Leave but with a promise to never come back would be required. I am sure you would have no problem cashing the check.

It would be the best thing for your children. I hope your children find a real male influence in there life. My only concern would be your new "financial" clients.

You should have waited. I'm sure more justifications are coming!

 

[Soldier's*Sweeties]

You should have waited. I'm sure more justifications are coming!

Meh...I'll wait for the back peddling.

 

[skylizard]

Seems like you've already made up your mind according to another thread on the transporation board. You're planning on going to Dallas in December for 4 weeks to "surprise" someone. Hmmm...
Missing xmas with your kids to be with the new girlfriend?
If that's the case, then yes, move away. They deserve better.

 

[aaarcher86]

I will add you to the I list of board blowhards posting assumptions...

I mean, that's kind of a safe one. Getting in on the 4th and staying 4 weeks puts you past the holidays.

 

[skylizard]

I will add you to the I list of board blowhards posting assumptions...

So prove me wrong. Are you not going to Dallas for 4 weeks? Are your kids going with you?

 

[sunnyday123]

One trip to my place is actually two as it's non a non stop, that's why 4 trips per week.. My job?? Director for elite travel baseball tournaments..

McDonalds is *always* hiring.

Did you really think coming to a board that is predominately women, who take their families to Disney, would comiserate with you?? Did you think the martyr thing you have going would work?? Dude, you're a whiny, selfish, immature man-child who hooked up with a woman who's husband committed suicide this past summer, probably because he found out his wife was having an affair with her college boy-toy. And mere months after that, you're going to go live with them, abandoning your own children.

I bet your name is Richard.

 

[skylizard]

Your words from the other thread:

"Flying into Dallas late Dec 6, staying down for about 4 weeks"

and

"Want to make this a total surprise, won't know I am in town until I knock on the door"

 

[RitaE]

I will add you to the I list of board blowhards posting assumptions...

Sure. Look, you are acting like such a stereotype that I can even make a pretty good prediction of how this is going to turn out.

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~Four years from now he'll be on the Next, Next, Next Girlfriend

~She'll say something like "You haven't seen your kids in four years? That's terrible!"

~He'll decide he needs to keep her from thinking he's a terrible person and try to get back in the kids lives. Kids and puppies are both awesome props when you want to show a woman your softer side.

~Next, Next, Next Girlfriend will decide that a new status of StepMommy is just awesome! She's a great StepMommy!!!!

~And she wants a Super Duper Family Extravaganza trip to Disney so she can PROVE to everybody what an awesome StepMommy she is to those poor deprived children who have a terrible Mother.

~She secretly starts planning the Disney Wedding where the kids gaze adoringly at her in her filmy white gown and secretly wish that other Mommy was more like her.

~He'll will be back on the DIS saying "Ex wife won't let me take my kids on vacation because she is jealous and vindictive of me and my awesome Girlfriend who is an awesome StepMommy."

~DISers, not realizing the entire background -- will start throwing advice at him on how to enforce the Visitation Rights that he's pretty much ignored for four years.

~But it won't matter because Next, Next, Next Girlfriend will realize that all that Unpaid Child Support the State just garnished his wages for will mean no money for her Disney wedding and in that case, what is the point?

~ She'll dump him 5 weeks before the Disney Extravaganza. He won't be all that interested in carting the kids around Disney then because he is too busy trolling the bars for Next, Next, Next, Next Girfriend and kids really cramp your style when you're trying to pick up the bar floozies.

~He'll make up some sort of excuse tied to how it is ALL their Vindictive Mother's reluctance to bring him back into their lives and he'll cancel the vacation and disappear from their lives for another four years.

~But first he'll buy them a box full of inappropriate and mis-aged toys and his now 14 year old child will say: "A Fisher Price Remote Control Car? Uhhhhhh, thanks??!!!!" Proving that the vindictive witchy first wife has totally poisoned his reputation with the kids.

~He is a victim, but nobody ever understands that.

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So I dare you to go ahead and prove me wrong. Be the exception and don't let THAT be your story.

 

[Squirlz]

Okay.....waiting for the "gotcha" post. This can't be real. Can it? Really? Please post a "gotcha".

That won't happen. The people who do this will keep it up as long as at least one person contunues to buy their story. Then they just disappear.

 

[Missy1961]

Why do I have a feeling this thread will be closed?

 

[Wishing on a star]

Rita, you are G O O D !!!!!!!

 

[Wishing on a star]

That won't happen. The people who do this will keep it up as long as at least one person contunues to buy their story. Then they just disappear.

Yep..... SO true!

But, it does make for some entertainment!

 

[Tinker'n'Fun]

Why do I have a feeling this thread will be closed?

In this situation is would be a blessing. Seriously, I grew up in a house of dysfunction and if the internet internet was like it is now I can't even imagine what I would have found through google.

Now lets just say 1/10th of the information is correct. In a few years the children start to google a few things about absent Dad. Maybe baseball tournament coordinator and Dallas together.

Funny thing about children, they are really good at finding things out. I know all about my Dad. I didn't even have the luxury of the internet.

Just my opinion, they are better off if it gets closed and he just leaves. Even if he is a troll but some of the information is coming from real life.

But my hope is that the part that is not true is the children.