Moms to be Part 4

[skuttle]

Pollito, LOVE the room!! I hope our baby cooperates at the end of the month so we can start working on the nursery! We moved into this house over 4 years ago and left the baby's room blank because we expected to have another baby quickly. Little did we know that room would sit empty and collect junk for 4 years!

SoccerPrincess, Yay for the heartbeat!! I wanted to wait until 12w to tell family and friends, but my DH couldn't wait that long. After my second ultrasound at 8w, we went ahead and told family and friends. I was a nervous wreck, but DH was just so excited and couldn't keep it in. I waited to tell my boss and coworkers (except one that I'm close to) until I was around 14w, which was the appointment after I heard the heartbeat with just the doppler (didn't hear it on 10w so had to have a third ultrasound). DH figured that if something did go wrong, we'd have to tell people why I was so depressed so why not just tell them the good news. The thought of having to un-tell people freaked me out, but DH put up with me during my craziness for the past 4 years TTC so the least I could do was let him enjoy this!

 

[lspst8]

Soccer -- I told my parents right away - within days of the positive home test. I told my supervisor at work around 8 weeks because I was so sick/fatigued that I wanted to start working reduced hours. Right now, I'm at 18 weeks and I think only about 5 people at work know that I'm expecting. I'm not going to do a big office anouncement because I'm not really friends with anyone here. I've slowly told my friends over the past few weeks. I have not made the big "facebook announcement" yet --- maybe at 20 weeks. Everyone's different, so there are no right or wrong answers to when to tell.

 

[JoanneDisFan]

Soccer- Tell when you feel comfortable about it. I told early on, but I also appreciated all the support my friends gave me when I did have a miscarriage last year. I've had their support throughout this entire pregnancy and it's helped me. I have another friend that just announced she is expecting and she is 5 months along already. Admittedly it's her 6th child and she was avoiding the rude comments about how many kids she has and is going to have.

AFM- I'm 38 weeks and only 8 days till my scheduled RCS. Time seems to drag on, but when I look back it's really flown by. I think I've got everything I need. I bought a box of diapers last week so I don't need to send DH to the store as soon as we get home. Washed the last of the baby clothes I've received yesterday. Part of me is still in denial about this baby being here, but every so often I get that shocked, panicked look of "Oh my goodness, what am I doing". Getting everything together for my DD and my puppy dog so they will be cared for while I'm in the hospital. Both are going over to my best friends place. Still need to let DD's teachers know she will be out on the 16th, but I figure I'll mention it at teacher conference on Friday. Also taking care of the details of my DD's birthday party, which we will have after her B-day. B-day is the 24th, and the party will be the 2nd of Oct. I feel like there is so much to do, but when I look at my list I have it all under control. Oh and to make life even more interesting my DD has her first Choir performance on the 17th. I told DH he needs to go and be there for her, that DS and I can hang out at the hospital by ourselves for that bit of time.

Didn't expect my post to turn into a novel, but life seems to get busier and busier the closer the date comes.

 

[DIS B]

We told the majority of our close friends and family around 8 weeks. I didn't tell many people at work until about 13 weeks or so, but somehow it got around very quickly. I finally told my students after all the testing came back negative (just the other day).

We go tomorrow for the ultrasound to learn the baby's sex. I'm so excited, yet I'm nervous. I think I have in my heart what I want it to be and I'm really scared there will be a small part of me that will be sad if isn't that. I feel like a horrible mother! We have a name picked out for one sex, but cannot agree at all on the other. Please tell me I'm not alone.

*Ultimately, I want the baby to be healthy. I thought I didn't care about what the sex was until recently. I started having dreams and I was so disappointed in the dream.

 

[monkeybug]

We told the majority of our close friends and family around 8 weeks. I didn't tell many people at work until about 13 weeks or so, but somehow it got around very quickly. I finally told my students after all the testing came back negative (just the other day).

We go tomorrow for the ultrasound to learn the baby's sex. I'm so excited, yet I'm nervous. I think I have in my heart what I want it to be and I'm really scared there will be a small part of me that will be sad if isn't that. I feel like a horrible mother! We have a name picked out for one sex, but cannot agree at all on the other. Please tell me I'm not alone.

*Ultimately, I want the baby to be healthy. I thought I didn't care about what the sex was until recently. I started having dreams and I was so disappointed in the dream.

I don't think that makes you horrible at all!!! I think it's perfectly normal to want the baby to be a certain sex, and then to be a little bit disappointed if it's not the one you had your heart set on. You'll love that baby no matter what (which you obviously already know), and you won't love it any more or less if it's a boy or girl. It's totally OK to hope for one more a tiny bit more than the other!!
Good luck at that ultrasound!

 

[DIS B]

I don't think that makes you horrible at all!!! I think it's perfectly normal to want the baby to be a certain sex, and then to be a little bit disappointed if it's not the one you had your heart set on. You'll love that baby no matter what (which you obviously already know), and you won't love it any more or less if it's a boy or girl. It's totally OK to hope for one more a tiny bit more than the other!!
Good luck at that ultrasound!

Thank you for making me feel normal. I guess I'm feeling a little more anxious because this is going to be our only child. Most people are like, "Next time we'll try for the other sex..." This is it.

I think the fact we don't have a name for the other sex is really weighing on me too. If it turns out to be this one, I may be soliciting names from everyone on here!

 

[ArielSRL]

Congrats Ariel! I'm expecting my first too, and everyone has been so helpful here.

Thank you!

ArielSRL - welcome! Your first appointment is the day after my RCS!

Thank you! Ok, what's RCS?

 

[ArielSRL]

Welcome Ariel!

Congrats!

Thank you both!

 

[DIS B]

I had my ultrasound today and I thought I would let you know that everything is good with the baby. Although, I have to go back in 2 weeks because the baby was facing away and we couldn't get any facial pictures (to check the nasal cavity, etc).

We saw the three lines, so it looks like we are having a girl. I feel silly for even having made that post last night. I think I was just nervous about the whole thing in the first place. Today, I was actually hoping for a boy (which was the sex we didn't have a name for). I'm so happy either way.

 

[Pollito916]

DIS B - congrats on joining team pink!

Ariel - RCS = Repeat c-section

As for telling, we told close family and friends right away, others at the end of the first trimester, including work. With the first, I waited a few weeks longer with work, but I was showing sooner with this one. I didn't make a FB post until after the big u/s.

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I had my 37 week appt today, but my dr was called away for a delivery right after I got in the examination room and was sitting on the table with no bottoms on. 30 minutes later, the NP finally came by to do my exam, and no change since last week. I'm still 1 cm and 50% effaced. Oh well, at least I have a date in site. I just wish I could get everything wrapped up at work before next week. I'm almost there, but waiting on other people for some things, which I hate doing.

 

[sunlover13]

Is there a board where parents review daycare centers in their area? I tried googling a couple of the places and couldn't find very many reviews.

We are still having a hard time finding daycare and my thought is I'll feel safer putting the baby in a daycare center 3 days a week vs. having a stranger watch him in my home or their home.

I'd like to find reviews on daycare centers if they are out there.

Anyone know?

 

[LaurenLC]

Is there a board where parents review daycare centers in their area? I tried googling a couple of the places and couldn't find very many reviews.

We are still having a hard time finding daycare and my thought is I'll feel safer putting the baby in a daycare center 3 days a week vs. having a stranger watch him in my home or their home.

I'd like to find reviews on daycare centers if they are out there.

Anyone know?

It might be worth looking to see if there are any reviews on Yelp.com

 

[ArielSRL]

Ariel - RCS = Repeat c-section

Thanks!

You are so close!

 

[cmskok]

Hi ladies! Well I had my 38 week checkup and my blood pressure is high...so my RCS is scheduled for this Wednesday! I cannot believe that I can only feel my little guy kick me for 48 more hours---I am going to miss this pregnancy as it is definitely my last!

Anyway, the panic has set in. I went straight to the grocery store to get "easy" foods. I am queen of all natural and healthy so my DS could not believe the junk that I got (corn dogs, cookies, uncrustable sandwiches) but I do not know how my big kids are going to react and how "good" this little guy will be, so I just want mealtimes to be easy for a few weeks. I will get back into my organics later

Anyway, I will post pics as soon as I can after he comes (hopefully we can settle on a name!!!) Take care everyone!!!

 

[sunlover13]

It might be worth looking to see if there are any reviews on Yelp.com

Thanks! I just checked yelp.com and there is only 1 - 2 reviews per place. It would be so nice to find a board like disboards for daycare.

Hi ladies! Well I had my 38 week checkup and my blood pressure is high...so my RCS is scheduled for this Wednesday!

Good luck!

 

[Pollito916]

cmskok - good luck! Come back and post pics and let us know how the RCS went when you get a chance! I'll be right behind you next Tuesday!

 

[Pollito916]

sunlover - I just got an e-mail from ivillage advertising a website called Care.com that has reviews of daycares and nannies. I haven't checked it out myself yet, but thought of you when I saw the e-mail.

I also got an e-mail about a giant consignment sale near me, that has a pre-sale on Thursday for moms due before 12/31. I was wondering how they're going to have people prove that? I'm due 9/28, so I'm pretty sure they won't question me, but was thinking more about people that are due right around 12/31 and don't look like they've swallowed a basketball.

 

[TSRE]

Hi everyone! Haven't been on in a while, so I thought I would pop in and say hello. Congratulations to all of the new people, and Piecey, he is adorable! Such good color - he hardly looks like a newborn!

I have definitely crossed the line into the "when will this be over" phase - until I look at the nursery and realize I need a few more months . It is coming together, though, and should be done in time. Pollito, your nursery looks great. I think I will feel so much more prepared when I can get everything put away & ready - instead of in bags thrown on the floor.

The baby is healthy and in position already, which was worrying me for some reason. I have had a few 3D ultrasounds, which were really fun. It is so amazing to see what they actually look like ahead of time. We both think she looks like DH's side of the family - it will be interesting to see how it turns out.

I feel pretty good, too, except I can't eat anything without my throat/upper chest feeling like its on fire. That's minor, though, and I guess will keep me from gaining too much weight, since nothing ever sounds good to me. We were going out to eat last weekend, and I changed my mind no less than 7 times about where I wanted to go. Thank God for a patient husband!

I can't remember who posted it, but I am right there with you on wanting to meet the baby, but not go through the labor part. I am dreading it so much more than I did before - I think because I actually remember the others. But the prize on the other side is so worth it - I just keep trying to remember that.

Sorry for the rambling!

 

[sunlover13]

sunlover - I just got an e-mail from ivillage advertising a website called Care.com that has reviews of daycares and nannies. I haven't checked it out myself yet, but thought of you when I saw the e-mail.

Thanks! I'll check it out.

I have definitely crossed the line into the "when will this be over" phase - until I look at the nursery and realize I need a few more months . It is coming together, though, and should be done in time. Pollito, your nursery looks great. I think I will feel so much more prepared when I can get everything put away & ready - instead of in bags thrown on the floor.

Me too! I want to have this baby now! However, I look at the baby's room and realize we are nowhere near ready.

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We did go shopping this weekend, but it is all sitting in a bag on the dining room table. DH did dig out the bottle sterilizer, the bassinet, sheets, etc. Now, I need to wash everything and get it all organized. I found 2 huge bags of pull up diapers and 2 packages of swim diapers from DD who is almost 8 yrs old! I can't believe I saved that stuff. Although, they are size 4's and larges so it will be awhile before we can use them.

I had my 34 week appt yesterday where the doc listened for the heart beat and measured my stomach, that's about it. He thinks the baby flipped and is not breech anymore just based on where he found the heartbeat. He starts internal exams at my next appt in 2 weeks which would be my 36 week appt. So, I guess we will know for sure then where he is and which way he is facing, etc.

Still haven't found daycare, but at this point, I don't even care and don't want to stress about it. Maybe I'll get to stay home.

I just got an email from Walmart and my bedding is ready for pickup. I got a Mickey set called Moonlight Mickey or something along those lines. It has Mickey & Pluto on it. I'll post pics once we have it all ready. It was only $40 at Walmart. I wanted the baseball Mickey, but couldn't justify spending $160 for it.

Hope everyone is doing well!

 

[JoanneDisFan]

Had my 39 week check up this morning. Still only fingertip dilated, but Dr is sure He is 9-10 lbs and just too big to cause much dilation. Got all my last instructions for Thursday morning. Then after the appointment the hospital called to tell me how much I need to pay and instructions for my pre-op appointment tomorrow. I go in at 8:30 am tomorrow for the paperwork and blood work. Then at 7:30 am Thursday Dr will start the c-section in the OR. I'll probably have to be there by 5:30am. Wonder if I'll be able to get much sleep the night before. Trying to get everything organized. Making sure everyone knows whats going to happen and when DD needs to be. I'm starting to get nervous, but also relieved that the end is so close and I will be holding my baby boy in just 2 days.