Moms to be Part 4

[Mrs. Charming]

Welcome dizluvah! I'm happy to see someone else who's still early on. I felt left out, lol! Don't be afraid. Being a new mom is the coolest thing EVER. It's all new and exciting, and you get to meet this wonderful new little person. You discover all these strengths you never knew you even had, and your life changes perspective. It's really neat. Don't let the books and advice scare you-- you learn to do what best for you and baby.

 

[Piecey]

Anyone ever had a disagreement about delivery options with their DH?

This could get long, I apologize.. it's probably going to be a lot of hormonal venting.

DH and I are about a trillion percent positive this is it for us, kid whise. Since I'm going to have a c-section the logical thing is for me to get my tubes tied.

Problem being that there are 2 hospitals in town. One I love, one I hate. The one I love- where my OB keeps her practice, where I delivered DS, where I always go is Catholic. So no permanent birth control, no possibility of getting my tubes tied.
Second hospital I really loathe. I've always hated it for various reasons and DH convinced me to have surgery there this summer (my preferred hospital had a waiting list of over 3 months) and I hated the entire experience. Admittedly, I went in unhappy to be there but nothing impressed me and made me think "Hey, this place isn't so bad after all..."

DH thinks I'm being a bit crazy by refusing to deliver there. I feel like they have inadequate patient care and felt like I was taken care of a million times better at the other hospital. My cousin is even a L&D nurse at the non-Catholic hospital and she has been working on me for months to switch and go there. She called me a traitor for telling her no.

When I had DS, I loved all my nurses to death. I loved that the rooms weren't sterile and white, they were decorated and warm. I didn't feel like I was in a hospital and almost went back to visit the nurses a few months later! I truly loved it there.

So I've been sticking to my guns and I think I'm pissing him off. I offered to go get my tubes tied ASAP after the c-section since it would be same-day and I wouldn't be there for long. He's not wild about that idea because it's another surgery and another period of time I am off of my feet for a bit.

He's now trying to convince me to deliver at a hospital across the river in Ohio. It's about a half hour from here and not a terrible option except that my OB doesn't have priveleges there and I'd have to find a new doctor.
I had a pretty crappy labor with DS but she stuck with me until almost midnight, even though the on-call OB was there and only had one other patient (so the on-call could have easily taken care of me, too). That meant a TON to me and spoke a lot (to me) about her character and that she really cares about her patients. She was with just me after her practice closed at 4 until midnight, she didn't even leave the hospital.

It's a bit of a mess and my hormones aren't allowing me to keep my cool. I think at the end of the day I'm going to put my foot down. It's my body getting sliced open to pull out a kid I've been baking for 9 months... I think I should get to go where and with whatever OB I am most comfortable with! That isn't crazy, right?

 

[Mrs. Charming]

I dunno what to say, Piecey. I'm kind of at a crossroads myself.

Maybe you can look into the Ohio hospital, maybe do a tour, see if it's even an option. That way, you can eliminate it as a possible option... narrow the decision down a bit. That totally stinks about the nice hospital not tying tubes. I'm thinking of doing that myself, since I'm going to be a repeat c-section. Is the other hospital really bad, or is it just kinda unfriendly and sterile? We have a hospital here that's 5 min away from us, but I wouldn't let them operate on a doll. I'm suprised it's still open.

Have you looked into Essure? It's permanent, as effective as tubal ligation, and can be done in the Dr's office. Might be worth looking into!

My situation is that I planned on a VBAC in my birth center where I planned on delivering DD. It's beautiful. Catch is, no VBAC's. They'll only do them in the aforementioned crappy hospital. No way. SO, i'm pretty much decided on the repeat C, and so I'm thinking that I might want to switch practices. I'm thinking I want a little more "on the ball" care this time around, especially if another placenta previa is likely. The catch with that is, there are two practices around here... one that delivers at a semi-nice hospital with ****** doctors, I went there once and left after that. I'm wondering if I can go there and schedule visits on the days where the major ****** of a Dr. isn't working. The other, semi ****** doctors that don't listen to you, horrid hospital. I feel so stuck between a rock and a hard place. Bah!

I hope you find a good solution to your problem. They way I'm kind of resigning to feeling about it is that this is only a few days out of my life, and I don't need to have a personal relationship with my OB... because it's not gonna happen.

 

[Piecey]

Hmmmm.... that might be an option but I'm thinking since her practice is within the hospital she might not be allowed to do that either. She didn't offer it to me. Maybe if she practiced outside the halls of the hospital...
First appointment went something like this:
Dr.: "Do you want to try a VBAC?"
Me: "No."
Dr.: "Do you want your tubes tied?"
Me: "Yes, but I'm not delivering at *insert hospital name here*"
Dr.: "I can't do it here."
Me: "I know, but I'm not delivering there."

Then she offered Mirena.

I guess I could go tour the Ohio hospital... I've heard good things about them. Another hangup on that for me, though, is that the kid will be born in Ohio! We've all been born here, within this county. DH, DS and myself. I'm not anti-Ohio but in terms of ease of getting duplicate birth certificates and everything I'd just prefer they all be located in one easy stop. A little pathetic but it's the only other real argument I've got!!


Yours is most definitely a harder place to be! I can't believe there are only 2 practices! Though I shouldn't be too surprised, when I was on this thread with DS we discovered all types of things that were different amongst us. I would be so miserable with those meager options, too, though.
I don't get why you couldn't have a personal relationship with an OB, but that is just me. I saw my OB herself every trip to L&D I had, every prenatal appointment with DS, we definitely had a personal relationship growing. She talked with me about her kids and everything. It's hard to give that up and go with someone else I'm not familiar with.


I think you're right, though... the hospital is going to be where you spend the majority of your time and their nurses are going to be who takes care of you. The time spent with the OB is so limited once you're in that I think I'd choose the hospital I'd be happier with vs. the one I'm scared of. At the end of the day, when you give birth... they're the ones that really taking care of you. The OB will be gone!

 

[Pollito916]

dizluvah - welcome and congratulations! I'm happy to not be at the bottom of the list anymore! I think a lot of us on the list right now are 2nd time (or more!) mommas, so there is plenty of experience here!

Kiki - the walk is 4/17, so I will be 16.5 weeks then.

justhat - Welcome to the desert! Snow won't be a worry anymore! I've never been to Tucson, but I hear it's nice and a little more affordable than Phoenix.

hulagirl - such a lovely compliment - "you have a favorable pelvis for birthing" I hope baby makes her appearance soon!

DMickey - Is the power back on at your house yet or are you still at your parents' house? I don't blame you for wanting to be home, especially when you still have to pack!

Piecey - I am so with you on seeing all of those adorable little dresses! I told DH if this baby isn't a girl, HE will be the one wearing a dress! As for the hospital issue, personally, I would want to deliver at the hospital where you feel most comfortable. If they won't tie tubes, maybe you could convince DH to get the big V?

Mrs. Charming - I was feeling left out too, thought maybe I scared away any more new moms! Sorry to hear you are having a tough choice with hospitals and OBs too. Have you met all of the docs? Maybe there is one that isn't a jerk at the better hospital? I would be concerned with going to a really crappy hospital.

The OB practice I was with for DS had 5 OBs and the policy was to meet each one since you wouldn't know who is on duty the day you go into labor. I liked 4 of the 5 doctors, so the 1 I didn't like , Dr. N., I only met with once and prayed she wasn't there when my water broke. Since it was the middle of the nigh and nothing was going on, they decided to wait until the morning doc got in 1-2 hours later. I was glad b/c it was one of the docs I liked, Dr. J.

When DS never decided to come out on his own and we had to do an emergency c-section 15 hours later, it was Dr. J that suggested the c-section to me, so I assumed he would be the one doing it. When I got all prepped in the OR, I didn't see him, but I saw a woman in scrubs and face mask that looked like the dr from my practice I did not like, Dr. N. I started panicking - where is Dr. J? A few minutes later, he came in the room and I realized the woman was a nurse, but looked similar since I could only see half her face. Then Dr. J introduced me to the surgeon assisting him - Dr. Carver. Are you kidding?

All was well, and I never saw Dr. N during my hospital stay.

 

[justhat]

Pollito-One of my husband's attending's last name is Dangerfield. When he introduces himself to patients they usually comment on his name and he says "I applied for 'Dr. Pain and Suffering' but it was taken."

And there's an OB in my dr's group with the last name of Monthly. She pronounces that "Mont-ly", but really, when I first saw it written I was shocked.


Patsy - I would tell your husband too bad. Your body, your decision. If you don't mind getting the procedure done at another time, meaning more work (pain) for you, then he shouldn't complain about it. I would deliver at the hospital you prefer cause you don't want a bad experience. You'll be annoyed and miserable about it for a long time.

 

[kpm76]

Hi Ladies! I recognize some of you from a few years ago when I was pregnant with my DD who is 2.5. I am 15 weeks pregnant and due August 22nd. It was a rough first trimester but I am finally feeling better! I miscarried in September so I have been really freaked out this time. It's amazing how different this pregnancy is from my first because I worried insane amounts about miscarrying again. To make matters worse, I had a missed misscarriege so no signs that anything was wrong until my appt at amost 10 weeks and there was no HB. Thank God, this time things seems to be moving in the right direction I've had 4 u/s and a Level 2 scheduled in 3 weeks......so excited for our DD to be a Big Sister

 

[hulagirl87]

Carys Noelle is here!!!!! I had my 39 week appt on Friday and was told my cervix hadn't changed and they would see me on my due date for my next appt. I got home and didn't feel right. About 4 hours later I started having contractions. DH got out of work early that day due to a huge snow storm we were having. He helped me time them and they were between 5 and 7 minutes apart. I called the dr's office and the doctor on call called me back and said to head in. We got to the hospital around 4:15 and went to triage where they hooked me up to the monitor and of course the contractions stopped They did pick up again and they were about 5 minutes apart. They weren't very strong at that time so I got checked. Oh my lord!!! That hurt soooo much. The baby was really low and was in front of my cervix or something so they had to reach around the baby's head to check me. So much pain!!!!

I was 3-4 cm at that point so they decided to admit me and we started walking the halls. Had to stop occasionally, but they still weren't horrible. Got back to room and I was 5 cm. Walked a little more and they were getting to be kind of unbearable. Still didn't know if I was going to get epidural or not. They decided to break my water and that was definitely a weird feeling. I got a contraction right after that and it hurt so much that I asked for the epidural. About 4 minutes later I got that. It didn't take all the way so I had to get another dose. About an hour later I got checked and the doctor's face was so funny. I was at 10 and completely thinned out. She said I was ready to push!! I didn't think I would be able to because I couldn't feel anything, but she said to try. She said that they baby's head was so low she could feel her ear! So I started pushing and the more I pushed the more I could start to feel my legs. It was weird. I never knew what to expect I guess, but it was completely silent in the room and I really liked it that way. I had the nurse, 1 doctor and 1 resident and my mom and DH. I would push without making a sound. Less than an hour later she came out and they put her right on my stomach. It was the most amazing feeling I have ever had in my life.

Meet Carys Noelle. Born 2/27/10 at 3:57 am 6 lbs 15 oz 20 1/2 inches:

Thanks for letting me share! And thanks for the past 9 months of answering my questions and calming my fears. This has been a great and helpful thread. I will miss being here!

 

[KiKi Mouse]

All together now:

"AWWWWWW!!!!"

What a cutie Congratulations!

Just went for my 38 week visit with the midwife. She offered to check me and I declined. She said it could get labour going and I said "no way"...LOL So she said "AHA! You're not ready!"...LOL

I've had some twinges but nothing I would call a labour or close to a contraction. She felt the baby and couldn't feel the head, only shoulders so she has dropped even more. I was told to BD and walk lots. If no action on it's own by the weekend I will drink the magic castor oil potion and cross my fingers.

DH and I are freaked out...these months went so quick!

 

[Piecey]

kpm76!!


casumners ... due February 2... It's a surprise!
trmcguire ... due February 14... It's a girl!
hulagirl87 ... due March 5... It's a girl!
KikiMouse ... due March 14... It's a girl!
karenj2 ... due March 14... It's a surprise!
DMickey28 ... due March 30... It's a boy!
ZPT1022 ... due April 10... It's a surprise!
MommaMouse411 ... due April 18... It's a boy!
Lindsey22 ... due April 21... It's a girl!
WDWAurora ... due May 4... It's a boy!
EmALee ... due May 22... It's a girl!
Sherry7 ... due May 25... It's a girl!
mla973 ... due June 9... It's a surprise!
phragmipedium ... due June 10... It's a surprise!
kt_mom ... due June 12... It's a boy!
lilianddomsmom ... due June 20... It's a girl!
LaurenLC ... due June 28... It's a surprise!
CaveCricket ... due July 7... It's a surprise!
Nette ... due July 9... It's a boy!
Locolala ... due July 12... It's a girl!
Milmore104 ... due July 31... It's a surprise!
TarzanKat ... due July 31... It's a surprise!
pixiegoose ... due August 5... It's a surprise!
JennandNelsonRego ... due August 10... It's a surprise!
FoundMyPrince ... due August 12... It's a surprise!
Vettechick99 ... due August 21... It's a surprise!
kpm76 ... due August 22... It's a surprise!
Piecey ... due August 31... It's a surprise!
Mrs. Charming ... due September 7... It's a surprise!
Gabes_Mommy ... due September 10... It's a surprise!
Pollito916 ... due September 28th... It's a surprise!
Dizluvah ... due mid-October... It's a surprise! ​

 

[Piecey]

Carys Noelle!! 6 lbs,15 oz 20 1/2 inches!!!:


casumners ... due February 2... It's a surprise!
trmcguire ... due February 14... It's a girl!
hulagirl87 ... due March 5... It's a girl!
KikiMouse ... due March 14... It's a girl!
karenj2 ... due March 14... It's a surprise!
DMickey28 ... due March 30... It's a boy!
ZPT1022 ... due April 10... It's a surprise!
MommaMouse411 ... due April 18... It's a boy!
Lindsey22 ... due April 21... It's a girl!
WDWAurora ... due May 4... It's a boy!
EmALee ... due May 22... It's a girl!
Sherry7 ... due May 25... It's a girl!
mla973 ... due June 9... It's a surprise!
phragmipedium ... due June 10... It's a surprise!
kt_mom ... due June 12... It's a boy!
lilianddomsmom ... due June 20... It's a girl!
LaurenLC ... due June 28... It's a surprise!
CaveCricket ... due July 7... It's a surprise!
Nette ... due July 9... It's a boy!
Locolala ... due July 12... It's a girl!
Milmore104 ... due July 31... It's a surprise!
TarzanKat ... due July 31... It's a surprise!
pixiegoose ... due August 5... It's a surprise!
JennandNelsonRego ... due August 10... It's a surprise!
FoundMyPrince ... due August 12... It's a surprise!
Vettechick99 ... due August 21... It's a surprise!
kpm76 ... due August 22... It's a surprise!
Piecey ... due August 31... It's a surprise!
Mrs. Charming ... due September 7... It's a surprise!
Gabes_Mommy ... due September 10... It's a surprise!
Pollito916 ... due September 28th... It's a surprise!
Dizluvah ... due mid-October... It's a surprise! ​

 

[EmALee]

Welcome Carys Noelle!

She's so cute and everything sounds like it went nice and easy for you


Well, I did the 1 hour glucose test Friday and my OB said my sugar was a little high but he wasn't sure if it was high enough to worry about. So I get stuck with doing the 3 hour test. I didn't realize that in doing that test I would be able to eat for 16+ hours. I have a hard enough time going 2 hour without eating something! I told my mom today that my OB must be sadistic and enjoy watching me suffer. I'm really not looking forward to having to do that. He also said that because of my blood sugar levels he wants to do a growth check but they won't let him schedule a U/S for that reason so he told them he thinks I'm small...which I am! I'm at the same weight today as I was 4 months ago. He has things backwards I think. I'm starting to regret choosing him as my OB. I don't understand why he would be worried about me having a big baby due to blood sugar when it's been fine my whole pregnancy. I'm more worried about her being small...she was small the first U/S and I mean I have a belly, but I'm not really gaining any weight! Maybe you ladies can shed some light on my situation for me and try to explain his methods.

Oh and last night when I was watching a movie with my "friend" he got to feel her kick! I've never seen a man's face light up like that it was the cutest thing. Then I rolled onto my side and he just rested his hand on my belly and rubbed it a little...*sigh* I don't know what's going on with us, but I honestly don't care at this point. It's not going to be something I worry about.

Thanks for reading my venting!

 

[DMickey28]

Patsy - I wish I had some sage advice for you regarding the tube tied and what not. I would go with your OB and the hospital that you want, regardless of them being able to tie your tubes. You had such a rough time last time that I think the priority right now needs to be on your comfort level with your delievery first. You can get the tubes tied later or look into something different. That Essure is something to look into. Is DH will to look into the big V? We have started dancing around that subject here but we aren't sure if we are done yet.

KPM - Welcome and congrats!! I remember you from the first time around too. I am sorry, I don't remember your name though. I am Christina and my DS, Alexander, was born in April 2007. I am due in 4 weeks with my RCS scheduled in 3 weeks.

Welcome Carys ... she is adorable! Congrats HulaGirl.

******
I am ready to go home. It has been a wierd weekend and I started feeling more contractions and wierd yesterday. Now my DH is gone to California for work for the week and I am missing him like crazy. I don't know if it's hormones or that he's so far away but I miss him more than I normally do. Maybe I am loving him more ... It's an odd feeling. I usually keep my heart very close to my chest but I think I am "growing up". Does that make ANY sense or am I am hormonal pregnant woman?

I have my 36 week appointment on Wednesday ... exciting. I hope to be checked since i have the GBS test. DH and I are going to start some natural induction methods this coming weekend when I hit 37 weeks. I still hold this wierd hope to have a VBAC, DH thinks I am crazy! I am worried if I go into labor before my RCS because our closest caregiver for DS is an hour away but I am sure that would be ok.

 

[arubio0801]

Hi everyone!
Im home and doing well I have pain of course from the c-section. But Logan had to stay he's in the NICU he's having problems eating he keeps getting sleepy. They say maybe this week he'll come home so I'm praying that he does. I was able to stay in the hospital in what they call nesting on saturday night but your only aloud to do it once, so I had to come home last night I cried pf course cause I didn't want to leave him. And a nurse in NICU saw me and she came in and told me that I needed to relax and calm down and stop crying now that he's in good hands and that there were sicker babies then mine!! I wanted to punch her!!! I asked her if she ever had a baby in NICU and had to leave them and she said no I told her then you don't know how I feel!!! I wasn't crying because he's sick because he isn't sick he just gas eating problems. I cried because I had to leave him there. Ugh its hard to leave him there I wish he could be home with me but I understand that he needs to be there. Im off to get some rest Im exhausted hope everyone is doing great!

 

[KiKi Mouse]

I don't understand why he would be worried about me having a big baby due to blood sugar when it's been fine my whole pregnancy.

I have gestational diabetes this time around.
The longer glucose tolerance test isn't bad. Get your blood done first thing in the morning so that you just have to not eat in the morning before you go.
It's really important to have this done. Take it from me.
If you do have GD or are borderline you HAVE to alter your diet. If you don't your baby gets flooded with glucose which puts him/her more at risk. If you can't maintain low blood sugar levels through diet you will have to take insulin.

There is also a link between GD and stillbirth. They don't know why.
GD also affects the baby's blood pressure which they measure in the cord.
Big babies are one of the reason's why they also watch too because they can have shoulder problems or delivery problems. I have been going for weekly fetal assessment ultrasounds.

GD and high blood pressure also go hand in hand but my BP has been big.
What I am trying to say is that GD affects a lot of other things other than the size of baby and you definitely want to find out if you have any issues because then you are considered high risk.
After the baby is born they have to check their blood sugar levels because they can crash.

I failed the 1 hour test with my 2nd daughter and passed the longer test. This time I failed everything big time.

Not trying to scare you but this is what I found out after being diagnosed and I am happy for the extra ultrasounds and check ups. I also go to the diabetes clinic once a week and they weigh me to see if there have been any big jumps in weight and watch my blood sugar levels like hawks. I test 4x/day and I can even tell the difference between whole wheat bread and whole grain bread. It's all about the carbs and the types of carbs.

Hopefully when you do the longer test you are fine but I would still talk to your doctor about it.

 

[KiKi Mouse]

arubio0801,

Of course you are going to cry. Who wouldn't? Plus your hormones are all over the place and that makes things worse.
Hopefully he gets going on the eating and he can come home asap.
*hugs*

 

[kpm76]

. KPM - Welcome and congrats!! I remember you from the first time around too. I am sorry, I don't remember your name though. I am Christina and my DS, Alexander, was born in April 2007. I am due in 4 weeks with my RCS scheduled in 3 weeks.

Hi Christina and thanks for the welcome I'm Kristen and my DD Abby was born in May 2007. She's very excited to be a big sister! Best wishes for the remaining weeks of your pregnancy....

I have a nasty chest cold and it stinks because I know all I need if a good expectorant and of course, that's off limits. So I am dealing with my unproductive cough and am exhausted. Oh well, hopefully I will be better in a few days.....

 

[justhat]

Hulagirl - Carys is adorable! Congrats on her birth! I love that family photo where your husband gets to sit in the chair while you have to squat. Cracks me up cause it is usually the other way around. Hope things at home are going well.

Arubio - My son was preterm and had to stay an extra day and I cried too. What a jerk that nurse was. Ultimately I got to stay the extra night too, but when I thought I had to leave him there I was devastated. I hope baby Logan is home really soon.

 

[Mrs. Charming]

Carys is such a cutie!! Congrats!!

Arubio, my DD had to stay 3 weeks in the NICU. I know how you feel. That first night is the worst. She was a week in the NICU at the hospital and then was airlifted to CHOP in PHiladlelphia.... yeah that was hard. We got through it, and now she's being a crazy little pest of a 2 year old!!

 

[EmALee]

I have gestational diabetes this time around.
The longer glucose tolerance test isn't bad. Get your blood done first thing in the morning so that you just have to not eat in the morning before you go.
It's really important to have this done. Take it from me.
If you do have GD or are borderline you HAVE to alter your diet. If you don't your baby gets flooded with glucose which puts him/her more at risk. If you can't maintain low blood sugar levels through diet you will have to take insulin.

Hopefully when you do the longer test you are fine but I would still talk to your doctor about it.

I wouldn't mind doing the test honestly if I only had to not eat that morning. At my doctors office though...you have to fast for 12 hours. So I go in at 7:30 am after not eating for 12 hours and have blood drawn, sit there till 8:30 have more blood drawn, sit there again till 9:30 have still more blood drawn, at 10:30 even more blood drawn and then I have to have an appointment at 10:45 with my OB for the results and a checkup. That's like 16+ hours I won't be able to eat. I would love to do this test if I could just eat! Even if I could munch on crackers or something. I'll bring water of course and that will help a little but the last time I had to go 4 hours without eating (last week) I almost passed out...I would really prefer to not do that.

Thank you for letting me know all of the risks though. Nobody told me any of that! I mean I know I should ask questions but nothing ever comes to my mind when he asks "Do you have any questions?" This has been a fairly easy pregnancy so I rack my brain for questions but I find none...So thank you so much!