Moms of Boy/Girl Twins? Older Boy/Girl siblings sharing a room

[aprilgail2]

I shared a bedroom with 2 of my brothers until I was 5. They were 7 & 8. Sharing with them are some of my best childhood memories. Not to pick on you or anything but I recall in a prior thread that your DD often sleeps with you. Some might think that inappropriate.

Yes she did...but she has now felt she needed her own space and we are converting the playroom into her bedroom since it is bigger than any of the other bedrooms (we have a 6 bedroom house and only use 2 of them)...she picked out her new furniture and is off on her way to her own space....she has a small (I mean REALLY small 9x8!!) bedroom right now and her new furniture won't fit in there so she is on her tiny toddler bed now... but once the other room is done she will have a 12x22 room.
I jsut feel that if kids want their own rooms they should not be forced to share their whole childhoods....I have a friend that says she has never had her own space and she really regrets it, as a kid she was stuck sharing her room which she hated..then seh got married and now shares the room with her husband...

 

[Tigger&Belle]

she has a small (I mean REALLY small 9x8!!) bedroom right now and her new furniture won't fit in there so she is on her tiny toddler bed now...

What? Another child who was in a toddler bed as long as my son!!! He just went to a regular bed a couple weeks ago at 6yo, poor thing was as long as the toddler bed was. But we needed to wait until his sister went to college so we could take her bed since it was 1/2 of the bunk bed. We finally did that and we're getting a double bed for what was her room (will technically be the guest room).

 

[Pea-n-Me]

Mom of 8yo boy/girl twins here and frankly this whole "separation" thing kind of bugs me. Twinship is a very unique, God-given gift yet there is such a big push to "separate" in all aspects of thier lives! My gosh!

My feeling is that parents of twins and other children need to play it by ear and base their choices on the individual personalities of the kids involved. i.e. Not "separate at all costs" which is still the belief held by many in our society.

My children are also very close. They shared a room until they were almost 5 and like tw1nsmom we got them each a set of bunk beds for their new rooms. They enjoy their own space and once in a while they sleep in the same room. No big deal.

My kids have also been in the same classroom all along and it's worked out great. We just had our teacher conference this week and I discussed next year with her figuring the school would like to separate and we would go by their learning-based recommendations (have had to make special requests to keep them together). This teacher has never had twins in her classroom before and I don't think she liked the idea at the beginning. Well I almost fell over when I mentioned separating next year and she bellowed, "oh no, they shouldn't be separated, they're wonderful together"! She told us she sees the special love they have yet they are not dependent upon one another and each have their own friends in and outside of the classroom. In fact, most people in the school don't even realize they're brother and sister let alone twins. So I feel fortunate our school is open minded and willing to try things out, not having policies from the dark ages still in place where separation was the norm regardless.

I love hearing twin stories from those who have experienced it. It doesn't happen much anymore, but when the kids were little I always had older mothers come up and tell me the stories of themselves being twins or having twins and it is really special.

OP, tell your friend not to sweat it.

 

[aprilgail2]

What? Another child who was in a toddler bed as long as my son!!! He just went to a regular bed a couple weeks ago at 6yo, poor thing was as long as the toddler bed was..

She is 6 1/2 but she actually fits in it ok still. She is just about 44 inches tall and doesn't even weigh 40 pounds so she is pretty tiny....if she was a big 6 year old I would never get away with it!

 

[dcgrumpy]

My 5yo is still in his toddler bed. He's only 40" and 37lbs, he could probably stay in it until Middle School.

 

[Tigger&Belle]

Jake is almost 47"--not sure how much he weighs, probably 50 pounds. He barely fit in the bed, but he had to have a slew of stuffed animals so it was a really tight fit.

The really funny thing is that a couple nights ago I mentioned that I needed to get the bed out of the room, clean it up, etc so I can sell it. Stupid me--why did I say that in front of him? He was so upset even though I told him he was too big for it. His response was (with tears coming down his face), "What if I shrink?". Poor guy has a hard time letting go.

 

[va32h]

I jsut feel that if kids want their own rooms they should not be forced to share their whole childhoods....

And if there is no other room? Should the parents buy a new house, or add on for the sake of everyone having their own room?

I have a friend that says she has never had her own space and she really regrets it, as a kid she was stuck sharing her room which she hated..then seh got married and now shares the room with her husband...

Why didn't she live on her own for a few years between leaving her parents house and marriage, then?

Sharing a room with a sibling is hardly the worst thing that can happen to a child. If a grown adult cannot "get over" having shared a room with a sibling, they need to get over themselves, quite frankly. It's not a big deal. It's called give-and-take, can't always have your way, sometimes ya gotta share life's resources.

12'X22' is bigger than my master bedroom. I can't imagine what on earth a chid would need that much space for.

 

[justhat]

Well really, what does anyone need a certain amount of space for? I certainly don't need it, but I would love to have a bedroom that is 12x22! My bedroom at my mom's house from the time I was 14 was a 2nd master suite. It's huge, with a separate sitting room that could be used as a bedroom by itself if a wall was put in. I loved and still do love that room! Right now our bedroom is probably around 10x10, and there are 3 of us and 3 beds in there. I can't wait to move but we have to wait till at least April. Like most people, we'll be looking for the largest house that we can afford, so we have as much space as possible. Everyone enjoys having a lot of room, even kids!

But of course, not always an option, hence why my kids might be sharing a room for awhile, but I really think that's what the one I have now would prefer anyway.