Mom..It's time to cut the apron strings!

[becka]

That is really sad but from what you hear it just does not sound that uncommon anymore. I feel sorry for these kids....what are they going to do when Mom and Dad are not around anymore?

 

[MELSMICE]

Oh brother..........it takes all kinds!!! I couldn't imagine doing that to my kids.

 

[Camicar]

When I worked retail, I had to deal with this all the time. Parents would regularly call up to ream me out bec I made Precious do something she didn't want to do -- like vacuum or dust or help clean up the store room. I would then regularly have to tell parents that if they ever called me again to complain about Precious doing the job she was hired to do, then Precious would no longer be hired.

 

[fan_of_small_world]

I fully admit that in a lot of ways I can be overprotective, but stuff like this shocks even me.

Unfortunately, at my children's elementary school I see it all the time. In 2nd grade DS's class made gingerbread houses and invited parents to come. So many parents basically took over their kid's project it was unreal.

I was happy to sit with my DS and lend him a hand when he asked for help, but I'll tell you that all of the ideas for how to make it were his. And he had a lot of creative ideas (like a swimming pool, lol!). Did it look the cleanest and neatest? Nope. But it was all his, he knew it and was proud of it, and so was I.

 

[Mkrop]

yeah I am have been called overprotective too esp on the bathroom threads but even this is over the top.

I found all my jobs on my own, my dad guided and did have one stipulation no food but that was about it. I applied and got all the jobs myself. I will help my kids look if they ask and I might express an opnion if I dont like the place they are thinking about but applying and getting the job is all on them.

And I agree college stuff is different.

 

[GRUMPY PIRATE]

Get used to seeing this more and more, I have had some experiences at work that are just unreal. The only saving grace is tht some of the kids start to "think" on their own and try and keep their parents from being involved when they shouldn't be. Even on the DIS (Gasp, say it ain't so!! ) you can see some of the comments that would make me believe that when no one is watching, they will go into hover mode!

When raising DS and DD, I would catch myself and EX starting to do the same thing and just back away. I figured that if they want my advice I'll give it. but a lot of times the only way to learn is through mistakes! (hopefully MINOR ones) (I.E. ditching work to go to the beach with friends etc.)

 

[DVC Sadie]

Get used to seeing this more and more, I have had some experiences at work that are just unreal. The only saving grace is tht some of the kids start to "think" on their own and try and keep their parents from being involved when they shouldn't be. Even on the DIS (Gasp, say it ain't so!! ) you can see some of the comments that would make me believe that when no one is watching, they will go into hover mode!

When raising DS and DD, I would catch myself and EX starting to do the same thing and just back away. I figured that if they want my advice I'll give it. but a lot of times the only way to learn is through mistakes! (hopefully MINOR ones) (I.E. ditching work to go to the beach with friends etc.)

I agree with your entire post!

I just hope that the parents of these kids have enough money to be able to support them forever and that these kids get huge inheritances so the working force doesn't have to raise other people's kids while on the job.

 

[hpygrll]

Having worked in retail for 15 years I can tell you that I would not hire that kid specifically for that reason. If a parent ever called I would tell them that I would not speak to them as they were not my employee and if their child wanted to talk to me or had concerns, then they needed to talk to me. Those kind never last very long. Boy it's annoying.

Jenny

 

[Jennasis]

So how do you guys feel about an underage employee having mom call-in sick for them? I remember vivdly my parents NOT ever doing that for me, but when I was a manager at Kmart at 17 I remember parents calling ALL the time.

 

[Mkrop]

So how do you guys feel about an underage employee having mom call-in sick for them? I remember vivdly my parents NOT ever doing that for me, but when I was a manager at Kmart at 17 I remember parents calling ALL the time.

Uhh myabe if the child had lariginits(sp) or something but even then I think I would put them on the phone just so they could hear "Froggy"

 

[ducklite]

So how do you guys feel about an underage employee having mom call-in sick for them? I remember vivdly my parents NOT ever doing that for me, but when I was a manager at Kmart at 17 I remember parents calling ALL the time.

Only if the kid is in the hospital.

 

[jama]

How about this one...
When my DS was in 3rd grade at the open house the teacher had her mom with her. The mom was sitting at the teacher's desk. Teacher introduced her mom to all. She said it was her first year teaching and she wanted her mom there for support! The mom had to tell her what to talk about.. mom even answered questions from parents.
That teacher did not last long.

 

[mylightshines]

When my oldest DS turned 16, the McDonalds has just built a new building about 1/2 mile away from our house. He was taking his time looking for a job. Our school system doesn't have buses and he needed a car. However, I wasn't getting him a car until he had a job.

McDonalds had a sign saying taking applications between such and such hours. So I told my son that I talked to the manager and he has an appt. at 2:00 on Thursday. If he didn't have a job before, then he better be at McDonalds at 2:00. (I never even called McDonalds ).

Well, he came home the next day and had a job at blockbluster. He did it all on his own.

Same DS: When he graduated high school (well, barely passed), he did not want to attend college. We knew the military was the best place for him. So we told him come September 1st, if you're not in school, you better have your own place to live because you can't live here and not be in school. So he joined the Army!!

 

[terri01p]

First job I ever had my mom came in ( with curlers in her hair ) and informed my manager that it was 5 minutes passed 9 and she wasn't waiting in the car all night on a saturday night. Needless to say I was " let go " the next day.

 

[disykat]

How about this one...
When my DS was in 3rd grade at the open house the teacher had her mom with her. The mom was sitting at the teacher's desk. Teacher introduced her mom to all. She said it was her first year teaching and she wanted her mom there for support! The mom had to tell her what to talk about.. mom even answered questions from parents.
That teacher did not last long.

Wow! I can't even believe that. Now there's a child that should have gone AWAY to college!

A child getting his/her first job should handle it on his/her own. A professional? That is just so weird. What if I went to my doctor and they had their mommy there?

 

[lillielil]

This is so bizarre...

I've hired a lot of people through their mothers (I managed a Curves, which is where a lot of middle-aged women worked out, and they would often recommend their college-aged daughter for a PT job), but not once did I ever have a mom sit in on an interview. A few times mom and the potential hire would come in together, but invariably mom would go workout while I interviewed. If one of them had tried to sit in it would have been an automatic no-go as far as I'm concerned.

 

[NC State]

One of my coworkers does the same thing for her daughter. She filled out all of her college applications, financial aid stuff, scholarship applications...I wonder how she plans on taking the entrance exam for her??

I work at a University and we see this all the time! It's our #1 no-no.

 

[Nancy]

Ok...the girl at my work has an 18 year old and she fills out applications for him and puts her cell number for the contact. When they call for him she says he's not in, but she'll have him call them back.

If I didn't see where you lived I'd swear you were talking about my SIL. She filled out his job application for the store I worked in. He got called for the interview, went in and the recruiter started asking questions based on answers on the app. He had no clue what she was talking about for a few of them. Can you guess he did not get hired? He came out and said "she was asking me all these weird questions about stuff I did I think she had the wrong application" SIL said, "no that was yours I put that stuff on there, don't you remeber when...and then she rattled off things."

I was so embarrassed for him because most of the stuff was so exaggerated from what it really was.

He also started college this year so he is breaking away a bit. He went and got his own job finally! BUT, some days he has to take public transportation and she said she took a few days off of work to show him how to take the bus. Literally got on the bus with him, showed him what to do, where to get on and off. Me, I would have just explained it to him and let him go it alone. It is a pretty straight ride, no transfers. (and you get on the bus at the corner of her street)

So how do you guys feel about an underage employee having mom call-in sick for them? I remember vivdly my parents NOT ever doing that for me, but when I was a manager at Kmart at 17 I remember parents calling ALL the time.

Big no no. Parents are told the child must call back or it will be an unexcused absence. During training they are told if they can physically hold a phone and squeek out some words we want them calling in themselves.

As for college apps. DD has filled out her own. I am filling out the FASFA, but that's about it. She is doing all the scholarship stuff herself.

 

[MELSMICE]

So how do you guys feel about an underage employee having mom call-in sick for them? I remember vivdly my parents NOT ever doing that for me, but when I was a manager at Kmart at 17 I remember parents calling ALL the time.

Even though my assistants at my dance studio are volunteers & not employees it annoys me that they can not call me to tell me they will not be there or will be late. There are only a few that this applies to, but get on the phone instead of having mommy do it for you.

First job I ever had my mom came in ( with curlers in her hair ) and informed my manager that it was 5 minutes passed 9 and she wasn't waiting in the car all night on a saturday night. Needless to say I was " let go " the next day.

I think I would have shot my mom. How embarrassing!!!

 

[mylilnikita]

Where I worked one time a girl who was about 19 who had a baby who was a year old and brought in paperwork for medicaid and the works had her Mom come in one day because she didn't like the pants everyone had to wear, she wanted to wear different ones. My supervisor told the Mom it was none of her business, the daughter quit.

On the other hand I was a supervisor who my boss hired a Mom and Daughter, they were older and the Mom didn't show up for work and the daughter only worked a few days, the Mom finally comes in and says oh my duaghter was supposed to call for me because I was hungover. WTH? I was like, no you are grown you were supposed to call.