Marrieds choosing not to have kids

[KirklandTutu]

*sigh* I'm just jealous of all of you who have animals. Circumstances of our lives has said that 'no, we can't'. I always feel as if my life would have a bit more pleasure and fun to it if we did. Meanwhile, I just enjoy the little contact I manage to have with cats and dogs when I go over to visit friends. I just feel bad that when I come back home my husbands allergies sometimes act of because of any dander on my clothing.

At least we have our stuffed animals. I just found the cutest pirate sweaters for them yesterday at Michael's.

And truly, no part of this post was sarcastic. I mean that.

 

[HockeyKat]

Hey Kirk, have you thought of volunteering at the animal shelter? If you are bothered by kill shelters you could always find a no-kill. Just keep a pair of clothes that is "shelter" clothes, would even be better if you could find a place with a shower and such so you could shower and change before coming home.

I just ignore trolls usually... they get their jollies from upsetting people, and imo those kinds of folks just aren't worth my time or energy. Gee, a mean moron doesn't like me or my decisions, so what? So sorry that it upset anyone, though.

 

[aclov]

OMG! I go away from our thread for a while and I come back to craziness!!!

Man- That Frito eater is certainly looking for a rise out of everyone. Who cares if she lurks- but she also posts- I think that is what she doens't get- some of the CF may lurk on the family threads- but do not post......but then again, just like Hix said- why bother!?...scoot QUOTE]

Madd - you crack me up, I'm trying so hard not to laugh out loud!

Missed you over on the Budget Board too!

 

[maddhatir]

*sigh* I'm just jealous of all of you who have animals. Circumstances of our lives has said that 'no, we can't'. I always feel as if my life would have a bit more pleasure and fun to it if we did. Meanwhile, I just enjoy the little contact I manage to have with cats and dogs when I go over to visit friends. I just feel bad that when I come back home my husbands allergies sometimes act of because of any dander on my clothing.

At least we have our stuffed animals. I just found the cutest pirate sweaters for them yesterday at Michael's.

And truly, no part of this post was sarcastic. I mean that.

I am RIGHT there with you! I actually YEARN for a pet....(a kid is another story!)- but DH and I both have such bad allergies and asthma- it is impossible- now for THAT reason I can say......whoa is me! If I was not allergic I would certainly be a "cat AND dog lady"!

personally i feel i should be able to take my dog anywhere others can take their kids as 75% of the time my dog is better behaved than the kids who screams "nonono" for 8 isles up and down in the target and the rents just let him scream instead of going home or for freaks sake apologizing to the people the kid is driving nuts.

Autumn- this quote reminded me, DH and I watched a program on the Fine Living channel about Pet-friendly cities, restaurants, HOTELS! There are a lot of upscale hotels in NYC that accept pets and you should see the pet perks- There was also a car service, I believe in NY that taxied people with pets b/c a lot of the taxi services will not allowed the pets in the cars.....

They were also showing a couple who strated their own charter airline to fly people with pets who do not like to put the pets in the cargo area. This one I find hilarious- how many people on airplanes do you think would rather have someones pet in a carrier in the seat behind them, instead an annoying kid kicking their seat and crying....hmmmm.... kids in the cargo area...

 

[tinkerbell of winter]

I would say it is an individual decision, either way is fine, with or without kids. I know that I wouldn't want any more children, I have one ten year daughter whom I love dearly but who it has been a real struggle to raise all alone without much help from her father. I know how the people without children feel when it comes to liking to have money for travel, etc.. That is why I work an extra job and live on the cheap 95% of the year, so that 5% that I am on vacation can be great! I can't imagine having anymore children, as I wouldn't want to take away from my daughter in terms of opportunites I want to give her. On the flip side, as a single parent I feel like I am sometimes looked down upon, because of that very fact. I would rather be single and struggle instead of remain in a bad marriage "for the kids". I have seen both firsthand, my cousins have been raised in that exact situation, and in my opinion they have not turned out well. I try and set a good example for my daughter, and show her that anything is possible if you work at it. So now that I have gone way off topic on a tangent, I think it is fine either way. Whatever makes you happy. There is definitely more freedom overall without children, and although I love my daughter, I also love the freedom that the summers bring when she is at her father's house. That is my "single" time, when I get to have "me" time and do grown up stuff. I have the best of both worlds, so I can relate to both sides of the coin.

 

[maddhatir]

Madd - you crack me up, I'm trying so hard not to laugh out loud!

Missed you over on the Budget Board too!

I miss all of my CF and freebie freaps too!

UGH! all I can say is, Building an addition STINKS! Too many chiefs, not enough indians- I have to put people in their place and it is tiring me out

I am tired of dirt on my floor, the smell of paint, the sight of Home Depot, drywall, concrete, hammers banging, shelling out cash to people!

And the selfish part of me is TOTALLY POed that I cannot get on the freebie board to post freebies and my wench board to drool over Mr Depp! I AM SERIOUSLY JONESING- I AM HAVING MAJOR WITHDRAWLS!- fever, chills, screaming out Mr Depps name in my sleep! It's insanity! I am going to try and just sit on the sofa tonight with my laptop- a Becks Dark- ok, maybe a few of those and catch up on my internet life!

And! I can't wait until this is all over and DH and I can be in the same boat as Liisa, trying to decide which all inclusive we can go to for 2 WEEKS! (yes, DH said he is going to NEED 2 weeks to recoup! darn! ) so we can lie around all day in the sun, eat, drink champagne, shop, sleep, drink some more champagne, eat more, dip macaroons in chocolate did I leave anything out!

 

[bulah1]

Nope, I'm not a troll, but thanks for the label...gotta love it. I mainly lurk and read for informative purposes.

I just thought it was ironic that you all were saying how reading others' posts about kids made you all "so thankful" to be childfree....yet, the reason I come here and read this thread and the reason alot of people with FAMILIES come on here and read this thread is because it reaffirms, to me anyways, that I am SO SO SO SO SO SO glad that I DID have kids.

I read about the countless posts about dogs and cats and, while they are wonderful to have, it's sad when an ANIMAL becomes someone's life. There was even a thread on here about someone took her BABY DOLL to Disney and posted pics.

Reading everyone's posts on here makes me sad that so many of you have nothing but a mangy mutt or feline. It makes me sad because I know the joys of what I've experienced and to see someone put so much of their LIFE in an ANIMAL is very sad to me. There's more to life than that.

I absolutely respect everyone's decision to not have children. I think there are people that really should NOT have children. BUT, to go to a families thread to read what we "complain" about...Very holier than thou.

I love my life, love my family and love my children with every fiber of my being. It's very funny that everyone's saying "oooh, she must not be happy with her life...that's why she came here"...

I came here for the same reasons ya'll read the families thread. This thread makes me MORE thankful that I have what I have.

Chrissy
5 kids

You're not a troll, huh? Very interesting you never replied to my direct response to you back here: http://www.disboards.com/showthread.php?t=914101&page=112

And WHO has the "holier-than-thou" attitude here? I really feel so sorry for you that this is the only way you can fill your empty life - by having children and then impressing upon us that our lives must be just as empty as yours if we all need kids too. I'm sorry I have to say it now because I've held my lip about - I don't like 'attacking' people as you seem to thrive from. You do realize that if you take an honest look at your life you will probably find some serious problems that you are taking out on us because you 'think' children is the answer to everything. Sorry, that's just not an option for some of us. Are we damned to hell in that case?

OK - to all of the rest of you out there who are actually trying to hold a legitimate conversation on this topic -
I think it's time we just start IGNORING this half-wit (yes, I made an insult... I'm sorry) and let her vent. If she's been reported, we will wait it out (until she makes a new logon for herself to come here under! LOL). She obviously has nothing important to say, so just ignore it and let's try to move on to more civilized discussion...

OH MY - but are we childless ones capable of such??? LMAO!!
Sorry, just feeling a tinge of the sarcasm that Frito butt must insist of dishing out.

Frito... of course, you must be right. We are all WRONG... you win.

Give me a break.

And by the way, there are actual studies that show people who dislike or are unkind to animals are increasingly likely to become involved in criminal actions (as opposed to those that do like animals...) - and an interesting link you should look at, might explain some of your harsh criticisms of others simply based on your views of animals... but what do I know... interesting quick read... http://www.nahee.org/research_evaluation/PDF/Kindness%20to%20People%20and%20Animals.pdf

 

[Muushka]

Yes. I was so wrong to not have children. What was I thinking? Now it is too late. I see the error of my ways.

Now what am I going to do with my cats?

 

[KirklandTutu]

Hey Kirk, have you thought of volunteering at the animal shelter? If you are bothered by kill shelters you could always find a no-kill. Just keep a pair of clothes that is "shelter" clothes, would even be better if you could find a place with a shower and such so you could shower and change before coming home.

I've actually thought about that before. However between running my own ballet school, teaching there full time, still dancing in a semi-professional company, and volunteering for local outreach dance...somehow my empty life is filled up to the brim! haha, j/k. I think if I added anything else, my husband would kill me.

During the summers when I'm on break things get a bit lonely. I go from being around students and fellow dancers non stop to being in the house by myself most of the day. I'm still working, for those of you with your own businesses, we all know that the work never actually stops, it's just being alone in the house paper work sort of thing (disboards are a great distraction, I should really turn off the email alert though...i'd probably get more work done). After about a week of that I just want a cat in my lap while I type away.

Meanwhile...I have to get back to making drums (20 of em) from oatmeal containers. Just because I don't have kids doesn't mean that I can't have cool projects too!

 

[bulah1]

Autumn- this quote reminded me, DH and I watched a program on the Fine Living channel about Pet-friendly cities, restaurants, HOTELS! There are a lot of upscale hotels in NYC that accept pets and you should see the pet perks- There was also a car service, I believe in NY that taxied people with pets b/c a lot of the taxi services will not allowed the pets in the cars.....

They were also showing a couple who strated their own charter airline to fly people with pets who do not like to put the pets in the cargo area. This one I find hilarious- how many people on airplanes do you think would rather have someones pet in a carrier in the seat behind them, instead an annoying kid kicking their seat and crying....hmmmm.... kids in the cargo area...

OMG! I totally would do this!! LOL. I even thought about bringing my little fellow with to Disney, but I didn't want to do that to him and not spend time with him. But my job (as it picks up) will require me to travel more and more by air, and I'd love to bring him along. I just never wanted to stick him in cargo! THAT IS NOT RIGHT! In my opinion. If you know what the company is - please put the info down! That is too cool.

And for all of you pet people out there who care, I'm gonna share pics of my fur babies (and I think anyone else who's proud of their "other non-people children of any sort" should post their pics as well...

This is my fur-baby Booker. He was with me from childhood, and I recently had to put him to sleep because he had cancer. He was the most intelligent person I knew (more than some people I know! LOL), so I really did refer to him as a person. He was 16, and we're coming up on 1 year without him in NOV. I miss him so.

This is my new baby boy, Frodo. He's got some big shoes to fill, but he's coming along nicely. Still pretty cat-like, but we're working on that. He is a gentle giant, big boy - but sweet as can be.

More baby pics from you guys please!!

 

[Hixski]

BULAH1: Your kitties are very cute. Sorry about Booker. I have been there done that. I have posted this pic of Duncan before but I will post it again. He looks very handsome in this pic so this is the one I post.

MADD: Thanks for sticking up for Duncan!!!! He says you can be his adopted aunt in Jersey anytime. Hope you get your addition done soon. You will NEED that vacation by then.

Duncan is still insulted anyone would call him a mangy mutt. He loves everyone but in this case I am sure he would make an exception.

 

[bulah1]

BULAH1: Your kitties are very cute. Sorry about Booker. I have been there done that. I have posted this pic of Duncan before but I will post it again. He looks very handsome in this pic so this is the one I post.

Duncan is still insulted anyone would call him a mangy mutt. He loves everyone but in this case I am sure he would make an exception.

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I love the spot on his tongue! Retrievers are so sweet and great with their people! They can get pretty protective too of their people... so meanies, lookout!!

When we get to move into a more suitable home, I'd like to make a puppy addition to our family. Probably a shepherd, that's what we seem to be leaning towards.

Thanks for the pic! Keep 'em coming! (Fur babies or otherwise all you kidless peeps!)

 

[Tow Mater Wannabe]

I've been a lurker for a while but had to say that I've been following this thread since it started. It always makes me feel good when it goes back in a happy direction. Love those pics too!!

 

[HockeyKat]

Here is Trinity:

We got her from the shelter when she was 2.5... she came all-4-paw-declawed which is unusual. She is 6 now and the sweetest, least aggressive animal I have ever encountered.

 

[ObsessedwiththeMouse]

Here is Trinity:

We got her from the shelter when she was 2.5... she came all-4-paw-declawed which is unusual. She is 6 now and the sweetest, least aggressive animal I have ever encountered.

Oh my goodness! She is a beautiful cat! I wish I wasn't allergic!

 

[KirklandTutu]

Can I share all those that I love? not pets necessarily...lol But they take up alot of time and energy, and I get to dress them up twice a year! (this was at dress rehersal for final bows, don't judge their form too harshly!...I almost messed up and put the pic of the one girl with the dress over her head up)

 

[Muushka]

Below is my newest addition to the family. She had hung on my back porch for 6 years and I did not realize she was homeless (believe me, she looked great, someone must have been feeding her). Come to find out she was also a feral cat, very wild. When I realized what kind of a cat she was, I slowly got her to trust me. The following is Lucy:

You can't see her ear clipped, but her left upper ear was clipped when the people who spay ferals spayed her (thank goodness). She is one of the best cats I have ever cared for. But the poor vet, when he has to vaccinate her, it is not pretty.

 

[HockeyKat]

Thanks OM!!

Awwww... Muushka she is gorgeous!!

My cat is the exact opposite! She spends her time at the vet getting as low and small as possible. You can almost hear her chanting to herself "this isn't happening... this isn't happening...."

We have a fluffity outside cat that we feed. Our nbors put her outside when they had a child, and I don't think they feed her, and I just can't let a cat starve. We would take her in except I don't know how she would mix with Trinity since she has all her claws. I have trouble justifying declawing a cat, especially as an adult. I just adopt them as pre-declawed adult kitties instead!

I think a few other strays in the nborhood feed from that dish too... we are a soup kitchen for cats!

 

[momomonster]

Here is the ruler of our domain. You can tell she is the ruler because this is the face I saw when we redecorated the hall bathroom without her permission!

 

[momomonster]

MoMo, the quirkiest kitty in the world. She pokes you with her paw when she wants petties and now she's taught all the other cats to do it!