Marrieds choosing not to have kids

[Liisa]

When DH and I took our nicce 3 going on 4 at the time I had no problems with SIL No restrictions, no hesitation about her going with us, nothing--

As a matter of fact- SIL and BIL took off to the Keys while we had the kid

That would make my planning easier. The last thing she asked me for was copies of the menus for the restaurants we want to eat at... I guess she figures that we aren't going to feed the kids either!

 

[maddhatir]

That would make my planning easier. The last thing she asked me for was copies of the menus for the restaurants we want to eat at... I guess she figures that we aren't going to feed the kids either!

Oh I made sure I took a pic of her eating one of those nice big chocolate chip cookies from the Main Street Bakery!! Actually SIL didn't care. I warned her that I am going to feed her whatever she wants to keep her happy.........and not crying!

 

[maddhatir]

I guess she figures that we aren't going to feed the kids either!

Well you know how us childless people are- no responsibility whatsoever!

It's a wonder we can take care of a plant - I guess we ALL can't be like some of THE PERFECT SUPER MOMS OF THE WORLD who do no wrong!

 

[maddhatir]

Mothers can be odd...

ummmm-hello?! Tag Fairy- can you PLEASE make this Lisa's first tag--

 

[Hixski]

Well you know how us childless people are- no responsibility whatsoever!

It's a wonder we can take care of a plant - I guess we ALL can't be like some of THE PERFECT SUPER MOMS OF THE WORLD who do no wrong!

I commit plant murder all the time. I have one rubber tree that has been alive for 10 yrs. I don't know how but it has. On the other hand I have managed to keep my dog alive for almost 10 yrs. Amazing. He thinks I am his mommy. I guess I can change my name from Hixski to Mommy2Duncan. NOT!!!!!!!!!!

 

[Hixski]

I can see them all becoming a "clique"

They can become the Mommysofweakbladders clique.

 

[maddhatir]

I guess I can change my name from Hixski to Mommy2Duncan. NOT!!!!!!!!!!

Actually I wouldn't be surprised if that name was already taken

 

[Liisa]

Taking care of plants... that's easy. When they wilt, you water them! Going on that theory... when the kids can't stand up anymore, you feed them. I think I've got this covered!!! And she's worried?!!

 

[maddhatir]

Taking care of plants... that's easy. When they wilt, you water them! Going on that theory... when the kids can't stand up anymore, you feed them. I think I've got this covered!!! And she's worried?!!

Hey that's my theory also!!! Sounds good to me!

I think you can handle it if you follow those easy instructions!

 

[Chris Rex]

Taking care of plants... that's easy. When they wilt, you water them! Going on that theory... when the kids can't stand up anymore, you feed them. I think I've got this covered!!! And she's worried?!!

Sounds easy in theory. I am so AMAZINGLY lazy that I am now imfamous among the plant kingdom as being a cold blooded killer. I mean, how lazy do you have to be to let plants die? More than once. I am terrible!

I won't even mention my even more infamous 'Fishtank of Doom' incident...



-Rex

 

[Mrs.Reese]

Hey don't feel bad. I somehow managed to kill a cactus.

 

[maddhatir]

I just tossed a dead one out about a month ago!

 

[Liisa]

Maybe that should be the test...

Can you keep a plant alive? "No"

Then you should be childfree... Congratulations!

(And no fair purposely murdering the plants to join our club!)

 

[plgrn]

Sounds easy in theory. I am so AMAZINGLY lazy that I am now imfamous among the plant kingdom as being a cold blooded killer. I mean, how lazy do you have to be to let plants die? More than once. I am terrible!

Yep. My house is like Auschwitz for plants (sorry that wasn't PC). CR, I'm enjoying your website. LOL at your dog's Indian name.

 

[islandmum]

this is a great topic!

I was not kid friendly, not interested but always supposed I'd have them, one day.

and then one day - out of the blue - I just desperately wanted to start a family with dh, and rather suprisingly (after more than 10 years on the pill!) we fell prgnant in that first week

to say I wanted one and then suddenly to be having one was a shock.

and now as a parent of 2 ..... TO ME its my ultimate joy. The love I have for them, the harmony in our family, its just made us.

BUT - I totally respect and understand why many people do not want chikdren at all ..... why people say "its SELFISH" I'll never understand. Why is it selfish to go on vaca's? why is it selfish to spend your earnings on nice things like cars, dinners etc...?

and most of all its completely UNSELFISH in the fact that by ensuring you dont have children who you are not committed to having or raising. I know a person, has a child who was a "suprise" pregnancy, and she adores her ..... but you know she has those feelings of "I wish I was alone like before". She would never say, or I guess admit ... but you just know.

so to all those choosing not to have kids, tell people who are amazed as to why not that its a good thing .... the world is overpopulated enough as it is!!

Motherhood has enhanced my life, its made me so happy, but for others it can be a nightmare and children arent something you can exchange and refund .... they're for life - and some!

 

[maddhatir]

Listening to Howard Stern right now- and they played a clip from The View- Elizabeth Hasselbeck was announcing she was pregnant and the crowd went WILD- you actually heard some screams. woo hoo

After the clip, Artie said - "Women are so weird- listen to how they react to the news of her being pregnant- a regular applause would have been just fine." He went on to say- he didn't understand the big deal because "A retarded serial killer can become pregnant!"

Robin said but Artie-- "this is a great accomplishment for some women"- and Artie responded- "take a look around you- not all of them are great accomplishments"

 

[LindsayDunn228]

Listening to Howard Stern right now- and they played a clip from The View- Elizabeth Hasselbeck was announcing she was pregnant and the crowd went WILD- you actually heard some screams. woo hoo

After the clip, Artie said - "Women are so weird- listen to how they react to the news of her being pregnant- a regular applause would have been just fine." He went on to say- he didn't understand the big deal because "A retarded serial killer can become pregnant!"

Robin said but Artie-- "this is a great accomplishment for some women"- and Artie responded- "take a look around you- not all of them are great accomplishments"

 

[maddhatir]

I am bumping this thread b/c it is almost Mother's day!! Our favorite holiday.

And I am sure someone here will be told on this oh so special day- "Now don't you just wish YOU can have a day where they celebrate you?" I will say -"yeah- it's called MY BIRTHDAY!" besides that, I celebrate my freedom everyday!

Not sure if any of you hear this from some of the "guys" you know-- every year they have to tell me I can celebrate mother's day b/c I am a ....well, you know.....ha ha guys are so funny! dorks!

 

[Liisa]

I got a mother's day gift! My puppy Khabo tore apart one of my azalea bushes and ran into the house to give me one of the beautiful flowering branches this morning! UGH!!! Last year the deer ate all the buds. I was sooo excited to see them in bloom this year, but I guess that is over with! I was such a good parent and scolded him promptly (but secretly I was laughing at how foolish he looked with the azalea branch sticking out of his mouth!!!) Puppies!

So, if anyone needs any flowering bushes pulled out of their landscaping, I've got just the dog to do it!!!

 

[Hixski]

I got a mother's day gift! My puppy Khabo tore apart one of my azalea bushes and ran into the house to give me one of the beautiful flowering branches this morning! UGH!!! Last year the deer ate all the buds. I was sooo excited to see them in bloom this year, but I guess that is over with! I was such a good parent and scolded him promptly (but secretly I was laughing at how foolish he looked with the azalea branch sticking out of his mouth!!!) Puppies!

So, if anyone needs any flowering bushes pulled out of their landscaping, I've got just the dog to do it!!!

When my golden Duncan was between 6-9 months he would pull the grass up by the roots from our yard. I thought DH was going to kill him. The madder DH got the more the silly dog thought he was playing with him. At least that stage didn't last too long. I have a couple of new pictures of him with a new toy and his summer haircut. He is still handsome for going on 10 yrs old next month. He will get me a card for Mothers Day. He usually buys me something too.