Marrieds choosing not to have kids

[LoveStitch626]

Lovestitch... congratulations! I always wondered if being a travel agent is a fun job. Do you get to "test" the products? I'm a boring old bean counter so most other jobs sound exotic and exciting to me!

Well I'm "job training" right now. It seems to be pretty fun. I've always had jobs where I dealt directly with customers (restaurants, medical, etc) so dealing with people.. even difficult people... is no problem. I can also handle all the fast paced high stress days too because lemme tell ya... nothing can beat Valentine's Day or other big holidays in a chain restaurant! As a bean counter, you'd probably be pretty good at it considering you've got to keep all your records (especially your commission checks) nice & tight & organized. Something I'm NOT good at, but I'm trying to learn. I can mentally organize because of being a server. I know I've got to do this, this & this in this order. If you like working with people..can deal with people who are not so nice sometimes... and you like planning trips, give it a shot. One of my good friends used to work for a ritzy hotel. He says the ability to be a witch is also handy. When agents call the hotels because something has fouled up, he told me the hotel workers start shaking in their shoes.


Plgrn, I'm so sorry to hear about your niece. That's an awful thing and I hope your family finds a way to get through this.


Hatir, I'm waiting for the day dh walks in and informs me he's bought a bike. Oh it's only a matter of time. He's not going to be buying a bike flat out though. My brother builds bikes (and is working on one of his own right now.. it's going to be awesome! I should send you some pics! PM me your email address and I'll send you a few that I've got) and dh has been learning from him slowly. DH wants to buy a frame and build it up himself. As long as it has a B-bar big enough for my fat patootie, we'll be fine!! LMAO I want to play with the toy too! Hey btw, what happened to your old Depp pic with the saw blade? That was HOT!

 

[mhf]

No flames coming from this thread. Hope you have a wonderful Easter! WELCOME!

Thanks Tammy! We had a lovely Easter (not counting the SNOW). I made lamb and risotto and DH opened the requisite bottle of white wine.

Let's hope SPRING really shows up next week,
Melissa

 

[dolcezena]

Thanks Tammy! We had a lovely Easter (not counting the SNOW). I made lamb and risotto and DH opened the requisite bottle of white wine.

Let's hope SPRING really shows up next week,
Melissa

Not to rub it in, but....ok, yes, I'm rubbing it in - but it was sunny & 18 C today!!!! (That's ummm, lemme check the conversion...64 F)

After 7 months of snow on the ground I just have to....

plgrn - COLD? in Florida??? That happens? Plesae don't destroy my fantasies about living somewhere other than "WinterPeg," as my hometown is so affectionately known! Last time I went to Orlando, it was in July (not this past July, many years ago) - I remember thinking then I thought I was going to suffocate!

Mind you, the definition of "cold" varies with where you're from! Met an Aussie winemaker who was talking about his "cool" climate wines - by which he meant average temps of 81-93 F! Since he was here in October & it was -4, we killed ourselves laughing.

Liisa, I know what you mean - Mags literally glances over her shoulder at me when I'm telling her to come inside & saunters off on her "yard patrol." I swear she's laughing at me!

 

[plgrn]

plgrn - COLD? in Florida??? That happens? Plesae don't destroy my fantasies about living somewhere other than "WinterPeg," as my hometown is so affectionately known! Last time I went to Orlando, it was in July (not this past July, many years ago) - I remember thinking then I thought I was going to suffocate!

It was in the 30's Farenheit and windy. That was cold to me! Must have been to everyone else too since the Magic Kingdom during Pirate Princess Party looked like a ghost town. It was AWESOME!

 

[dolcezena]

It was in the 30's Farenheit and windy. That was cold to me! Must have been to everyone else too since the Magic Kingdom during Pirate Princess Party looked like a ghost town. It was AWESOME!

OK, that's definitely chilly, I'll give you that. Funny though, when we get that temp in Sept we freak - out come the winter jackets. When it comes in March, out come the shorts! It's all a matter of perspective, isn't it?

So here I am, enjoying the first days of GORGEOUS weather we've had in months & on Sunday, I fly to Calgary, where they're predicting blizzards! So not fair.

On the other hand, I'm being PAID to go "taste" 160 wines, so how bad is my life right now? God I love my job!!!!

 

[rigs32]

For one of the many reasons why I am not having kids, check out the "DH Vent" thread on the community board about watching ONE child and working and running a household.

 

[Liisa]

dolcezena... I want your job!!!! So, assuming you taste and swallow... how on earth do you manage to stand upright and walk out of there?!!


Regarding the thread on the CB, I think if more parents would be honest, they would admit that maybe they aren't so thrilled they had kids. One of my co-workers (also childfree) was talking to his doctor about it, and his doctor admitted that he had many days where he thought how nice "the other life" would be. I think that admitting maybe life would have been nice without kids doesn't mean that you don't love your offspring... why do parents feel it is so sacreligious to admit it? I readily admit that life would be easier without two dogs, and I absolutely love them to pieces (except when my Khabo feels the need to bark incessantly in the middle of the night at the imaginery invaders in the house!!!! Just because he gets to sleep all day and doesn't have to go to work, doesn't mean the rest of us wouldn't enjoy a nice uninterrupted 8 hours....)

 

[rigs32]

I think if more parents would be honest, they would admit that maybe they aren't so thrilled they had kids.

I agree. The woman is being torn apart over there because she admitted that she needed "time off" from being a parent - time for herself.

 

[Mrs.Reese]

That's just terrible! Why is it a crime to take care of yourself? I have co-workers that are pretty much slaves to their children's lives and I wonder what will happen to them when their children leave home. Will they even remember what they actually like to do? I find it pretty hard to believe that anyone truly enjoys ballet recitals besides the kids.

 

[Hixski]

That's just terrible! Why is it a crime to take care of yourself? I have co-workers that are pretty much slaves to their children's lives and I wonder what will happen to them when their children leave home. Will they even remember what they actually like to do? I find it pretty hard to believe that anyone truly enjoys ballet recitals besides the kids.

We were discussing this awhile back on here. There were alot of posters on the CB talking about their DH cheating or wanting a divorce. Most of them were SAHM. You would read and most sounded like they didn't have a clue what was going on in their lives or their DH's life. It was only the children. Sad really. I have often thought of these types of parents. What happens when the children are gone? They look at each other and think "Who are you"?? At least I know if my DH ever wants a divorce (and he better not ) I know if won't be because I was a slave to my children.

 

[maddhatir]

Hatir, I'm waiting for the day dh walks in and informs me he's bought a bike. Oh it's only a matter of time. He's not going to be buying a bike flat out though. My brother builds bikes (and is working on one of his own right now.. it's going to be awesome! I should send you some pics! PM me your email address and I'll send you a few that I've got) and dh has been learning from him slowly. DH wants to buy a frame and build it up himself. As long as it has a B-bar big enough for my fat patootie, we'll be fine!! LMAO I want to play with the toy too! Hey btw, what happened to your old Depp pic with the saw blade? That was HOT!

I like to change my Mr Depp pics every so often-- keepin' it fresh- You can copy the pic and put it in your siggy- you can enjoy the view everytime you post!!!

I hope your DH is a bit faster than mine- he also talks about bldg his own bike- but the way he moves- we may get to ride it when we are like...90!!! He is a mechanic so its not like he doesn't know what he is doing.....

Tomorrow is going to be BEAUTIFUL, so me, DH my BIL and SIL are going for a nice ride!!! First one of the spring season!- I can't wait! I am sure there will be tons of bikes out there! Probably will end up in New Hope PA- it is about an hour ride- but it is such a NICE ride-

New Hope is one of my favorite places- we have been going there for about 20 years- way before we had the bike. The history there is incredible- it is along the Delaware River- there are underground tunnels where the pirates would smuggle in- and out! their goods from their ships into the town so no one can see them- there are also tunnels used for the Underground Railroad-- Washington and his troops were camped out in the area during the Revolutionary war- he crossed the Delaware a few miles down the river. And LOTS of ghosts!!!

The buildings and just the the whole feel of the town is so---- comforting to me.

Maybe your DH will get the "bike bug"now it is getting warmer- what part of the country are you in??

I would love to see the progress of the bike! I will PM you my e-mail address!

 

[WDWguru]

http://www.disboards.com/showthread.php?t=1431676

 

[Chris Rex]

http://www.disboards.com/showthread.php?t=1431676

Oh my...

I have to say, I was blissfully ignorant till a few moments ago.

Now I can't 'unlearn' this new knowledge.

Damn your black heart

With Awe,
Chris Rex

 

[Hixski]

http://www.disboards.com/showthread.php?t=1431676

That thread is up to 108 posts. That is alot of weak bladders running around WDW. I think I will be checking all seats from now on.

 

[WDWguru]

Oh gosh, Hixski, I didn't even THINK of that! ACK!!

 

[AutumnKlassic]

I have been asking my cousin to let me take her oldest daughter places (shes 3 and a half and I am pushing 30). I offered to take her to swimming lessons because they just had another daughter and dont have the money, time or will power to do it themselves. I was told "I dont know" and "Maybe when she gets older" and "its too expensive". I really want to do this because the cousin was never a good swimmer and I dont want her daughter to have all the fears she had growing up. I was the only "only child" in all of my extended family and had opportunities to do alot of things the others never did (skiing, boating, horse shows, vacations, etc) and since I dont have a kid I really wanted to help my cousins daughter to have these opportunties. They keep telling me to have my own kid like its a toy they dont want to share. I really dont know if thats what I want because like everyone says, they like their own me time, so do I. I just want to be able to play with the kid and its driving me crazy they are keeping her away from me. Also all along they complain that my other cousin (her sister) and everyone else in their family never had time for the little girl. My uncle and aunt wont put the dogs up when they visit knowing that the kids are afraid of them. Just wanted to rant

 

[maddhatir]

That thread is up to 108 posts. That is alot of weak bladders running around WDW. I think I will be checking all seats from now on.

I can see them all becoming a "clique"

 

[maddhatir]

I have been asking my cousin to let me take her oldest daughter places (shes 3 and a half and I am pushing 30). I offered to take her to swimming lessons because they just had another daughter and dont have the money, time or will power to do it themselves. I was told "I dont know" and "Maybe when she gets older" and "its too expensive". I really want to do this because the cousin was never a good swimmer and I dont want her daughter to have all the fears she had growing up. I was the only "only child" in all of my extended family and had opportunities to do alot of things the others never did (skiing, boating, horse shows, vacations, etc) and since I dont have a kid I really wanted to help my cousins daughter to have these opportunties. They keep telling me to have my own kid like its a toy they dont want to share. I really dont know if thats what I want because like everyone says, they like their own me time, so do I. I just want to be able to play with the kid and its driving me crazy they are keeping her away from me. Also all along they complain that my other cousin (her sister) and everyone else in their family never had time for the little girl. My uncle and aunt wont put the dogs up when they visit knowing that the kids are afraid of them. Just wanted to rant

Sounds like if one their "mommy friends" wanted to take the child they would have no problem with that.

 

[Liisa]

Mothers can be odd... DH and I are taking our nephew and our step-niece to WDW this December. We all got together to talk about the vacation a week ago. Let me preface this by saying that our step-niece is a well behaved, responsible 13 year old. Fully capable of deciding what she would like to do when we are in the parks. As we are talking about the rides and our niece is getting excited, her mom steps in and says, "I'm fine with everything but not the rollercoasters. I don't want you to go on those, they make me nervous." Ok... first, this is DISNEY!!!! With the exception of maybe RnR, none of the coasters are that bad. And second.... she's 13!!!! Regardless, her mom won't be with us and what she won't know....

Talk about over-protective!!!! That is probably the reason why my nephew (only 5 years old) is growing up to be a germ-a-phobic wuss!

 

[maddhatir]

Mothers can be odd... DH and I are taking our nephew and our step-niece to WDW this December. We all got together to talk about the vacation a week ago. Let me preface this by saying that our step-niece is a well behaved, responsible 13 year old. Fully capable of deciding what she would like to do when we are in the parks. As we are talking about the rides and our niece is getting excited, her mom steps in and says, "I'm fine with everything but not the rollercoasters. I don't want you to go on those, they make me nervous." Ok... first, this is DISNEY!!!! With the exception of maybe RnR, none of the coasters are that bad. And second.... she's 13!!!! Regardless, her mom won't be with us and what she won't know....

Talk about over-protective!!!! That is probably the reason why my nephew (only 5 years old) is growing up to be a germ-a-phobic wuss!

When DH and I took our nicce 3 going on 4 at the time I had no problems with SIL No restrictions, no hesitation about her going with us, nothing--

As a matter of fact- SIL and BIL took off to the Keys while we had the kid