Marrieds choosing not to have kids

[Hixski]

I do have a little story to tell- This weekend I attended a wedding shower- I noticed that my cousin's daughter was not there (she is maybe 20- 21?) and we got to talking about her daughter and her DBF just got back from their first Disney trip together and LOVED IT!

We were discussing her daughter a little more and my cousin told me that her daughter is using DH and I as "role models" in their relationship and DO NOT want kids- I said- wow- I am very flattered!

That's funny!! I thought the CF were usually they evil, child hating monsters of the world. Who knew we could be role models??

 

[maddhatir]

Do you know how many people that will probably upset? Tell them to keep it quiet... you know that the rest of the family will not be so understanding.

That being said, that is AWESOME!

Na! Our family is pretty cool with that kind of thing. There are a few of us that are CF and even unmarried-

We are not the judgemental type!

If anyone did get upset- they would say now lets review "The People vs Maddhatir and her DH" and they would drop it

 

[dolcezena]

Hi All!

Thought I'd pop in & catch up on the stuff going on around here. I feel like I haven't had a chance to breathe in a couple of weeks! What with fiscal year end, Easter long weekend, etc, I've barely had time to chill!

So, on with my ramblings...

... I still have my moments and my mini-breakdowns. Liisa

I hear ya Liisa - one of my cats died almost 2 years ago now & still break down once in a while. Don't even like to contemplate thinking about anything happening to the other cat, or either of our dogs.

Tee hee, maybe I should start referring to them as DC7, DDo3 & DDo13 on the community boards in threads about child raising. Dog training tactics seem like a good method for parenting.

Seriously, we put Riley in a "time out" when he does something bad. Although having a rational discussion about the inappropriateness of his behaviour seems to be as effective as some people's parenting tactics......


Actually, what brought me to the boards today was that horror in VA. Figured there's be a thread about it...Then I realized I needed some fun after reading it, so I came back here.

Had to yell at a group of bratty tweens in front of my house today - there's a high school AND a middle school 3 blocks away - all sucking down junk food & Slurpees & tossing THEIR garbage onto OUR lawn. Little snots. Made them pick up ALL the garbage on our front lawn & throw it in the trash can across the street. Just call me the Wicked Witch!

Seriously, I don't know how educators today deal with their jobs - between the day-to-day frustrations, escalating potential for physical attacks & the low pay, well....they deserve a hell of a lot more!

 

[LoveStitch626]

We're either heading down the week of the 9th or the 16th. This free dining thing has us hooked.
After eating in all the best restaurants last year, we returned home only to find our palates hopelessly refined.

Never thought it would happen to me.

It took, no sh-t, about 2 weeks before I could taste my 'normal everyday' food again.

Needless to say, we're hooked now. It's the only vacation where we're not trying to watch what eat. Instead, it's all about 'Ok, We're eating here on Monday, there on Tuesday...' etc etc

LMAO Chris you're not alone! I was just talking to my brother about this Friday night. DH & I literally go off food for about 3 weeks after we return from WDW! Nothing sounds good! We'll munch on something just to eat that day, but we sure as heck don't ENJOY it.


As for what I've been up to, I finally finished my travel agent classes AND got picked up by a Disney agency!

 

[LoveStitch626]

Tee hee, maybe I should start referring to them as DC7, DDo3 & DDo13 on the community boards in threads about child raising. Dog training tactics seem like a good method for parenting.

Seriously, we put Riley in a "time out" when he does something bad. Although having a rational discussion about the inappropriateness of his behaviour seems to be as effective as some people's parenting tactics......

LOL I like the idea of referring to furbabies as DC & DDo! Stupid question, but is Riley a kid or furbaby? LMAO We do the same thing with our dog. We did time outs when he was a puppy but he doesn't need them anymore. We do have long talks with him about his behavior. If he was acting like a horse's hip I sit down in front of him and make sure I've got his attention then I tell him why what he did wasn't appropriate. LOL I do the same thing with "behavior expectations" in advance too.. like if we have people coming over or whatever. I'm a firm believer in "the furbabies live here, you don't" but I do have a talk with him ahead of time so he doesn't act the complete fool.

 

[Liisa]

Chris,

I'm on board with you... I spent 50% of my time planning parks and attraction strategies and 50% planning my dinners / lunches and reviewing menus. YUM!!!!

Liisa

 

[maddhatir]

As for what I've been up to, I finally finished my travel agent classes AND got picked up by a Disney agency!

Congratulations!!!

 

[dolcezena]

LOL I like the idea of referring to furbabies as DC & DDo! Stupid question, but is Riley a kid or furbaby?

Riley's our 3 y/o Border Collie - basically a regular dog on crack.

He now puts HIMSELF into his time out spot (corner of the loveseat, where we never sit) when he's done something he knows is bad. A while ago he got into the bathroom garbage at night & when I came downstairs in the morning, there was kleenex & cotton balls all over the house - he took one look at me & jumped onto the loveseat. Wouldn't get down until DFi came downstairs & "released" him. Can you tell who the disciplinarian is in our house?

 

[dolcezena]

As for what I've been up to, I finally finished my travel agent classes AND got picked up by a Disney agency!

Hey I missed that! CONGRATS!!!! Interested in taking on a Canadian client for Sept '08? (Kidding mods - no unacceptable solicitations for travel agents going on here )

 

[plgrn]

Hi guys! I've been MIA from the Dis for a while. My 3 week old niece passed away, so DH and I were out of town for the funeral and to offer support to our family. Yet another reason to be childfree!! I couldn't handle my infant dying in my arms...and the only surefire way to prevent that is to not get pregnant!!

Anyway, the family is doing remarkably well given the horrible circumstances and DH and I were able to spoil our nieces and nephews absolutely rotten. They miss us so much and have declared us the best aunt and uncle in the world. Ahhh....yes. Enjoying the unconditional love of a child without any responsibility involved.

Madd, I got my first ride on a Harley while we were gone! BIL took me for a ride. I've been on a "crotch rocket" before, but never a cruiser. This was amazing. Help me talk DH into getting one!!!

LoveStitch, Congratulations!! You've worked so hard and I'm happy to see it pay off for you.

 

[dolcezena]

Hey All

I'm sure most of you have seen this before, but my aunt (she of the Forward-happy trigger finger) just sent me this. It brought a smile to my face, so I thought I'd share it...

Remember: Dogs and cats are better than kids because they:
1. Eat less
2. Don't ask for money all the time
3 Are easier to train
4. Normally come when called
5. Never ask to drive the car
6. Don't hang out with drug-using friends
7. Don't smoke or drink (Although Mags does enjoy the occasional bowl of beer - a small one...)
8. Don't have to buy the latest fashions
9. Don't want to wear your clothes
10. Don't need gazillion dollars for college, and...
11. If they get pregnant, you can sell their children. (I absolutely howled when I got to that one!)

 

[maddhatir]

Hi guys! I've been MIA from the Dis for a while. My 3 week old niece passed away, so DH and I were out of town for the funeral and to offer support to our family. Yet another reason to be childfree!! I couldn't handle my infant dying in my arms...and the only surefire way to prevent that is to not get pregnant!!

Anyway, the family is doing remarkably well given the horrible circumstances and DH and I were able to spoil our nieces and nephews absolutely rotten. They miss us so much and have declared us the best aunt and uncle in the world. Ahhh....yes. Enjoying the unconditional love of a child without any responsibility involved.

Madd, I got my first ride on a Harley while we were gone! BIL took me for a ride. I've been on a "crotch rocket" before, but never a cruiser. This was amazing. Help me talk DH into getting one!!!

LoveStitch, Congratulations!! You've worked so hard and I'm happy to see it pay off for you.

OMG Jenn- I am so sorry for your loss! That is horrible. I don't mean to pry- but was it SIDS???

And it is good that you had a chance to get out and ride, beautiful bike. It is a great way to clear your head and forget things for a while- I call it therapy!

 

[maddhatir]

Help me talk DH into getting one!!!

Does your DH want a bike?? DH and I have wanted a bike about a few years after we started dating- so it was just something we knew we wanted.

 

[maddhatir]

Hey All
11. If they get pregnant, you can sell their children. (I absolutely howled when I got to that one!)

 

[dolcezena]

Hi guys! I've been MIA from the Dis for a while. My 3 week old niece passed away, so DH and I were out of town for the funeral and to offer support to our family.

Oh plgrn, I'm sorry - don't know how I missed this! Hope you & the rest of your family are doing OK.

And now I just have to acknowledge this (please ignore if I sound unforgiveably intrusive)...Judging by the pic in your sig, then the pic of you on the Harley, you've lost some weight...lookin' good!

Buying a Harley is on my life list - now I just learn how to drive!

 

[plgrn]

Does your DH want a bike?? DH and I have wanted a bike about a few years after we started dating- so it was just something we knew we wanted.

He refuses to ever ride a bike because he knows he'd run out and buy one! And the problem is.... He has it in his head that they are too unsafe.

SIL's baby died as a result of a heart defect that they didn't even know about until she was born. She was a fighter and lasted 3 weeks though. Very sad.

Thanks for your thoughts and prayers.

Oh and dolcezena, thank you for thinking that I've lost weight!!! Unfortunately, it only appears that way b/c in my siggy pic mom and I are literally wearing everything in our suitcase because it was soooo cold!

 

[Liisa]

Hey All

I'm sure most of you have seen this before, but my aunt (she of the Forward-happy trigger finger) just sent me this. It brought a smile to my face, so I thought I'd share it...

Remember: Dogs and cats are better than kids because they:
4. Normally come when called

Ok... could someone please forward #4 to my two furry beasts!!! My 4 yo girl will actually sit down facing the other way in complete defiance to my summons. I know with them it is a breed thing (they are absurdly stubborn by nature)... but ugh!!!

 

[plgrn]

Ok... could someone please forward #4 to my two furry beasts!!! My 4 yo girl will actually sit down facing the other way in complete defiance to my summons. I know with them it is a breed thing (they are absurdly stubborn by nature)... but ugh!!!

"Normally" is the keyword there, eh?

 

[Liisa]

These shouldn't be combined, but plgrn, I am sooo sorry. Having lost my dog after a week in ICU, I know the emotional rollercoaster I was on. I can't even imagine what it would be like with a child. Especially when you have 9 months of hopes and dreams rolled into that little baby. Hugs to you and your family.



Lovestitch... congratulations! I always wondered if being a travel agent is a fun job. Do you get to "test" the products? I'm a boring old bean counter so most other jobs sound exotic and exciting to me!

 

[Hixski]

Hi guys! I've been MIA from the Dis for a while. My 3 week old niece passed away, so DH and I were out of town for the funeral and to offer support to our family. Yet another reason to be childfree!! I couldn't handle my infant dying in my arms...and the only surefire way to prevent that is to not get pregnant!!

Anyway, the family is doing remarkably well given the horrible circumstances and DH and I were able to spoil our nieces and nephews absolutely rotten. They miss us so much and have declared us the best aunt and uncle in the world. Ahhh....yes. Enjoying the unconditional love of a child without any responsibility involved.

Madd, I got my first ride on a Harley while we were gone! BIL took me for a ride. I've been on a "crotch rocket" before, but never a cruiser. This was amazing. Help me talk DH into getting one!!!

LoveStitch, Congratulations!! You've worked so hard and I'm happy to see it pay off for you.

I am so sorry to hear about your niece. That must have been terrible for the family.