letting my 9 year old dye her hair?

[declansdad]

Your child your decision, who cares what anyone else thinks. Afterall, it is only hair and it will grow out.

Our son, when he was 7, dyed a small patch in the front pink. He has since changed that to blue. He wasn't ostracized, he hasnt lost any friends, nor have any of his friends' parents refused to let him play with their kids. He hasn't started to sell drugs, hang out with the "bad" kids, and he hasn't worried abut losing a job interview because of a bad first impression.

 

[The Orchid]

I agree. A teen relative of ours lives in a big city, goes to the High school on the "wrong side of town." Two years ago , she went thru the Goth Stage-beautiful blond hair dyed black, all the black lipstick etc. we were all quite shocked by her appearance. Since then, she started hanging with older kids, bad kids, got into a lot of bad stuff. This spring, she was expelled from school for selling drugs on the school bus and can not go to ANY public school in her city.Mom kicked her out, her divorced Dad has her.

and it all started with a crazy hair dye job

An old friend of mine has a 16 year old daughter who has recently gotten into drugs and stuff. She was a good girl until her parents took her to WDW. Prior to that she never took drugs, back talked her family or hung out with the bad kids. It must have been Mickey Mouse who made her go bad. I mean, she was the perfect kid before that trip and within weeks of getting home her behavior started to change! What else could it be? She doesn't have any of the other qualifiers that automatically turn kids into demon drug abusing spawn. She never dyed her hair, got a tattoo, I don't even think her earlobes are pierced. She doesn't dress in goth, in fact she dresses very casually. It had to that bloody mouse's influence. What else could it be?

 

[GothTink]

My daughter wants purple streaks. We dye tomorrow. Who cares what people think?

 

[My2Cinderellas]

if there was a big family wedding she was going to be in, or family pics scheduled or something like that, i would postpone the coloring, but i think that i would allow it. My girls are 9 and 10 and haven't asked about dyeing their hair yet, but it's pretty minor in the scheme of things.

 

[Cool-Beans]

If you spend your life worrying about what others think and basing your actions upon that, you'll end up losing out on happiness and will still find that some people disapprove. In the words of Ricky Nelson, "You can't please everyone, so you've got to please yourself."

If the kid wants blue hair and you're inclined to let her have blue hair, then blue hair it is. The pics will be priceless.

But one day you will hear your grown-up daughter say, "How could you let me do that?!" You might wish to videotape all her reasons for wanting it. You can also say, "I don't like blue hair, but I'm choosing not to fight about it because hair is a stupid thing about which to have a fight."

I wouldn't let my kids have blue hair, but hardly think that should be a reason that your child doesn't have it. I support your kid's blue hair as strongly as I'd reject it in my house.

Good luck!!

 

[Sandy321]

seriously? dying hair leads to drugs?

that seems to be quite a leap. I grew up in the 70's plenty of druggies that never dyed their hair! I could go on... but that would be starting a debate I'm sure.

and I'm going to admit to being quite "prudish" - I dont allow short shorts - I adhere to the school's dress code... but its hair! its just something "fun" as long as she has that opinion... I'm good with that!

I cant imagine what you people would think of my parents and my mil - they have tattoos! (and yes I teased them about it! they tease me right back! all in good fun!)

The Orchid I'm so sorry the Mouse affected your friend's dd in that way - she must've forgotten to read the warnings...

(sorry I probably shouldnt try and joke about something so sad! I've also come close to losing my brother to drugs - and he also didnt dye his hair, nor did he have tats or piercings... )

Disney1990 again, thank you for sharing! My heart goes out to you and your family, and your precious grandchild!

I have to add that 2 piece suits also help kids to go to the bathroom! It is a trial trying to find one, tankinis are good... but just try to find one that is not blue or pink!!

 

[tngramma]

An old friend of mine has a 16 year old daughter who has recently gotten into drugs and stuff. She was a good girl until her parents took her to WDW. Prior to that she never took drugs, back talked her family or hung out with the bad kids. It must have been Mickey Mouse who made her go bad. I mean, she was the perfect kid before that trip and within weeks of getting home her behavior started to change! What else could it be? She doesn't have any of the other qualifiers that automatically turn kids into demon drug abusing spawn. She never dyed her hair, got a tattoo, I don't even think her earlobes are pierced. She doesn't dress in goth, in fact she dresses very casually. It had to that bloody mouse's influence. What else could it be?

I love your attitude.

DGS,8, now has very handsome royal blue hair that happens to be cut in a mohawk. He was on the honor roll every grading period last year and has an orange belt in Brazilian Jui-Jitsu (sp) besides playing football, soccer, and baseball

DGD, 9, had hot pink hair last year and has since let it grow out. She has now started cheering on a competition level and the girls are not allowed to have dyed hair. I guess it will mess with her tumbling and stunt skills.

Let kids have harmless fun.

 

[PaulaSue]

Do what you want to do. My friend does her now 10 year old hair for the last few years but I already told my girls that will not happen here.

 

[CPT Tripss]

I love your attitude.

DGS,8, now has very handsome royal blue hair that happens to be cut in a mohawk. He was on the honor roll every grading period last year and has an orange belt in Brazilian Jui-Jitsu (sp) besides playing football, soccer, and baseball

DGD, 9, had hot pink hair last year and has since let it grow out. She has now started cheering on a competition level and the girls are not allowed to have dyed hair. I guess it will mess with her tumbling and stunt skills.

Let kids have harmless fun.

Really???? Does it cost them points?

 

[ophelia]

I agree. A teen relative of ours lives in a big city, goes to the High school on the "wrong side of town." Two years ago , she went thru the Goth Stage-beautiful blond hair dyed black, all the black lipstick etc. we were all quite shocked by her appearance. Since then, she started hanging with older kids, bad kids, got into a lot of bad stuff. This spring, she was expelled from school for selling drugs on the school bus and can not go to ANY public school in her city.Mom kicked her out, her divorced Dad has her.

and it all started with a crazy hair dye job

I shaved my hair, wore black lipstick,dyed my hair magenta and was goth starting about 25 years ago and turned out to be a rather nice person thank you very much. Yeah....it's all the fault of her dying her hair. Oh please.

 

[The LK 4]

We just highlighted my DD 14's hair pink last week. She looks very cute, and is thrilled with it!

It will be gone by the time school starts, we waited until a family wedding was over, and she wanted it done for our Girl Scout trip to NYC last week.

Life is too short to worry about hair color, folks! Why would I want her to "blend in" with her peers? She's a leader, not a follower. She's a good kid, and I'm proud of her.

 

[glasslipper]

BINGO!!!!! Once you have a family member that has been through things like this I think you are more laid back than people that have not. My godson got Leukemia at 2 years old, by 5 he had a pierced ear- he always wanted one and the deal was that once he finished treatment he could get it. After losing his hair he did not cut it again either, he was the kindergarten kid with a pony tail and an earring....who cares...did it matter at all to anyone else?? It made him happy and got him through a rough time. He relapsed after that and again, once treatment was done he could get a second earring in the same ear- so he was then a 4th grade kid with 2 earring and no hair, but it grew back and he kept it long for a long time after that. When he was 14 he passed away, so he had 2 earrings and long hair, it made him happy so it made us happy. I wouldn't have cared if he dyed his long blond hair green with pink polka dots if we could just have him still here with us. I pick my battles much more carefully with my daughter than other people do wth their kids....in the blink of an eye it can all be over and I don't want to sit there thinking about all the petty crap we fought about rather than the good times we had.

I so agree. This is my whole philosophy on life. No one knows what life will bring, how long you or your loved ones will be here so live to the fullest, enjoy, do what makes you happy(long as it's legal, lol) and don't sweat the small stuff.

I'm so sorry about your godson He was lucky to have such a loving family.

 

[Hockeychic]

Sorry I didn't read all the responses but just wanted to add my .02c worth. My kids are now almost 20 and 17 and I would let my DD do it and have let her. I figure with my kids, I am careful to pick my battles, if you come down on everything they want to do (that is realitively harmless) then when there is something you really object about they will take you seriously. Does that make sense? It doesn't seem to be typing out what I am really trying to say.

Of course as the mom you get the final say but life is short, we get one go around on this planet and if it isn't going to hurt your dd or someone else they hey go for it.

My DD played boys rep hockey from the ages of 4 - 10 and when then where 7 they made it to the provincial championships and all the kids where cutting there hair really short and shaving there # on the back of there heads, DD really wanted to do it, and she already had short hair, so we let her. I figure it was only hair and it would grow back and it did

Kim

 

[GoldieSaysMeep]

its not a tattoo -

Life is short, have fun...

This answer is perfect.

She's 9. She wants blue hair. It's summer. It's hair. Dye washes out. Even permanent dyes wash out eventually (I dye my hair jet black all the time and am always annoyed at how quickly it fades). If it doesn't wash out 9 times out of 10 a pro can fix it. Worst case, rarely, a pro can't fix it and you just let it grow back out.

Let her do this kind of silly stuff while she's a kid. Do you really want her dying her hair blue when she's 22 and looking for a job?

 

[luvmy3]

I'm curious as to why so many people seem to think that blue hair will lead to a moral spiral and aging before her time. I'm not trying to argue or play devil's advocate, I just really fail to see the connection. The OP is able to put her foot down about anything at any point. So why does letting the child have blue hair for the summer, mean that she will automatically get a belly ring that she wants or whatever the next request may be. Just because this request gets a yes, doesn't mean that every request will get an answer of yes. I also fail to see the correlation between age and hair color, or even hair dying for that matter. Kids spray their hair and dye their hair at Halloween all the time and it doesn't send them spiraling to their doom. I'm just not sure how being different for one summer is such a bad thing, or how it automatically means that everything will go downhill from there.

Go for it OP!!!!!!!!

 

[happygirl]

I wouldn't let my child do it. To each there own

 

[teskak]

I think go for it - BUT DD has to understand and accept the consequences of her choice - if it does not wash out in time for school then she will not be wearing pink hair to school - it will be a pixie cut.

If everything works out - she has fun for summer, but she cannot complain if she chooses a permanent colour that leads to a pixie cut - her choice, her actions, her outcome

 

[HighClass]

My daughter wants purple streaks. We dye tomorrow. Who cares what people think?

Yeah-and i notice your username.

I think it looks very Halloweenish-but since the majority of folks think its the 'bees knees"-so be it.

 

[GoldieSaysMeep]

I shaved my hair, wore black lipstick,dyed my hair magenta and was goth starting about 25 years ago and turned out to be a rather nice person thank you very much. Yeah....it's all the fault of her dying her hair. Oh please.

I know, seriously. I'm in my mid 30's and have been "goth" pretty much all of my teens and adult life. My hair is dyed black and I occasionally wear "goth" (I hate that term) type jewelry to spice up my boring corporate wardrobe, but in my day to day life, even being "goth" I somehow manage to hold down a 40K+ a year office job. I also somehow manage to have a great, happy stable relationship & many non "goth" friends. My parents were totally normal people. I cry at Disney movies. I enjoy fine dining and wine.

I really can't believe anyone sane would equate a person liking dyed hair, or being attracted to darker colors or darker images to that person being disfunctional in life.

 

[brittanyherndon]

if your 9yr old has the never do to it all the more power to her I on the other hand don't I wish I did