Let your daughter spend night with friend...only Dad home?

[Goofy_Disney_Dad]

I never let any of my son's friends stay the night unless I was home to monitor and protect my wife from their crazy urges and advances. We all know how males are, right? You just can't be too safe these days...

 

[Bianca and Bernard]

I shared a photo from date night tonight with my SO and made a comment that our daughter was spending the night with her friend "jane". Two mutual friends of both us and "jane"'s parents sent me FB messages this evening asking if I knew the mom was out of town and only the dad was home. I told them both we did. One commented back "I just wanted you to know. Better safe than sorry..."

It made me wonder why this bothers some people. We know the family really well and we do not view the dad in any ways suspect. I was really taken aback by such an attitude. I want to respond "safe from what?"

I have a niece that's like those friends. I so want to smack her upside the head.

 

[Gumbo4x4]

DD10's best friend moved away with mom many years ago, so when the friend came to town to stay with Dad, DD was invited over frequently, including many sleepovers. We never gave it a second thought.

Now, I probably wouldn't choose a weekend when DW was away to let my kids have a sleepover, nor would DW choose to do that on a weekend when I'm away. But, it's a pretty rare weekend where just one of us is away so we usually use those as bonding moments with the kids. Were it a frequent occurrence, I'm sure sleepovers would enter into the equation.

 

[DanceswithDisney]

There are quite a few DIS'ers who would never let a male babysit, adult or teen. So sad...

 

[DanceswithDisney]

I've noticed that too.

I have seen this poster do a hit and run on several threads to not comment on an issue, but to post something similar to this. Hmmm... quite curious.

 

[Goofy_Disney_Dad]

If that has already been established again and again...

 

[DanceswithDisney]

If that has already been established again and again...

Some people do not live on these boards day in and day out.

 

[Luv Bunnies]

My next door neighbor's mom died when we were 9. She had three older sisters. They still had sleepovers and birthday parties. Once time the dad took my friend, me, the next oldest sister, and her friend to the family's cabin in the mountains. He took us on hikes, made us dinner, and took us to the movies. He was a wonderful man. My parents knew him very well and trusted him implicitly, and with good reason. He kept his girls happy and thriving by himself until he got remarried 3 years later and got a little help. I don't have any daughters, but in thinking about the various dads of my sons' friends, I wouldn't hesitate to let a girl have a sleep over at their houses.

 

[verleniahall]

My mom ended up having to cancel my 14th birthday sleepover beucase she had to work and she asked the parents if they were ok with just dad being home. They were ok with it, but ere more comfortable with a woman being there.

It may not being anything against the dad, but just a more comfortable feeling having another "older girl" there

 

[Lilacs4Me]

No - I equally trust both the moms and dads of DD's friends or I wouldn't let her go there at all.

I hope people feel the same with us....DD is the middle child between two boys. It would be so sad if she asked a friend over and couldn't do it because they were worried about boys/males being in the house. Ironically, DH, DS16 (almost) and myself are background checked and fingerprinted every year because we are all highly involved in a youth organization in our community, we have never owned a gun, have never done drugs or smoked, rarely have alcohol in the house (we have a couple leftover bottles from our family Chirstmas Party that DH is still working on LOL) so we are probably the most lame and boring house in America. But also the safest. If that is not good enough for DD's friends' parents, I don't really want their kids here anyway. My downfall is being incredibly sarcastic and joking around with kids, so I'd probably offend them anyway.

I did have a woman at DS10's 7th birthday stay the entire time and go on and on and on about how her precious darling is not allowed to have playdates with any kid who has an older brother because she doesn't want "those kinds of kids" influincing her baby boys tender sensibilities. I had had enough by the end of the party, where, BTW, my 12 year old 7th grade son had been helping me and keeping the little boys happy and entertained the WHOLE time, and told her that it's too bad she felt that way because my A is a great kid but they will never be friends. She tried to backpedal and whatever, but I just said that I had listened to her for the past two hours and it just wouldn't work out. LOL

 

[Goofy_Disney_Dad]

Some people do not live on these boards day in and day out.

Oh, I hadn't noticed that. I'm still not sure what that has to do with recycling old drama topics though.

 

[pocomom]

My first thought with reading just the title was as long as the girls were old and competent enough to make their own dinner....because I was thinking of my husband who runs for the hills on sleepover nights, lol. If I wasn't here the kids would essentially be on their own unless a medical emergency came up.
My kids know how to handle themselves, they have phones and I wouldn't let them sleep over anyone's house I was concerned about regardless of gender , (and biggest issue I ever had was a mom who wanted to be the "cool friend" kind of mom with my stepdaughter) so...gender of parent at home is a non issue.

 

[Missy1961]

I have seen this poster do a hit and run on several threads to not comment on an issue, but to post something similar to this. Hmmm... quite curious.

LOL

 

[Sabeking]

Unless there was something that I was aware of that gave me an uncomfortable feeling I have no problems with my DD's sleeping over at a friend's house in that situation.

 

[usnuzuloose]

I would have to think about it if I did not know the man in the beginning. Once I got to know them I would not have an issue with it.

 

[ravenclawtrekkie]

I'd do what you wanted to - ask them, "Safe from what?"

When people make little suggestions like that about awful things, I like to make them actually say the awful things so they can realize how awful they sound.

 

[BigAlsGal]

Good grief...

Cause we all know the mom needs to be there to keep the molesty dad at bay.......

 

[Goofy_Disney_Dad]

 

[kimblebee]

Good grief...

Cause we all know the mom needs to be there to keep the molesty dad at bay.......

You only have to worry if his name is Chester, duh..

 

[Colleen27]

Some people have issues with men. DD has occasionally had a friend not allowed to stay here because of DS... just the mere fact of having a teenage boy in the house is unacceptable to some parents, as though he's anything but annoyed by his little sister and her friends. I've learned to roll with it. I find it sad that some people feel the need to be that suspicious, but in the end I can't make their paranoia my problem.