Larger women in bikinis?

[Liberty Belle]

Sorry but like the rest of us she is entitled to her opinion and not sure why name calling is acceptable in their situation. I am really amazed that in one thread I have met so many posters who can honestly say that they have never been put off by or had a negative thought about someone elses appearance. It is truly amazing how many perfect people hang out on the DIS!

I don't recall anyone saying that?

 

[derricksonb]

I do not like to see men without t shirts they look gross (unless they are in shape) and heavier women in bikini's are also gross. Sorry if that is an unpopular opinion but if I want to see flab and stretch marks I can look in my own mirror.

At the beginning of this thread the OP asked the question, "If you think overweight women shouldn't wear bikini tops, do you think overweight men should wear tshirts or rash guards to swim in?"

It is my opinion that if a man is wearing a rash guard then he'd better be surfing otherwise take the t-shirt off and enjoy the sun.

When I go to the beach, pool or water park it is to spend time with my family and friends, enjoy the sun, sand, surf and slides, and to get some sun on parts of my body that, due to a restrictive corporate dress policy (shirt, tie and suit), would hardly ever see the light of day.... At 6'0" and 230lbs I don't have a six pack like Channing Tatum, but I'm also not rocking the full keg like Chris Farley (RIP) or Larry The Cable Guy. Honestly, I'm a little heavier than I'd like to be, but I am very comfortable in my own skin (excess and all) and refuse to hide behind a t-shirt when I'm swimming or on the beach. I have a much better self image and self worth, and find that wearing a t-shirt would be counterproductive to the purpose at hand. Instead I choose to spend my limited and valuable time away from my corporate sponsored jail cell, err cubicle, playing and swimming with my loved ones and NOT caring about what other people may or may not think of my physique or attire. Because of the fact that I am (What's the male equivalent of Pooh-Sized? Gaston-esque?), when I'm at the pool, beach or water parks I choose to wear board shorts. As a public service I refrain from wearing Speedos or any other form of banana hammock, but I do not object to others wearing them if they feel comfortable doing so. The way I see it is that other people can think of me what they will. At the end of the day I'll likely never see them again.

As far as the issue of larger women wearing bikinis... Given the fact that many women lack the self confidence to step outside of their comfort zone when purchasing or wearing swimwear, I find it disparaging that anyone would intentionally make comments or give looks that may be hurtful or detrimental to the well-being of the person. If the person is comfortable enough with herself to wear something that another may feel is questionable, at least they have the confidence to do so and anything short of a manatee stuffed into a seashell bikini should be encouraged. Instead it is my opinion that the person making the comment probably has such a negative self image that they feel the need to project that onto others.

 

[SweetJoy]

Gross. You are calling another human being gross?

What is wrong with people on this board? You are the second person on this thread to call another human being "gross" b/c of the way they look.

Or are you just someone that was taught by your parents it was ok to call fellow human beings "gross"?

I am thinking the poster is in middle school. If not, this person has some growing up to do.

You know, people can be nice as can be and still look gross - yes gross in a bikini. That second picture of those morbidly obese women? Maybe they are all lovely ladies, maybe they are mean and hateful, who knows? But they look godawful in those bikinis. That doesn't make someone immature or brought up wrong for thinking it, for Pete's sake. If they went up to them and made unkind comments? You betcha. Thinking that way? Come on.

 

[Janepod]

You know, people can be nice as can be and still look gross - yes gross in a bikini. That second picture of those morbidly obese women? Maybe they are all lovely ladies, maybe they are mean and hateful, who knows? But they look godawful in those bikinis. That doesn't make someone immature or brought up wrong for thinking it, for Pete's sake. If they went up to them and made unkind comments? You betcha. Thinking that way? Come on.

People can think whatever they want, but not every thought needs to be said out loud (or typed on the Internet.) Even my seven-year-old knows that.

 

[donaldlovesdaisy]

I don't recall anyone saying that?

Well then why else would they be judging others on here so harshly if they themselves weren't free of the this particular sin.

 

[NHdisneylover]

I think of "gross" as meaning germ laden, unclean, etc. Clean people who take care of personal hygiene, no matter their size or what they are wearing are not "gross" to me.

 

[SweetJoy]

People can think whatever they want, but not every thought needs to be said out loud (or typed on the Internet.) Even my seven-year-old knows that.

By that logic should the question never have been posted then? A question was asked, people are giving their honest opinions. On an anonymous message board, no less. This is the internet, not a cocktail party. Fair game.

 

[dogluva]

Sorry but like the rest of us she is entitled to her opinion and not sure why name calling is acceptable in their situation. I am really amazed that in one thread I have met so many posters who can honestly say that they have never been put off by or had a negative thought about someone elses appearance. It is truly amazing how many perfect people hang out on the DIS!

Yeah, and calling someone gross is also name calling.

 

[dogluva]

Sorry but like the rest of us she is entitled to her opinion and not sure why name calling is acceptable in their situation. I am really amazed that in one thread I have met so many posters who can honestly say that they have never been put off by or had a negative thought about someone elses appearance. It is truly amazing how many perfect people hang out on the DIS!

I never said I was perfect but my bad thoughts stay in my head. Calling people gross is not very nice.

 

[donaldlovesdaisy]

Yeah, and calling someone gross is also name calling.

Oh and I am not saying it isn't however calling some one a name because they did the same is not justifiable in my book but really that is only my opinion! So you have never made a shallow off colored remark about someone's appearances ever?

 

[dogluva]

Oh and I am not saying it isn't however calling some one a name because they did the same is not justifiable in my book but really that is only my opinion! So you have never made a shallow off colored remark about someone's appearances ever?

Probably to myself. You don't know me and what I do and don't do.

 

[dogluva]

Oh and I am not saying it isn't however calling some one a name because they did the same is not justifiable in my book but really that is only my opinion! So you have never made a shallow off colored remark about someone's appearances ever?

What name did I call someone?

 

[dogluva]

People can think whatever they want, but not every thought needs to be said out loud (or typed on the Internet.) Even my seven-year-old knows that.

Exactly-especially when some people posting wear a bikini and are over weight.

 

[dogluva]

You know, people can be nice as can be and still look gross - yes gross in a bikini. That second picture of those morbidly obese women? Maybe they are all lovely ladies, maybe they are mean and hateful, who knows? But they look godawful in those bikinis. That doesn't make someone immature or brought up wrong for thinking it, for Pete's sake. If they went up to them and made unkind comments? You betcha. Thinking that way? Come on.

She didnt just think it- she said it. So my overweight daughter who wears a bikini is gross?

 

[mumto3girls]

This girl looks great! I bet she is a size 16-18. I find her attractive

I agree with you. She really is beautifull and looks fantastic.

 

[donaldlovesdaisy]

Probably to myself. You don't know me and what I do and don't do.

What name did I call someone?

Exactly-especially when some people posting wear a bikini and are over weight.

She didnt just think it- she said it. So my overweight daughter who wears a bikini is gross?

You referred to her as a "middle schooler" in a derogatory manner and I am pretty sure it was meant to be insulting. You are right I don't know you but I know people and I can bet you are no saint and have had your fair share of judgmental moments maybe not towards overweight people but I am sure you have had s shallow statement or 2 for the appearance of someone. She said it because her opinion was asked and she was not targeting your daughter but I will say this if in fact you daughter is overweight like the those women in the picture then IMOP a bikini may not be the best suit for her . I if I had an overweight daughter I would encourage her to pick something else to wear even at the risk of hurting her feelings because I would not want her to be made fun of by her peers or anyone else and letting her out the house in appropriate clothing would make her a target for just that.

 

[robinb]

What name did I call someone?

I was wondering that myself .

 

[DisneyDiva8401]

So girls who wear bikinis have confidence.....that doesn't mean that those of us who prefer more modest appearances have low self esteem or lack self confidence. It just means we choose not to expose as much of ourselves to the world.....And rock a one piece just as well as others rock a bikini! But don't ask a question if you don't want people's honest answers.

 

[donaldlovesdaisy]

I was wondering that myself .

I am thinking the poster is in middle school. If not, this person has some growing up to do.

. I don't know I would think calling someone a "middle schooler" which is basically what she was doing with her comment was meant to be insulting .really if you want to get in to the semantics of things the other poster also did not overtly call someone gross just said to her it looked gross.

 

[donaldlovesdaisy]

So girls who wear bikinis have confidence.....that doesn't mean that those of us who prefer more modest appearances have low self esteem or lack self confidence. It just means we choose not to expose as much of ourselves to the world.....And rock a one piece just as well as others rock a bikini! But don't ask a question if you don't want people's honest answers.

BRAVO!!!!!!!