I know, so not fair! Sometimes I wonder if I can sneak in there, but I worry they'll say no.
Love the title of your update

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Let's see, I think that would be what you want. I say for the price, couldn't really hurt to order it. I'm consider getting my veil from ebay too. I want it for the ceremony but probably will take it off sometime during the reception so I can't really see spending $$$ on it. But we have a indoor flea market type place near me and there are a few sellers there that make them, so I may go check that out.
I think those shoes are cute. They remind me of princess Jasmine shoes the way they are pointy. I think they will be fine under your dress. The part you would see still looks dressy enough so it won't look funny.
Okay, onto the food! My favorite subject!
Jiko - Love it, favorite restaurant in Disney and we may even serve the filet with mac&cheese at our wedding! I know you don't eat meat, but your DF may like that.
California Grill - went for the first time in June and really liked it! Yum, flatbreads! The goat cheese polenta was also amazing!
I would do HDDR instead of Mickey's BBQ, I think HDDR generally gets better reviews.
Oooh, Narcoosee's or Citricos. Really love both, but if I had to choose one...Citricos!
Spirit of Aloha - I've seen some bad reviews on this one, I would skip it. Maybe do Kona or Ohana instead followed by Wishes on the Poly beach.
50's PT - haven't done it but looking forward to it maybe on our PS trip.
Biergarten - want to try this, but don't like sitting with random people, maybe during the wedding trip when we'll have enough to fill a table.
Coral Reef - didn't care for the food, seated really far from the tank and had a long wait, would do Tutto Italia instead, the food is amazing and the restaurant is really pretty. Very romantic.
Crystal Palace - is this breakfast or dinner? For dinner I would do CRT, nothing more magical than eating in the Castle. For breakfast it's good but VERY crowded and we didn't get to see all the characters. Would do Donald's Safari Breakfast instead or if you want to see Pooh & Tigger, 1900 Park Fare - you also get Mary Poppins, Alice and the Mad Hatter so the character interaction is better there.
Artist Point - I really like this one too. I thought they had potato chive potstickers, which to me sounded delicious! The chef could probably also make you something special if your DF really wanted to eat there.
Some of our other favorites - Sci Fi, Hollywood Brown Derby, Liberty Tree Tavern (lunch), Kona Cafe (lunch) and the Yachtsman. I know the Yachtsman is a steak house but they have some veggie options and as with any Disney restaurant I'm sure they could make you something. They are very good at accommodating different dietary needs, so when you're there if you don't see something you like you could always talk to the chef.

We have the best server ever at the Yachtsman, his name is Ricardo and he was so friendly and funny and spent a half hour talking to us after we finished our meal.