Hope you feel better soon. That happens to me too, I get really tired and stressed at work and I take it out on DF, sometimes he totally deserves it, but then maybe I wouldn't have gotten as annoyed if I were in a better mood. Don't worry, everyone has their fights and I'm sure it will all blow over soon.
You should definitely email your MOH since you can't really get in touch with her any other way and not being able to speak with her is really bothering you. Just be careful how you word things and read it over a few times. Sometimes in email the tone doesn't come across the same, or we can get carried away since it's not like there's someone standing in front of you. It seems like even though you are angry with her you still want her to be part of the wedding and in your life, so you don't want to be too harsh. The other downside about email is she can read it over and over again, so just be sure what you write is what you really want to say.
Hmm on the veils...I just don't know, I go back and forth, sometimes I say one tier, sometimes two... of the two you picked, I kinda wish the one tier was fuller and the two tier less full, if that makes sense...which I know is no help at all to you, sorry!