Jack & Jill Greenback Bridal Shower..tacky?

MaryAnnDVC

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We've been invited. And we got the invitation 3 months ago, so it was really hard to say we already have plans.

Have never attended a greenback shower (nor been invited to one), and hoped I would never have to. DH has never been to a shower at all...he is SO thrilled. NOT!

Is there anyone (apparently, yes...the people who invited us) who doesn't think greenback showers are tacky? :confused3 The invitation might as well have said "You're invited...bring money."

I met the woman once, over 10 years ago at her sister's wedding (with about 300 people)...I assume I met her. The current bride-to-be was supposed to be marrying someone else a couple of years ago. :confused3 Good thing she called it off before that Greenback Shower.

Her father works in the factory of the business my DH (CFO) works at, and he's invited my DH to his house once or twice a year over the years for incredible lunches (his wife is an awesome cook, apparently), so we kind of feel obligated to go; it's not like this guy is "just an employee", but I only know him and his family from the first wedding I attended. But if we're invited to the shower, I would imagine it's going to be huge...everyone who's invited to the wedding?? I'm sure the food is going to be awesome, but I'm on a diet. :sad2:

I have no idea how much we're supposed to give. :confused3 I just sort of picture them opening the envelopes and announcing the amount. :lmao: (They won't, right?? :scared1: )

Wonder when the greenback wedding is. :rolleyes:
 
Oh...and it's hosted by the parents of the bride.
 
I've never heard of a greenback shower! I think it is tacky. I don't know what I would do, my first thought is to decline the invite, but I don't know if that is an option for you. My second thought is bring a gift, just because it says greenback, doesn't mean you have to follow it. Wow, I'm still amazed at the idea of a "bring me money" party.
 

unless this is some regional custom I'm unaware of, this seems beyond tacky to me. even if it is a regional custom, it seems beyond tacky to me.

I have no problem with giving money for the wedding, although I prefer to give a thoughtful gift (tradition in my region), but if I'm close enough to the family to be invited to a shower, then an actual gift for the shower is appropriate. sounds like these people are fishing for cash. tacky tacky tacky!
 
I've never heard of this. It's a couples shower where you're just supposed to give cash? :eek: And you don't even know the couple? OMG! I can't even begin to tell you what I find wrong with this. I can tell you that I wouldn't be going.
 
Tacky, tacky, tacky....

Especially since you and your DH aren't close to the bride or groom, I would send my regrets for the shower. For a wedding gift, consider giving a check (in an amount you can afford) since you know that is what the bride and groom really want.

You are not required to attend every event to which you're invited. Even if you have no other plans beyond trimming your toenails, you can say, "I'm sorry, but we have other plans."
 
You are not required to attend every event to which you're invited. Even if you have no other plans beyond trimming your toenails, you can say, "I'm sorry, but we have other plans."

I agree with this. Just because you don't have other plans doesn't mean you have to attend. You just say "I'm sorry, we can't attend."
 
Tacky, tacky, tacky! I'd either decline the invitation or go and just take a "normal" gift.
 
I was invited to one over 30 years ago. It's more of a party than a shower, except that you give money to the couple.
 
I would send my regrets for the shower.
Too late...it's tomorrow. :eek:
You are not required to attend every event to which you're invited. Even if you have no other plans beyond trimming your toenails, you can say, "I'm sorry, but we have other plans."
I know. I'm SO bad at "lying", especially when it seems obvious 3 months in advance that we most likely don't have plans; I'm a wienie like that. DH feels obligated to go (altho reluctantly) because this guy and his wife invite him for those great lunches a couple of times a year...like hours of course after course of food. We feel like they've been generous with DH (but he never brings me doggy bags! ;)), so we need to reciprocate. I think the DD may have worked at the company years ago too, but not sure how well DH knows her. I'm not even sure DH remembers that it's tomorrow. I suppose we could forget. ;) Hhmmm. Nah...two tackies don't make a right...or something like that. :)

OK...DH is home. The father of the bride reminded him it's tomorrow by asking if he knew how to get there. There are going to be 170 - 180 guests. :eek: Another co-worker and his wife will be there; I met her at the other wedding and she's very nice and we'll be sitting with them, so that's good. Also, lots of people I never met from DH's company (he's been there almost 20 years), so it could be interesting.

Now if we just hadn't been invited to bring money. :sad2:
 
I would love to know how the invitations were worded. This is unbelievable!!
 
If you think it's tacky and you don't know the woman well, why didn't you just decline? Sure you got the invite 3 months ago, but there's no rule that says that just because you're available, you have to go. But ... since it's tomorrow, then I'd say you need to figure out how much DH really loves those lunches of course after course and give appropriately.

I don't necessarily think it's any tackier than putting "Bob and Jane are registered at Stores X, Y and Z" on the invitation. Both instances assume you are going to spend a certain amount of money. And I'd much rather hand over cash than have the gift I give be returned or go unused. I'd say, figure out how much you'd have spent on a shower gift if money hadn't been requested, and give them that. You'd have spent the money anyway, right? Who cares if it's in the form of cash or in the form of a toaster?

:earsboy:
 
If you think it's tacky and you don't know the woman well, why didn't you just decline?
DH knows the parents well enough, and her somewhat. He feels obligated to go, and I'm the dutiful wife. :) I'd expect the same from him.
I don't necessarily think it's any tackier than putting "Bob and Jane are registered at Stores X, Y and Z" on the invitation. Both instances assume you are going to spend a certain amount of money.
Registries seem more to me like a suggestion and optional, and usually there's a price range of gifts to choose from.. They're not saying "Bring something from the list." I feel like I'm being told what to bring when the TITLE of the event is "Greenback Shower." It may sound nicer than "hey, fork over some cash", but it's the same thing.
Who cares if it's in the form of cash or in the form of a toaster?
Chances are I'd get the toaster on sale, and use a coupon. ;) Seriously tho...I wouldn't leave the price on a gift. This is like handing over the price tag.

I'll probably have a great time (and blow my diet :mad: and hate myself on Sunday). Still think the basic premise is tacky.
 
Wow. Well, since it is too late to back out maybe you could bring the toaster anyway.:rotfl: Along with a comment on the lines of "Oh, I thought the title of the shower was a joke!"
 
I say bring something eco-friendly....and be like "oh, with all this talk about green house gases, and global warming, i thought the gift was supposed to be earth friendly...not literally green!" But I don't mind looking a little ditzy!
 
Wow. Well, since it is too late to back out maybe you could bring the toaster anyway.:rotfl: Along with a comment on the lines of "Oh, I thought the title of the shower was a joke!"

I say bring something eco-friendly....and be like "oh, with all this talk about green house gases, and global warming, i thought the gift was supposed to be earth friendly...not literally green!" But I don't mind looking a little ditzy!
:lmao:
 
I hate to be the one to beat a dead horse, Mare, (hey--look at that! <---I made a pun! ;) ) but IF you'd moved to Alcoa, this shower would have been in Greenback which is about 20 mins. down the road. Yup, you should have moved.

Have fun at the shower. What are you wearing?

*Brenda ducks and hides*
 










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