Jack & Jill Greenback Bridal Shower..tacky?

[MaryAnnDVC]

Bren! That was punny.

Maybe I should get them something Tennesseean.

I'm thinking black velvet is good to wear. No chance of it being too warm tomorrow.

 

[Momof2princess]

Tacky, Tacky, Tacky.

Maybe you will hear some intersting conversation from the other guest on what they think about it.

You have to let us know how this party is. I have never heard of someone doing this.

 

[Beth76]

There are going to be 170 - 180 guests.

Oh my, that is just beyond repulsive. Nearly 200 guests at a shower?

 

[DebbieB]

A business contact who lives in CT mentioned to me one time that she and her husband were going to a "Jack and Jill". I had never heard of it before. Is it a New England thing? She said it was more of a party than a shower.

 

[GraysMom]

You could always come down with food poisoning tonight. That would get you out of the shower and still have your husband be OK for work on Monday...just a thought.

 

[Mouse House Mama]

Ack - never heard of this but it is completely tacky!

And to have a shower thrown by the parents - more tacky!

My shower was a Jack and Jill and was hosted by both of our parents. It was not a greenback shower (I have never even heard of that!). Where we live the mother of the bride almost always throws the shower. It is the complete norm and we would find it weird and odd of the Mom if someone other than her threw her dd's shower. So I don't think it is tacky at all that the parents want to throw a shower for them but I do think the request of money is very tacky. JMHO.

 

[Stacerita]

All I can say is wow. Totally tacky.

 

[chicagodisneyfan]

Where we live the mother of the bride almost always throws the shower. It is the complete norm and we would find it weird and odd of the Mom if someone other than her threw her dd's shower. So I don't think it is tacky at all that the parents want to throw a shower for them but I do think the request of money is very tacky. JMHO.

Well that is a breach of etiquette! It is truly tacky to have a parent throw a shower and I would think it odd.

Where do you live?

 

[Loverly]

Oh...and it's hosted by the parents of the bride.

Beyond tacky

Parents never host showers

Or beg for cash

Is this a rural tradition?

 

[mumzie2three]

Tacky is having both a Jack & Jill and a shower. I had a co-worker who did this about 12-13 years ago. They called the Jack & Jill a "Testimonial". Very weird to go to a party where the guests payed a cover charge and there were dollar dances for the bride and groom.

I would never attend a greenback shower and I've recently decided not to attend showers or weddings for anyone that isn't a close friend or family member. The last wedding I went to for an aquaintance was really bizzare. And if the shower is for a couple that has already been living together for a while, I will probably skip it.

 

[ilovejack02]

My shower was a Jack and Jill and was hosted by both of our parents. It was not a greenback shower (I have never even heard of that!). Where we live the mother of the bride almost always throws the shower. It is the complete norm and we would find it weird and odd of the Mom if someone other than her threw her dd's shower. So I don't think it is tacky at all that the parents want to throw a shower for them but I do think the request of money is very tacky. JMHO.

Just curious, where do you live?

Folks are talked about around here if a relative throws a shower lol.

 

[BabyTigger99]

Well that is a breach of etiquette! It is truly tacky to have a parent throw a shower and I would think it odd.

Where do you live?

For all the wedding showers in my family (a considerable amount, seeing as I have 27 first cousins, and all but 4 are married), the mother of the bride has always been listed as one of the people the shower has been given by. Nothing tacky to it at all. That's how it is done here.

 

[hlbtimes2]

Dang, 170 guests asked to bring money for a shower gift? Were they looking for a way to pay for the wedding? :lol

 

[Beth76]

Dang, 170 guests asked to bring money for a shower gift? Were they looking for a way to pay for the wedding? :lol

How funny would it be if they end up not having a wedding after all. What a great idea. Throw this giant cash shower and then elope. And no need for thank you notes either because you can thank them in person

 

[graygables]

I'd take Disney dollars. But that's just me.

shower for that many guests: tacky
parents giving it: faux pas
asking for money: inexcusable

 

[barkley]

Dang, 170 guests asked to bring money for a shower gift? Were they looking for a way to pay for the wedding? :lol

some of my former co-workers would have assumed by an invitation of this type that the parents were 'stuck' with a daughter who for a variety of reasons (age, appearance, 'history', lazyness...) was so unappealing to a prospective husband that a financial incentive beyond their culture's customary token dowry was required to seal the deal-and that the parents were unable to come up with that financial amount on their own and within their their extended family-and that the parent had to make the decision to personaly 'degrade' themselves and make a public appeal for funds. for a parent to even host a standard wedding shower was considered a tremendous insult to both themselves (the parents) and the groom. it implied (in their culture) that the parents were publicizing that their prospective son in law was not going to be able to provide the basic items of need in order to establish a home, and that the parents were not of the financial standing to make up for that short-fall.

 

[shortbun]

I don't think I'd sweat it. I'd go and take money. It might just be the best entertainment you've had in a long time! lol! Why worry about it being tacky? Sounds like a huge party and I'll bet the food will be great. Go celebrate the upcoming nuptuals and have a good time.

 

[Acklander]

I've gone to a shower before where they had a money tree that we were all asked to contribute a small amount to before hand. The couple was going to Greece for their honeymoon so after all the money was chipped in, someone exchanged it into greek money (not sure what it's called). I also brought a small gift for the bride to be.

 

[MaryAnnDVC]

I don't think I'd sweat it. I'd go and take money. It might just be the best entertainment you've had in a long time! lol! Why worry about it being tacky? Sounds like a huge party and I'll bet the food will be great. Go celebrate the upcoming nuptuals and have a good time.

I'm not sweating anything, and we are going, and we will give a money gift, and I'm sure the food will be great. Just saying it's tacky...because it is.

 

[ProudMomTo3Boys]

I have 2 sisters and my mom and my sisters threw me a shower and as have I am my mom thrown showers for my sisters so I don't think that is tacky at all. However asking for money instead of gifts is tacky. I was invited to my DH brothers fiances bridal shower given by her friend about 6 years ago and the invite said that since they were redoing the house they would like gift cards to Home Depot. I am sorry but do not tell me what to bring as a gift. I didn't. I bought towels because I know I can always use new towels. I also bought a couple of other things that you can always use. If she didn't like it OH WELL.