It's been nearly 8 year and I AIN'T OVER IT!

Kirk · Mar 17, 2004

My wife left to be with the Lord almost 8 years ago and I still can't seem to shake it! Anyone else find themselves choking back the tears after what seems like a long (lonely) time? Or is it just me being the oddball I am?

gymnasticsmom68 · Mar 17, 2004

Kirk

My Mom passed away 20 years ago and it's still hard for me to believe.

Pop Daddy · Mar 17, 2004

sorry Kirk, you have a big heart

HauntedMansionGeek · Mar 17, 2004

Yer an oddball? Naw.........just someone who's feeling lonely tonite.

Lots of *hugs* and a few kleenex for you to help dry your tears.

Jenn Lynn · Mar 17, 2004

NC Belle · Mar 17, 2004

I am so sorry to hear that---one of my aunts died 10 years ago around Valentines Day and my uncle/godfather is still not fully over it. He went to several grief support groups and changed his career. She must have been a wonderful woman. :hug:

Shel · Mar 17, 2004

Kirk,
Losing a love; a life's partner, no matter how many years have passed is something I'm sure one never "gets over". Hopefully some days the pain is less raw for you. There's nothing I can say that will really help, so I offer :hug:

delswife · Mar 17, 2004

I'm so sorry. :hug:

Your not being an oddball at all.
:hug:

palmtreegirl · Mar 17, 2004

IloveDMB · Mar 17, 2004

Kirk, you're just being human, that's all.

Grog · Mar 17, 2004

Hang in there Kirk, and know that you have plenty of friends right here when you're feeling down. No, you're not an oddball.

Dan Murphy · Mar 17, 2004

You're a good guy, Kirk, with a big heart and sensitivity..all good. Wish I was there to give you a :hug:

Dan

KimRaye · Mar 17, 2004

Not an oddball at all. A caring, sensitive man maybe. (Can I say sensitive to a man?)

Kirk.

Sometimes, when I think of family members who have passed, some recently (2 years) and, some longer ago (16 years), I still get teary eyed and, miss them a lot. I surely sympathize with you. More :hug:

GoofItUp · Mar 17, 2004

Kirk, I can't even imagine what it must be like to lose your spouse. And I don't think it's somthing a person would ever really 'get over'. You're wife must have been a very special lady and I don't think it's one bit odd that you still miss her. Lots of :hug:

for you.

browneyes · Mar 17, 2004

There's nothing wrong to miss someone that's gone. :hug:

Sometimes the pain of losing someone is quite fierce when we least expect it. I know for me, I hear or see something that reminds me of a loved one that's no longer with us and it shocks me how quickly it saddens me. I've had 2 reminders this week of an aunt of mine that's been gone for almost 14 years. Both reminders hit me pretty swiftly.

olena · Mar 17, 2004

ByTheSea · Mar 18, 2004

I can't imagine losing a spouse either, and I hope I don't have to for another 50 years or so.....

I lost my Dad, it will be 2 years ago April 2nd.... I was just thinking about that today, spent most of March that year with him in the hospital....

I really miss being able to talk to him...

Disneyland_emily · Mar 18, 2004

I think its completely normal. Some days it feels like its been forever other days it feels like yesterday.

I know for me there are somedays Im just fine and can handle days and others it takes major strength to get up and get on with life- all ya need to do is keep gettin up every day

Some people come in our lives and change it forever and we are never ever the same.

-em

KingsFanInRI · Mar 18, 2004

my mentor, one of my HS teachers and my fatehr figure growing up (my real father was 3,000 miles and light years away most of my growing-up years) passed away very suddenly just over seven years ago, and there's not a day that goes by where I don't miss him terribly. In fact, I named my DS after him. Gosh, I'm getting misty now just thinking about him... thanks a lot

lol

Don't ever forget. You don't have to forget. Make room for new things, even a new SO (if you haven't already), but not until you are 100% comfortable and ready to do so. The Lord will carry you through and He will provide for all your needs. He will make a way where there seems to be no way.

besides, you promised to love her for the rest of your life. Nobody can begrudge you that. Take your time.

Robinrs · Mar 18, 2004

Is an anniversary coming up, Kirk? A special day that brings those emotions on high? I know sometimes that makes it harder no matter HOW long it's been.

You are so normal, Kirk. Time heals but there are times when the pain is somewhat unbearable. That person may be in a better place but we... unfortunately, are not.

My only solace is knowing that I'll see them again.

My son died nearly 18 years ago, I still cry for him.

My Dad died a year ago last week, I thought I would pull my hair out.

My Mom died nearly two years ago and the hole in my heart is so big I cannot tell you....

God bless, Kirk. If you DIDN'T feel anything, you'd be an oddball after what you've been through.

(Hug your daughter for me. Hormones will make her experience harder, also.)

Robinrs

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