Is it ok for spouse to go to lunch with co-worker of opposite sex?(Inspired by RIDISN

[Frankie Nova]

I don't think that's what the pp is saying. He isn't saying that one cannot control themselves. He is saying that over time it can happen. He is saying that if one of the two is an aggressor and wants more than a professional relationship and continually goes after the other, it can happen. And his choice is to not be in a situation where it could happen. Or to be in a situation where the jilted person could say that it happened either.

Its like I always told my teens. If you don't want certain things to happen, do not let yourself get in a situation where it might. (whether we were talking about having sex, drinking, drugs, whatever).

Exactly my point!

 

[PollyannaMom]

That is a very great question!
I will take a stab at that...

Hi You seem to be new here. You might want to take a look at this policy before things become troublesome:

https://www.disboards.com/threads/important-new-policy-regarding-politics-and-religion.2125870/

 

[sam_gordon]

all opinion my friend...that is all

If you have an opinion that's fine. I think it's wrong to link an article that supposedly supports your opinion, but when you read the article, it actually doesn't. And I think it's also wrong if an article makes a claim in a headline that it doesn't backup in the article itself. It make me wonder what else the writer/organization is using "smoke and mirrors" for.

 

[Nancyg56]

Regarding your earlier post about sexual attraction, I'd love to discuss it, but feel that would violate board guidelines, so I'll just let it go.

I wanted to respond as well, but am going to try not to violate the guidelines.

I am an adult. I respect myself, my husband and the vows we shared together. I am Catholic so marriage is a Sacrament, and I would never forget that, even if I tossed everything else over the side. Having meals, coffee or sharing friendships will never "lead me to temptation"

 

[Frankie Nova]

Hi You seem to be new here. You might want to take a look at this policy before things become troublesome:

https://www.disboards.com/threads/important-new-policy-regarding-politics-and-religion.2125870/

Thank you PollyannaMom and yes I am new. My apologize if I offended you or others. Was unaware of that policy.
Was done with this thread anyway. Didn't think I would be attacked for what was just my opinion

 

[sam_gordon]

Thank you PollyannaMom and yes I am new. My apologize if I offended you or others. Was unaware of that policy.
Was done with this thread anyway. Didn't think I would be attacked for what was just my opinion

I don't think you offended anyone. Some of us simply know what the mods are likely to crack down on and don't want to go down that path.

I would say if you feel you've been attacked for your opinions in this thread, be very careful what threads you respond to. Just because someone disagrees with you doesn't mean you're attacked. In MY opinion, you can post an opinion but you might be asked to back up/support/questioned about that opinion. I can say "In my opinion the grass is blue and the sky is green". Should no one ask me to support that simply because I say "in my opinion"?

 

[Frankie Nova]

 

[Frankie Nova]

point taken

 

[NHdisneylover]

Thank you PollyannaMom and yes I am new. My apologize if I offended you or others. Was unaware of that policy.
Was done with this thread anyway. Didn't think I would be attacked for what was just my opinion

Yeah, I don'T think you offended anyone---nor do I see any response to you which could be considered an attack at all. People are all expressing opnions here and they are often different and then people ask other to support their opinions, etc. It would be a very bland discussion otherwise.

Pointing out the no religion rule to you certainly seemed to just be a friendly heads up to me. I was alittle surpised this (respectful, so otherwise should stay open thread) wasn't closed when Mike Pence was brought into it. Luckily people moved on quickly and the mods seem to have let it be. addin more specific religious content could be the straw that breaks onto the side of being closed, and could land you, a new poster, woth points--so Pollyanna Mom gave you a nice reminder of the rules to keep that from happening.

 

[amberpi]

That is a very great question!
I will take a stab at that. In my opinion there is a danger as well in the areas that you have mentioned. I just believe that draw of attraction to the opposite sex is stronger and not only that, God has given us that attraction purposely. That being said our sexual drive is a God given attribute that was and is acceptable by God ( Done in His standards, whole nother topic) . Now the other things you mentioned to safeguard against are not God given but the sinful heart of man.
Do I have a desire for women YES I do, God made me that way. Do I have a desire to steal WELL NO but put in the right situation I may be tempted to do so.
Eve in the garden was giving the desire for adam her husband( God given)but she was told to stay away from the fruit but she be began to rationalize eating it ( satan)( well its good to eat , I want to feed my husband and it will make me wise, I would like more wisdom as the women of the home ..... rationalized her way right into it ( unnatural unlike sexual attraction)
We are drawn to sex a beautiful gift (GOD HAS GIVEN) to a man and women
We are drawn to Sin opposition to what (GOD HAS GIVEN) but in our natural sinful state as humans.

Finalizing I would say this ...Sexual attraction this God given Attribute coupled with our Lustful sinful nature makes it a stronger and more dangerous of all temptations!
hope it helps . Just my take on it

I'm going to put myself out here and say this post makes me uncomfortable and is leading now a bad road on the Dis, IMO.