Interested in your opinion on this matter

[Disney Doll]

My recommendation to you would be to prepare yourself for the next "poor pitiful woman" your good-hearted husband feels inclined to help.

 

[kellyg403]

My recommendation to you would be to prepare yourself for the next "poor pitiful woman" your good-hearted husband feels inclined to help.

 

[Wishing on a star]

I agree.....

A man spending time with a woman, alone, late into the evening/night, is not 'help'..... Not under any stretch of the imagination.

I am glad that things seem to going better for the OP.
But the blinders are still on.

Unfortunately, I do not feel the the DH has changed in any way.
That particular party just got disbanded because people got caught, accused, arrested.

 

[OceanAnnie]

Sorry for the late update on all this. Since the accusations against this woman's boyfriend, she hasn't been attending TKD at all. Her boyfriend was an instructor at the TKD school. And, of course, no parent would want an accused sex offender teaching TKD to their child. Of course, he isn't anymore because he is in jail. My husband and son haven't really been going to TKD, either, which wasn't my objective. They have been involved with boy scouts, which meets the same time as TKD. The TKD class changed location for meetings to the Knights of Columbus building, which, of course, has weddings scheduled every Saturday, and, so TKD is cancelled on those days. Which leaves just Thursday evenings. They have been coming home early on Thursday, so, obviously, haven't been visiting this woman at all.

The problem with this situation is that it is so intermittant that my husband gets involved in this way. I really think that my husband is a good hearted person, and I really believe that he was just trying to help this woman, for real, truly. The theme song for her life appears to be "Poor, Poor Pitiful Me". She is a divorced, single mother of 4 daughter,marginally employed cleaning houses, and has no education, other than HS. She is 45 years old and taking the prerequisites for nursing school (which are things like freshman English, college algebra and general chemistry, all of which she finds difficult, and all of which I tested out of before attending university at all). My husband is a research chemist, and actually, doesn't really know how to help effectively without becoming enmeshed, which he does at other times with other people. I have discussed this with him, also. There may be a slight component of jealousy, because, I work as a physician. I get to help people on a daily, ongoing basis, but, the difference is that I have the infrastructure to do so without becoming enmeshed.

Anyway, things are going lots better.

Glad things are going better. It's good that you have an open dialouge and your DH does understand your POV.