This is such a tough subject because I don't think any of us want to be considered line jumpers. What wouldn't anyone here give to have a healthy child that did not need assistance!!! That is what rude people fail to understand. We with special children work day in and day out to provide them with every opportunity to lead the most normal life they can. We spend a fortune over their life time paying for every therapy that might help, seeing doctors, trying special diets, managing IEPs, and praying every night that maybe someday they might be able to have a friend, hold a job or live with some independence. For us, giving them a trip to WDW is giving them a chance to get a break from all the extra things they have to do EVERY DAY just to try and keep up with the world around them, a chance to simply be a child and enjoy childhood wonders. Why should we feel ashamed for trying to help them have the best experience possible at WDW??? Isn't that what EVERY parent does that goes there?
I have 2 boys with ASD. Josh is 11, has aspergers and no major issues. Aidan is 9 1/2, has moderate ASD and we get the GAC for him. We have been taking the boys since Aidan was 2 1/2 years old, shortly after he was diagnosed. I used to worry so much about what people would think. I'd make excuses, and clarify to anyone who would listen that my child had ASD. Then, a mom with an adult child made a comment on a support group list that some of us newbies needed to toughen up, get a thick skin, and consider that it was disrespectful to our children to "explain" them to others. We should not have to offer excuses to any one, but be grateful that our children are able, bright, and capable of more than we ever imagined. She also pointed out that even though our children's verbal abilities differ, they hear us talking about them, describing them to others, so we should always be respectful of their feelings and aware that they are listening. It really changed my perspective and I realized I was "explaining" more because I cared about what people thought of me, because Aidan could care less what they thought about him! He does care what I think though.
Funny think is that when I quit explaining, people quit asking. Now they just assume we have a pass because I'm over weight which is a whole different form of prejudice. Same nasty looks though LOL.
Hold your head high and be proud of all your child has accomplished in spite of not having been dealt the perfect hand. And pat yourself on the back for all you've done to help him become who he is today and who he will be tomorrow.
Blessings!