. If I get asked or my kids ask to do something, its as good as done.
Okay, I take back my post. I guess I needed lunch.Sorry.
So ... kind of an in-law issue on way more levels than just a thank-you phone call. Although, if a quick call had been made -- say, prior to ice cream or prior to playing with brother -- it would have taken five minutes and you'd be spared from all the nutiness. If ggmil has been doing this forever, and if your FIL has been driving you nuts all this time, then you had to have known (or at least suspected) this was going to happen. I'm a big believer that five minutes of annoyance is far preferable to two days of raging frustration!
I have a different spin on it. Yes, it is annoying having people tell you when and how you should call etc. However, would it really have been a big deal to take 2 minutes that night and make the call? The child in question is 8. I would think you could just simply say "Let's give grandma a quick call so you can tell her you like her gift. I bet she would love to hear that." No meltdowns etc. It would literally have taken 2 minutes. I know it is very frustrating but sometimes you have to decide if it is worth the aggravation or not. You know the dynamic of the family. It is not going to change. Is this something that you want to cut off contact with them over? If not then I personally would have just made the call that night and it would have been done with.
Yeah, I know...here come the flames.
Listen to what they have to say, nod your head in agreement, and then you and DS should do things your own ways.
I'd just have him call this afternoon and then be done with the issue.
My view: My kids have 2 great-grandma's left. My paternal paw paw died last month and my maternal paw paw and dh's paw paw both died last year. DD got to visit great-great-grandma (dh's side) as a baby before she died and great-great-grandma (my side) was knitting dd an afgan and died before she was born, both were long done before ds was born. Kids are lucky to spend any amount of years with the greats and some great-grans lives only revolve around their grandkids (like dh's), so that phone call could be more important to her. They may get on your nerves sometimes, but with age comes certain exceptions
So ... kind of an in-law issue on way more levels than just a thank-you phone call. Although, if a quick call had been made -- say, prior to ice cream or prior to playing with brother -- it would have taken five minutes and you'd be spared from all the nutiness. If ggmil has been doing this forever, and if your FIL has been driving you nuts all this time, then you had to have known (or at least suspected) this was going to happen. I'm a big believer that five minutes of annoyance is far preferable to two days of raging frustration!
. The second my DS woke up he was in super hyper mode, it being hsi birthday. The only calm part of his day was when he was sleeping. My main goal of the day was hoping he would be calm enough to finish his hw before his activity that afternoon. Thursday's are hectic enough without birthday's. It wasn't worth the aggravation to me or to him to make the call that would have waited till the next day. My priorties are to my son, not my inlaws. I won't even start on the tone of my mil voice when she asked when we were having DS's cake and she found out we were doing it ON his birthday!! But that is besides the point. There is nothing wrong with him calling her the next day. I have learned as a mom of four to pick my battles. I know my son, my battles that night were homework and bedtime..I wasn't going to add a phone call to it. And yes, to have him stop what he was doing to get his attention switched to make that phone call that night would have been a battle.
