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[mrs_hower726]

I will be 30 I know everyone handles birthdays differently, some say 30 isn't so bad but 40 is awful...my worst so far has been 27.

30 is just terrifying for me. I know I have a LOT going great in my life but I can't help but think this is not where I thought I'd be...

Anyone else struggle with 30?

I know EXACTLY how you feel! I'm excited but very anxious. My DH thinks I'm crazy, but that's his opinion. Don't feel pressured by other relatives to have children, I get that all the time from my family and in-laws and I just wave it off, I'm not ready yet.

I think what we need to do is figure out where we thought we would be compared to where we are and see what we can do in the next year to make that more of a reality. My goal is to find a job in teaching music and actually contribute financially compared to working minimum wage jobs.

 

[HelenePA]

I'll be turning 30 very soon (new years eve).. and ya know.. I dont care. I'm also not where I thought I would be at 30 but ya know I'm happy with where I am... are you happy? I mean that is the key to everything right? if your not maybe its time to take a look and find out why your not happy and change that.. Good Luck.

 

[Angelhalo]

I'll be turning 30 very soon (new years eve).. and ya know.. I dont care. I'm also not where I thought I would be at 30 but ya know I'm happy with where I am... are you happy? I mean that is the key to everything right? if your not maybe its time to take a look and find out why your not happy and change that.. Good Luck.

I don't know about the OP, but I feel the same way she does yet I am extremely happy. I have a wonderful DH we are closing on a brand new beautiful home, we have great families.....I just fear getting older. Maybe because I just fear that I won't be able to do everything I want to do? Maybe because I compare my life to my mother's and she was done having children by age 27....who knows. I am very happy....I just hate leaving my 20's behind.

 

[java]

Well I just turned 43. And 30 was yuckier for me than turning 40. I am in a great place in my life. I don't feel the need to impress anyone anymore. And life is good.

Don't waste away your year plus a few days full of doom and gloom. Who knows what you'll be doing then. Life's an adventure enjoy the ride. (and I know you normally do!-)

 

[LoraJ]

I think 29 was harder for me than 30 was. I felt like the OP when I turned 29 but by the time I turned 30 I was over it.

I'm turning 40 in April and going on a cruise and not dwell on it.

 

[Ilivetogo]

It's only a number. That's it. It means nothing. YOU are the one who means something. Nothing will change with YOU from the one day to the very next day simply because that "number" changed.

 

[Zippa D Doodah]

Sorry, I just can't relate. I'm 44 and have yet to reach an age that caused me to think twice. I pretty much blew away my early and mid 20's; it was a fun seven years but there's not much to show for it.

That put me a bit later than some when it comes to some milestones in life (marriage; kids) but the way I look at it I wouldn't be who and where I am today without that being a part of my past. I am who I am and I wouldn't trade today for a single yesterday.

 

[Mom2Satan&Daisy]

Umm...so you're going to worry about something that you can't change, and will happen in a year? ok.

No..I didn't have a problem with 30.

 

[Pakey]

I hated turning 30. 40 was fine. I refused to acknowledge 50. Nobody understood that but I made it clear to everyone that nobody was to acknowledge that 50th in any way. Then, at 51, I was diagnosed with cancer and I spent the next year doing chemo. I guess the bright side is that I will no longer have an aversion to birthdays. However, I do understand the OP's feelings about it.

 

[rainy~daze]

as my DH says every year to his mom


Whoever has the most birthdays wins the race!

Don't think of it as getting older, think of it as getting wiser. Use everyday to learn something new. Anything.
It is a fast paced world and it goes by in the blink of an eye. Seeing as how tomorrow is promised to no one, don;t spend one more second thinking about how you wish it wasn't going by so fast---

jump on and enjoy the ride! or in 10 years you will find yourself saying, wow I wish I never wasted time wishing it woud slow down. Every moment we spend wanting it to slow down so we can catch up is another moment passing us by.

You are YOUNG and seem very full of life. Make a little more time each day, smell the roses, literally. If you need to go for a bottle of milk and can walk the 3 blocks instead of grabbing a cab, walk.
If it is raining, hesitate just a moment before putting up the umbrella. Enjoy the world and what it has for you.
We keep a dictionary by the bed and look up a new word everyday. I listen to my kids tell me a story everyday, and boy do I learn from them.

If you are worried that you are getting older and life isn't exactly where you pictured yourself being at at this age,
that's okay, too. Maybe life is giving you a little more time to figure out exactly who you are and what you want. All things happen for a reason, that I truly believe.

 

[Disney Doll]

30 didn't bother me. Bothered DH, he said (I didn't know him then) mainly because he wasn't where thought he was going to be when he turned 30.

I kind of roll with things, so I don't get too excited about birthdays one way or the other, I figure that as long as I'm still having them, I'm doing OK.

 

[TheDisneyGirl02]

I'll be turning 30 on Oct. 4 and then I'll be getting married on Oct. 17 so hopefully I'll be too busy with the last minute wedding details to worry about turning 30! At least my sister is turning 30 also...she's my twin, so I'm not so alone!

 

[tennvalgirl]

Lol gee thanks

I know, trust me...29 isn't coming very easy either. I had some people visiting from out of town last week. They spoke a lot about their grandchildren, which prompted my mother to remind me that she doesn't have any. Needless to say they were all reminding how close I am to 30 and still no kids...

Are family members bothering you about having kids?

I will be 30 in 7 months and my family REMIND me whenever I see them that I am childless.

Funny though, until sometime last year, they all thought I was 19, 20

People with kids forget things sometimes. (tag fairy help me out)

Anyway...my point being, do you even want children?

I ask because I have always said I did not want children when asked, then there was always "Oh hun, you'll change your mind when you get older" (southern girl here )

I consider 30 to be 'older' and I have NOT changed my mind.

 

[luvmy2sams]

Turning 30 didn't bother me, but 35 got under my skin. Something about being in my mid-30's just didn't sound right to me. However, I don't remember thinking about it over a year in advance.

 

[Master Mason]

I will be 30 I know everyone handles birthdays differently, some say 30 isn't so bad but 40 is awful...my worst so far has been 27.

30 is just terrifying for me. I know I have a LOT going great in my life but I can't help but think this is not where I thought I'd be...

Anyone else struggle with 30?

Turning 30, or 40, or 50 etc is much better than your only other alternative in my opinion, so why worry about it. You are where you are, enjoy the life you have don't worry so much about the life you wish you had, because all that does is take away from what you do have.

 

[GRUMPY PIRATE]

I will be 30 I know everyone handles birthdays differently, some say 30 isn't so bad but 40 is awful...my worst so far has been 27.

30 is just terrifying for me. I know I have a LOT going great in my life but I can't help but think this is not where I thought I'd be...

Anyone else struggle with 30?

In 4,026 days you will be 40

and in 7,676 days, you will be 50

The funny part is going to be, that if you are so worried NOW about turning 30, that when you do turn 40 or 50, you will look back on 30 and wish you would have done something rather than worrying about a birthday!


have some RUM!

 

[tennvalgirl]

have some RUM![/QUOTE]


I love it!

 

[HeatherH]

I got married at 30. Had my first child at 33.

Seriously, it's a NUMBER. It does NOT define you. Live your life.

 

[raysnkaysmom]

I will be 30 I know everyone handles birthdays differently, some say 30 isn't so bad but 40 is awful...my worst so far has been 27.

30 is just terrifying for me. I know I have a LOT going great in my life but I can't help but think this is not where I thought I'd be...

Anyone else struggle with 30?

Aww
I haven't read all the replies..I stopped with your initial post, but I HATED turning 30...I wanted to stay 29 forever!! (Happy Bday btw)
I cried, went to dinner and went to bed at 10:30 on my 30th bday... But..I will say...that year into my 31st bday was some of the best days EVER!!!
When you get to your 'happy point' in life...you will realize it's ALL worth it

 

[DISUNC]

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