If I hear "You're having a THIRD? Are you CRAZY??" again I am gonna SCREAM!!

[mantysk8coach]

People would say to me that I was nuts because here I was 33 yrs old and pregnant and would be sitting by the kiddie pool until I was almost 40! So what!!!?? To each her own. I wouldn't go back for the world. My youngest is such a joy and adds such a sparkle to our lives.

Enjoy!! Live you life as YOU want and don't let others' thoughtless comments bring you down.

Lives4Disney

Oh please...33? These days many women don't start having kids until that age or later! I can't believe people think 33 is too old to be having babies. How sad for people who are so closed minded that they think that way.

Save a seat for me by the kiddie pool, because I'll be right there with you! I'm only 28 right now, but by the time we have #3 I'll be well over 30.

Everyone needs to do what feels right for them, and others should respect them for that.

 

[Grendalynn]

We've actually been talking about going for #3. My two are quite a bit older though: I have two DS's ages 11 (in May) and 7 (in May).

That "What are you thinking" response is one of the things that scares me. My family doesn't hold back on their opinions, and they thought I was crazy for having 2.

I'd go for it anyway, but I'm very nervous about my age (38 in June) and finances (always finances!)

I wish you the best of luck!! Happy and healthy 9 months!!

Our way of thinking is - "If you wait to afford kids, you will never have kids..." We always seem to make due and afford what we need to afford. More so now than when we were first married with DS#1.
I know what you mean about the close minded people as well and what they might say. Not just with people in general, but my in-laws as well. We havent even told them yet be cause we know they will give us grief. My dear MIL only had 2 kids, so of course everyone else should only have 2 kids... Wrong! They will find out in time, but we want to enjoy the newness of it as much as possible without anyone (else) raining on our parade!! I will have a great comback line for my dear MIL when the time is right - tactful yet to the point! But until then - I am going to enjoy this part of my life!!

And BTW - 38 is not too old! My Mother was prego with babies from the time she was 22 in 1968 right up through being 37 in 1981 when she had my little sister - and that was for 5 kids - not 3!! You are only as young as you feel/act!! Trying is always fun anyway

 

[zachnlucy]

Well, we have 5, ages 9, 9, 11, 18 and 21. Raised the first couple and started on the second set. Can't imagine life without a single one of them.

 

[Snow Brite]

As the mother of four, all less than 6 years apart I got this a lot as well.

If someone asked me if I was crazy...I would reply with..."Obviously, the pregnancy hormones are the only ones that keep me sane!".

If they asked me ..."Don't you know when to quit?!?!" I would say, "When my family feel full thank you".

And my personal favorite "Don't you know whats causing that?!?!" was ALWAYS answered with a blank look and the reply..."No...can't seem to figure it out...Do you know?"

Don't feel bad about being rude to people that are being rude to you. Laugh at them and walk away.

I can't imagine my life without all of my children. They might not have as many "things" as they would have if there had been one or two, but they have learned the value of work and working towards something your really want, they are good sharers, and best of all they are best friends with each other. To me, that is much more valuable.

Congratulations on your new baby. Enjoy it!

 

[runwad]

I have 3 kids all 2 years apart and I have to be honest I never got those comments from anyone when I was expecting the 3rd. I too come from a family of 5 and all my siblings have 3 kids. We had 2 girls then got our boy last, and honestly we always said we wanted 3 or 4 and I probably would've went for 4 if DS wasn't such a handful. He's five now and I'm still waiting for him to calm down a little, boys are so different from girls, but I love my little guy to death and can't dream of life without him!! Don't pay attention to people just enjoy your family, we have a great family life, I'm so blessed with my wonderful husband and great kids, that's all that matters

 

[bscs]

Congrats! I only have 2 we wanted 3 but due to health problems had to have a hysterectomy. Three of my closest friends have 5 each 3 is not a lot around here.

 

[DisneyPhD]

Oh please...33? These days many women don't start having kids until that age or later! I can't believe people think 33 is too old to be having babies. How sad for people who are so closed minded that they think that way.

Save a seat for me by the kiddie pool, because I'll be right there with you! I'm only 28 right now, but by the time we have #3 I'll be well over 30.

Everyone needs to do what feels right for them, and others should respect them for that.

I was 30 when my 1st was born, and that is not uncommon around here. I was 33 with my 2nd and if I ever have a 3rd or more I will be 36 or older.

My my mother turned 41 the week after I was born. Not uncommon at all now a days, it was back then, (it was her 4th child, but still.)

I don't mind sitting by the kiddy pool at all. Heck most days you will find me in it too.

 

[sb4k]

We have 4. And yes we heard all the remarks. But not from our friends that have 8 and 6. Whenever they get pregnant, I get jealous. Just take every gift from God that you can get. Thankfully we're from an area where more is the norm. My mom was one of 7 and dad was one of 6. My 4 seems like nothing.

 

[llp479]

I too got "the look" when we told people we were expecting number 3. Could be because we had twin dds who were 2 at the time. Got the "trying for a boy", as well. Can't even imagine life without dd number 3. Even on the days when she's driving me crazy.

We didn't really plan on having 3, but after starting out with 2 we figured we could handle anything! My sister has two from her first marriage and one from her second, and people don't think twice about that.

 

[peigirl]

Congratulations

I just had our third on July 4th, 2005. I was 41. Our dds are 13 and 10. A lot of people told us we were crazy. We told them we did not need anything from them, that we always took care of our own so don't worry about it. And they are shocked that he was planned.

I have one BIL who in particular was very hard on us as my husband is 63 and BIL comment was that DH will never see the baby in college. Well, he could have gotten hit by a car after I had the first but that did not happen. We weighed the pros and cons and couldn't have made a better decision.

Our little boy is the part of the family that we did not know was missing until he came along. His sisters both love him and his 35 year old brother from DH first marriage just dotes on him. And I seem to have more patience with him than I did when i was younger

Enjoy your pregnancy and your little one. Time will go too fast.

Paula

 

[cdrn1]

I know of a family that just had #12...could be thirteen, I've lost count.

Three is small potatoes!
Enjoy them for the blessings they are and just ask the idiots who make derogatory comments why in the world they would say something like that.
Congratulations from this mom of three.

 

[nliedel]

CONGRATULATIONS!

I have four! All boys. I would have more but I am afraid my OB/Gyn would kill my husband (long story, preemies here, lots of bedrest, me not nice).

You know how going from one to two was like jumping the Grand Canyon? Well going from two to three is a cakewalk. Seriously! You have it all under control now and are experienced and the older one will help. OK you may have to bribe for help but they will.

You will hear all kinds of stupid things:
Birth control is over there
Don't you know what causes that yet?
When are you going to stop?
Did you plan this one?

Why is any of that anyone's business? Seriously?

Sigh.. Just smile and say that you are planning on 5 more. That shuts em up.

Have fun. The third one is just pure joy! You are not paranoid anymore. I really enjoy my babies now in a way I did not the first two.

 

[Desnik]

Congrats!!!
My kids are 8yo DD, and almost 3yo DS. We want to have a 3rd and all of our family and friends think we are crazy! They say you have a perfect family, 2 kids, boy and girl, why add another? I think they are the ones who are crazy! I love my kids and think they are a joy even when things are crazy. Kids are the best and DH and I always wanted a big family. Around where we live most people have 3-4 kids so we'd fit right in!LOL
We're thinking of trying in the summer. I like the 4-5 year age span. It works great for my sanity and surprisingly, DD and DS get along and play really well together.

 

[taximomfor4]

And my personal favorite "Don't you know whats causing that?!?!" was ALWAYS answered with a blank look and the reply..."No...can't seem to figure it out...Do you know?"

I have 4 also... When I was pregnant with the 4th, I had an 8yo, 3 yo, and 2 yo already.

For the comment quoted above...knowing what causes this...my response went from polite laughter, to ignoring, to being rude right back. When a stranger on an airlplane made THAT comment to me, I replied, "Yes, I know what causes it, obviously...what I DON'T know is what causes strangers to make rude, ignorant comments."

She left me alone after that. HA. Should have put it on a tshirt (maternity, of course).

Beth

 

[3PRINCESSMOM]

Next time someone makes a comment like that to you, tell them something really crazy in response. Like "My husband and I were done, but I thought I'd pro-create, at least one, with my twenty-something boy-toy." or "Since I can not figure out how this happened, I am wondering if I was fertilized by aliens."

After they lift their jaws off the ground, tell them their comments were no less ridiculous or offensive than what you said.

Congratulations. As a mom with a recent addition, baby #4 came in April 05, I can totally relate. In our case it was somewhat of a surprise, but everyone thinks we were making a last gasp effort for a boy...as it turns out I am no longer a 3PRINCESSMOM, we did get a little prince.

 

[pirateofthecarolinas]

Congrats..........I love my DS3. He is my snuggle bunny!

I got a lot of comments too. Just ignore them.

Lori

 

[Chris]

With that being said - Have any Mothers or Fathers out there also experienced this type of thing? I am exasperated!! Sorry for the ranting and raving, but HELP!!

First of all CONGRATULATIONS!!!!!!!!!!!!! That is wonderful news!
Secondly, I have 5 children and I know exactly what you mean!!
One of my favorite lines is can't you find a hobby to which I replied, obviously we've found one we like!

Don't let them rain on your parade!! Have a wonderful, smooth 9 months!

 

[Disney_1derland]

Just wanted to offer and say I feel your pain! When I told my boss at work that I was pg her only words were "Wow, you're crazy. How's this gonna affect me???" Most everyone in my office thinks I'm nuts. We are overjoyed about it. We never planned a third but it has been a great surprise and now when people say "are you crazy". I just smile and nod.

Good Luck with your pregnancy! We'd love to see you over at the "Moms to be" thread on the community board

 

[Tinker*Shell*Bell]

Congtats on your pregnancy, I wish you a happy healthy baby!
I have 4 children 3 boys:12, 11 and 5 and a 1yo baby girl.
The little girl was a "Surprise" baby but she is one of the best surprises of my life. I tell almost no one that she was not 100% planned.
Like most have said I think we've heard it all.

4?!? Then stunned silence.
They know how to prevent that now! (from my former Biology teacher)
Was this one (4th) on purpose? (how rude!)
Are you Catholic? (are Catholics the only one that love children?)
Well, You're not having MORE are you? (no, but not because I think it would be too many)
Did you get your tubes tied now that you have your girl? (none of anyone's business)
my LEAST favorite was from my mom: "Michelle, what were you thinking?!?" (told her the surprise part and that shut her up!)

We have a small house and are but I love all my children and can't imagine my life without them. I now try to answer the question "How many do you have?" with a trite "4, they keep me busy but I wouldn't change a thing." Most of the time no more is said.

More pixie-dust for your healthy baby and ignore the verbal diarrhea that affects most people when it comes to things that are simply none of their business.

 

[stahshee]

SOME PEOPLE ARE JUST RUDE! I have 4 And If I hear from anyone are you done Im going to screem. People are rude and what do they care if you have 10