I witnessed something very disturbing today (long)

[nicolemomof4cuties]

Why didn't you address my point? Most professions have some sort of training. Are they trying to treat everyone like dogs?

Yeah and I wonder if ol' girl potty-taught her daughter instead of potty-training her child like the rest of us.

 

[nicolemomof4cuties]

Everybody is well trained at your home. You're the poster whose husband tells you what you may and may not read, correct? So you're well-trained as well!

We believe that the husband is the head of the household and if he asks me not to do something I believe that I should be respectful and do so. In doing that I am teaching my children respect. If more people followed biblical principals there might be less divorce. But who knows? It works for our family. We are quite happy and he is not a bossy butt he just REALLY did not care for that particular book for quite some time and had finally reached his limit. So we compromised and got rid of them- no biggie the kids and I had already read all of them anyway-it just decreased the size of our library. But if well-trained = respectful, thanks for the compliment.

 

[nicolemomof4cuties]

Uh-huh...name some that hasn't been paid for by the toy companies...

thank you thank you.

 

[JennyMominRI]

We believe that the husband is the head of the household and if he asks me not to do something I believe that I should be respectful and do so. .

What happens if you ask him not to do something?

 

[nicolemomof4cuties]

What happens if you ask him not to do something?

We discuss it and he doesn't it do it. If I am being silly....which I can be sometimes as I am highly emotional, he will explain to me why I am bein silly about it. He is quite calm and rational, however. Which is good, because I can be hot-tempered. But we compromise on alot.

 

[JennyMominRI]

We discuss it and he doesn't it do it. If I am being silly....which I can be sometimes as I am highly emotional, he will explain to me why I am bein silly about it. He is quite calm and rational, however. Which is good, because I can be hot-tempered. But we compromise on alot.

Well compromise is a good thing in any relationship..I do have to say that I'm the Torah has no part about "The man is the head of the woman" etc.

 

[Acklander]

We believe that the husband is the head of the household and if he asks me not to do something I believe that I should be respectful and do so. In doing that I am teaching my children respect. If more people followed biblical principals there might be less divorce. But who knows? It works for our family. We are quite happy and he is not a bossy butt he just REALLY did not care for that particular book for quite some time and had finally reached his limit. So we compromised and got rid of them- no biggie the kids and I had already read all of them anyway-it just decreased the size of our library. But if well-trained = respectful, thanks for the compliment.

Wow - I couldn't imagine being in a marriage where I wasn't an equal partner. Besides, as a mother of sons, I'd hate to think what kind of example that would set for my kids, thinking that a woman has less value than a man.

 

[nicolemomof4cuties]

Wow - I couldn't imagine being in a marriage where I wasn't an equal partner. Besides, as a mother of sons, I'd hate to think what kind of example that would set for my kids, thinking that a woman has less value than a man.

My DH never behaves in a way that would make anyone think that a women has less value than a man. He is a very good, kind man. And a wonderful father.

 

[TinkerbellMama]

We believe that the husband is the head of the household and if he asks me not to do something I believe that I should be respectful and do so.

We believe that if my husband asks me to do something he knows is offensive to my sensibility as a strong, independent woman...he'd better duck!

Likewise, we believe that if I can't make decisions for myself, it's not fair to expect my husband to think for me, and that it sets a bad example for our son. Cooperation and feedback are great...but the ultimate decisions are my own. I suppose you could argue that it's a decision to abdicate decision-making power, though.

And to bring this post slightly back on-topic, if my husband ever laid a hand on our son in anger, there'd be hell to pay!!!!!!! Fortunately, my dh doesn't believe in violence, either.

 

[nicolemomof4cuties]

We believe that if my husband asks me to do something he knows is offensive to my sensibility as a strong, independent woman...he'd better duck!

I am sorry but that cracked me up! I almost choked on my sweet tea!


And to bring this post slightly back on-topic, if my husband ever laid a hand on our son in anger, there'd be hell to pay!!!!!!! Fortunately, my dh doesn't believe in violence, either.

I do agree with you on this, we do believe in spanking but if ANYONE- including my husband or ex-husband- spanked my children in anger, I would probabli take them out!

 

[Freyja]

I do agree with you on this, we do believe in spanking but if ANYONE- including my husband or ex-husband- spanked my children in anger, I would probabli take them out!

May I ask why on earth someone would spank their child, if not in anger?

 

[babieemelly]

No, you guys are angry in general for something we didn't say. Unless I missed something. If someone said "sit still" you added the "with nothing to do" and the "for unlimited periods of time."

Again, I think some of you (not you specifically) just feel like being mad at someone, because I just don't think anyone, unless you can show me, is saying a 2 year old should be able to just sit down and shut up staring into space with nothing to do.

If someone said something and I missed it, show me and I will be the first to admit that I am wrong.

Um, I just said I agree with you and was talking about a different poster. It looks like you're the one who just feels like being mad

 

[nicolemomof4cuties]

Um, I just said I agree with you and was talking about a different poster. It looks like you're the one who just feels like being mad

I think that she was talking about me. I expect my children to on occasion, if they are not having children's church, to sit and be good during our church services. Usually The older 3 read the older 3 read their Bibles as they are quite proficient at reading or GASP! pay attention and follow along. My youngest who is 3 actually HATES children's church and would rather sit upstairs in the sanctuary and be quiet with Mommy . I guess he is a weird kid. I guess maybe I should quit all that training er....a teaching that I'm doing. Apparently it's working too well. He like's being a quiet boy that sits and listens to the Pastor. LOL! I also expect that to sit quietly while waiting for the Dr. They can converse quietly amongst each other and myself but I do not allow running around and such as it bothers other people who may not feel wel and also spreads germs- ick! My Dr. has known me for almost 8 years and always gets us in fairly expediently and he must think that I am doing something right as he trusts his two children with me for childcare when his mother goes out of town.

 

[TinkerbellMama]

My youngest who is 3 actually HATES children's church and would rather sit upstairs in the sanctuary and be quiet with Mommy . I guess he is a weird kid. I guess maybe I should quit all that training er....a teaching that I'm doing. Apparently it's working too well. He like's being a quiet boy that sits and listens to the Pastor. LOL!

This has a LOT more to do with his natural temperament than your teaching, though, especially at age 3. You can work with an extra-squirrel-y kid all you want, but that itch is still going to be there. Sitting absolutely still and being TOTALLY quiet is not something my son could do no matter what. And he is a very sweet boy who is loving, polite, and has a long attention span (no ADHD). I work with him as much as possible, but when he needs to move around and it is not appropriate for the setting, I distract him and/or remove him from the situation. It doesn't make him a bad or disobedient kid! And it doesn't make me a bad mother that I can't get him to "just sit still and be quiet" (not that you have said it would; I'm just making a point). In fact, it makes me a good mother because I am aware of his limitations and work with him instead of against him. I would never dream of punishing him because he can't live up to some ridiculous expectation of what a child SHOULD do at a very young age. I can't understand people who think it's misbehavior or wilfull bad behavior for a young child to be antsy. That's crazy! It's how many of them are wired. They can't help it. They can learn, yes, but for the most part they can't be expected to sit like little adults without making a peep or moving a muscle.

Maybe next time around I will get a "sitter stiller" who is content to be quiet when necessary...but I'm not gonna hold my breath!

And on a related note...child abuse debate aside, the OP described some pitiful parenting.

 

[crazymomof4]

I can't understand people who think it's misbehavior or wilfull bad behavior for a young child to be antsy. That's crazy! It's how many of them are wired. They can't help it. :

It's like I always say: "Have you ever seen a puppy or kitten be still unless they are sleeping?" God put it in young creatures to be active and a curious........you can't fight what is inborn. You can start early and teach them and by around age 3 they can control themselves for longer periods of time. But one must be reasonable as to what can be expected before age 3.

 

[bluefairy13]

Um, I just said I agree with you and was talking about a different poster. It looks like you're the one who just feels like being mad

um, I already admitted I was wrong, so don't get all excited!

I didn't understand that someone was actually calling for little 2 year old soldiers, and I'm as surprised as you are.

I've just heard too many parents act like their child has no more control than a puppy or kitten and not capable of any reason at all. I say it's the time to start teaching/training them, is all. (still trying to understand why some of you have a problem with the word, too. I called it toilet training, and we said religious training - it's just a word.)

 

[PaulaSB12]

I am not twisting anything. I said that you thought he should be thrown out and you did. Yep, he was running out of the room, yep he wanted to play with toys, yep he wanted to play with toys instead of color. If you really think a 3 year old should sit and do nothing at a table for AN HOUR because he does not want to color, that just says it all.

Kristine

What where the other children doing? If the children wher behaving and sitting down why should they be disrupted because your child wants to do what he wanted? What happens when he gets to school he isn't going to be able to just do what he wants then.

 

[Freyja]

What where the other children doing? If the children wher behaving and sitting down why should they be disrupted because your child wants to do what he wanted? What happens when he gets to school he isn't going to be able to just do what he wants then.

I guess he´ll be a couple of years older when he starts school, right?

 

[connorlevismom]

What where the other children doing? If the children wher behaving and sitting down why should they be disrupted because your child wants to do what he wanted? What happens when he gets to school he isn't going to be able to just do what he wants then.

I don't know what the other children were doing, I did not ask her. My son goes to daycare at a center so he is very familiar with the school atmosphere. I asked his teacher (after this incident at Sunday school) how he acts in those situations and she said great. So I don't know what the problem at Sunday school was.

Kristine

 

[connorlevismom]

I guess he´ll be a couple of years older when he starts school, right?

Yes. He is 3 now and will be 5 1/2 when he starts school.

Kristine