I *was* FURIOUS at my DH---please send some prayers, good thoughts...

[DopeyRN]

He has ruptured discs in his back on 4 occasions. We have been very lucky up to this point as the pain has been all in the back with no radiation down his legs. He has gotten heavy lately (5'10" and 200...not horrible but..) and has been getting an "expanding" waist line. I have begged him since the last rupture to get in shape, esp his stomach as it NEEDS to support his back. He has completely ignored me.

Well you guessed it....he was getting out of bed this morning and BAM! He did it again. But this time he is having radiating pain to both hips. This time will be different. This time there is a real chance he will go to surgery. The neurosurgeon he went to has switched to law. I do not even know where to take him. (Actually DS will need to take him as at work we only have 5/11 people working and I cannot call in today)

He has just changed our lives. I told Pumba last night that I was looking forward to 2003 because 2002 has not been so great.

Guys I NEED prayers here. I am angry...very very angry. I would like to walk up and punch him. And I am scared. Thanks.

 

[olena]

*HUGS* I'm so sorry. I understand your anger and concern. Your family will be in my prayers.

 

[Tony-NJ]

Hugs and Prayers Dopey. I know your angry, but try not to be, the guy is in pain right now. He need's you.

All the best!

 

[Serena]

Dopey, {{{{hugs}}}}}

No advice, but it would be nice if the men in our lives listened to us.

 

[The Mystery Machine]

Maybe things will get better after this. Prayers and good thoughts sent.

 

[JasonLyons]

when he gets well hide the sandwiches, , i did pray for him

 

[Mskanga]

I know the frustration pretty well Donna, I keep nagging at my DH to quit smoking because besides the cost $45 a carton that lasts him 5 days, it's not good for him and those around him but he's not listening.
Prayers going out for you and your dh , hoping for the best. Hang in there, I can't wait for 2003 either, this year has been very bad for us too.
{{{{{{{hugs}}}}}}}}

 

[amid chaos]

You need to make him a little cake and on it write...TOLD YOU SO!

hugs...this sounds like youa re going to be caring for him awhile.

 

[browneyes]

I hope his back gets well soon. Don't be mad at him (I know that you're channeling your fear into anger, but don't be mad at him ). Prayers and **pd** being said/sent from GA.

 

[Dan Murphy]

My best, Donna, and a {hug} and prayer. Hoping he gets well and stays well.

 

[EROS]

Dopey, I feel that you should show your DH a little more EMPATHY and a little less ANGER. Sure, he may have contributed somewhat to this exacerbation , but so what?????? It's like "blaming" a smoker who sadly develops lung cancer.

The time for "blame" is over. He NEEDS you............

 

[missymouse3367]

{{HUGS}}

 

[bumcat]

Prayers for your husband. The anger will pass.

 

[Pin Wizard]

Originally posted by Mskanga
the cost $45 a carton

Holy moley! I quit smoking 17 years ago and a carton was around $13-$15. There's NO WAY I'd pay $45. Sheesh!

 

[Pin Wizard]

Originally posted by Mskanga
the cost $45 a carton

Holy moley! I quit smoking 17 years ago and a carton was around $13-$15. There's NO WAY I'd pay $45. Sheesh!

 

[newmousecateer]

{{HUGS}} and prayers. Hope DH gets better soon.

 

[doxdogy]

I have to admit I agree with Eros. He needs for sympathy and empathy right now. All of the could have, should have and would have will not ease his pain. He needs to a big hug and prayers. Sending them for him and you.

Originally posted by EROS
Dopey, I feel that you should show your DH a little more EMPATHY and a little less ANGER. Sure, he may have contributed somewhat to this exacerbation , but so what?????? It's like "blaming" a smoker who sadly develops lung cancer.

The time for "blame" is over. He NEEDS you............

 

[Blondie]

I know you're upset and angry, but like Eros has stated, you need to get past that, and get him the help he needs, which I know you'll do.

I have known several people who have had the same problem, and all have ended up having surgery.

They now live a pain free life, and are in better shape now, then before.

 

[DopeyRN]

My anger IS subsiding. And anyone who thinks I will not take care of him can go take a flying leap. Last time this happened I was 2 weeks out from a C section/hysterectomy and had to assume full responsibility for him and 3 kids and a house.

The good news is there is less hip pain, so hopefully we will dodge that surgery bullet once again.

Thank you to all who offered prayers and support...it is very much appreciated. It is nice to know SOME here will allow me to vent.

 

[EROS]

Best of Luck..........sounds like you're already undergoing an attitude adjustment .........