I need some advice

[JohnZ46]

I guess you guys are right.

Im allowed to be hurt and upset though arnt I?

You'd be better to invest the time into figuring out why what you "want" and what you "need" are not the same thing.

 

[Laurabearz]

I just really like him..even tho i know hes treating me like a jerk.

I just felt like he was the one for me, and he was going to make me happy.

Only YOU can make YOU happy ((hugs)) And you need to ask yourself why your attracted to a man that treats you like a jerk...

I guess you guys are right.

Im allowed to be hurt and upset though arnt I?

We are right.. A real MAN does not treat women poorly.

You guys are talking sense.

I guess I am sad about what could of been, but that is only because he promised me so much.
I just think why make up so many lies, its not like i had anything to offer to him.

What "could have been" was all in your head..

Just think to yourself, if my Daughter was telling me all this... what advice would you give her? Find a man who treats you right? I think so.

 

[thelittlemermaid83]

I never once said i needed him.

Also the guy worked at DLRP so i didnt think someone like him would be a threat to me or my child seeing he actually was managment at Disney. But then again maybe im a bad judge of character.

 

[TinkerbellMama]

I never once said i needed him.

Also the guy worked at DLRP so i didnt think someone like him would be a threat to me or my child seeing he actually was managment at Disney. But then again maybe im a bad judge of character.

I am not being snarky, HONEST...

Do you really believe that bolded line? Or is that a sarcastic response to some of us here? The reason I ask is that IF you think perhaps you may not be the best judge of character, all the more reason for you to be EXTRA cautious. If that's the case, please don't be ashamed. Some people are better at it than others. I can only suggest that those who aren't so keen take care to make sure before involving children in a relationship...even for a casual meeting in a public place. YOU NEVER KNOW, and sadly, people DO prey on the unsuspecting...especially online. Be safe.

 

[dnoyes]

You'd be better to invest the time into figuring out why what you "want" and what you "need" are not the same thing.

I think like JohnZ46

Another thing I should add, it sounds like he's trying to end a relationship that never even started? why wont you let him?

 

[thelittlemermaid83]

I meant after this whole thing maybe im not the best judge of character as i thought i was before.

 

[Chicago526]

I never once said i needed him.

Also the guy worked at DLRP so i didnt think someone like him would be a threat to me or my child seeing he actually was managment at Disney. But then again maybe im a bad judge of character.

Unfortunatly jerks work for all sorts of companies. Even Disney.

Look at the bright side. You learned this about him now rather than a few months from now when he had his hooks in even deeper. You're going to spend a few days in DLP with your daughter and you're going to have a great time. Chalk this up to a learning experiance, have a good cry over it with a glass of wine and a pint of ice cream, and do your best to move on. Don't kick yourself over it, most men and women met up with one or two jerks in their life. I know I have and I could tell you stories about my DH's ex-girlfriends that would make you

 

[thelittlemermaid83]

I think like JohnZ46

Another thing I should add, it sounds like he's trying to end a relationship that never even started? why wont you let him?

I never said i wouldnt let him.
End of the day he has a mouth he should use it and say he doesnt want a relationship instead of meeting up for a drink with me.....any normal person would be like see ya..but no he wants STILL wants to pop by and have a drink. Why waste your time?


By the way i didnt come on here to be flamed, i only asked for some advice on the situation.

 

[TinkerbellMama]

I never said i wouldnt let him.
End of the day he has a mouth he should use it and say he doesnt want a relationship instead of meeting up for a drink with me.....any normal person would be like see ya..but no he wants STILL wants to pop by and have a drink. Why waste your time?

That right there tells me you're on the right track...GOOD FOR YOU!!!!

The jerk doesn't deserve you. I hope you will find someone terrific in the near future!

 

[lovemygoofy]

I meant after this whole thing maybe im not the best judge of character as i thought i was before.

Everyone makes a wrong choice about someone at sometime. Heavens, I could fill up this message board with horror stories about dates lol. That's part of the process of dating.

Honestly though it probably wasn't that you are a bad judge of character it's that his game is that good. Yes, it probably is a game to him.

 

[thelittlemermaid83]

Honestly though it probably wasn't that you are a bad judge of character it's that his game is that good. Yes, it probably is a game to him.

Well if he really is playing a game with me, then he won. He made me fall for him and then broke my heart. So I hope he is having a good laugh at my expense...

And im gonna arrange to meet him and just not turn up, Im gonna watch him from afar hang aroung like a loser and hopefully he will feel as crap as hes made me feel.

 

[dnoyes]

I never said i wouldnt let him.
End of the day he has a mouth he should use it and say he doesnt want a relationship instead of meeting up for a drink with me.....any normal person would be like see ya..but no he wants STILL wants to pop by and have a drink. Why waste your time?


By the way i didnt come on here to be flamed, i only asked for some advice on the situation.

Sorry, I thought you said he was only going to meet you for a drink out of courtesy? did I understand that wrong?

 

[Handbag Lady]

I never once said i needed him.

Also the guy worked at DLRP so i didnt think someone like him would be a threat to me or my child seeing he actually was managment at Disney. But then again maybe im a bad judge of character.

Did he say he was a Disney manager or have you actually seen him with his nametag at DLP and got a glimpse of his ID? He could be lying about that too!

Please feel bad for a very short time. We've all been duped by a jerk. I was with one jerk for 8 loooooonnnnnnnnngggggg years. I still wish I could go back in time and smack myself up the head at about year 1 into that relationship.

I wouldn't even bother with the drink. Well, okay take yourself out for a drink alone and we'll toast you! Go find someone else!

 

[lovemygoofy]

Well if he really is playing a game with me, then he won. He made me fall for him and then broke my heart. So I hope he is having a good laugh at my expense...

And im gonna arrange to meet him and just not turn up, Im gonna watch him from afar hang aroung like a loser and hopefully he will feel as crap as hes made me feel.

What's the point?? Tomorrow is a new day. Wake up and start fresh, delete him from your phone and your email and your IM and whatever else and start over.

To go through with this plan would only set yourself back more and there's no point. Honestly, I doubt his feelings would be hurt or he's going to have a 100 excuses for you and start his game over. Just move on.

 

[minnie56]

Ohhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh please, kick him to the curb!!!!!

The guy is playing games with your head! You are SO much better than this!

 

[thelittlemermaid83]

Did he say he was a Disney manager or have you actually seen him with his nametag at DLP and got a glimpse of his ID? He could be lying about that too!

Please feel bad for a very short time. We've all been duped by a jerk. I was with one jerk for 8 loooooonnnnnnnnngggggg years. I still wish I could go back in time and smack myself up the head at about year 1 into that relationship.

I wouldn't even bother with the drink. Well, okay take yourself out for a drink alone and we'll toast you! Go find someone else!

He worked as creative director at DLRP so he didnt have a namebadge but he was working with his staff when i went to meet him so i didnt have any reason to doubt him, plus he had a folder full of stuff on him about Disney plans etc...

I dont know what to believe anymore.

 

[Embel]

I wouldn't have any trouble remembering if someone asked me not to call them...and you'd better believe I wouldn't. Ever.

I think he showed his true colors when he made that request. Be glad that you are rid of this man early on.

 

[Tigger&Belle]

A) he's married (and lied about his wife being dead! )

B) he has major control issues

C) he's married and has major control issues

Take your pick but any which way you slice it, he's bad news. He's doing you a favor honey. I know it hurts but trust me, you're better off.

I so agree. RUN from a controlling person. He can't accept an apology for a minor mistake on your part. Not worth the trouble.

I just really like him..even tho i know hes treating me like a jerk.

I just felt like he was the one for me, and he was going to make me happy.

He's not making you happy when he treats you like pond scum, is he?

 

[Tigger&Belle]

And im gonna arrange to meet him and just not turn up, Im gonna watch him from afar hang aroung like a loser and hopefully he will feel as crap as hes made me feel.

I understand wanting to do this, however he will then just think that you lied again. Take charge, tell him that you're not going to be treated like dirt by him, and tell him you are not meeting.

 

[Mkrop]

I guess you guys are right.

Im allowed to be hurt and upset though arnt I?

No one is trying to flame you. They just want you to wake up and smell the coffee. This guy is a jerk, he captured your heart, and then crushed it. So many of us have BTDT but you really need to walk away with your head held high, be glad you didnt get further into the relationship, this IS what dating is for, to weed out the bad ones, until you do find your Prince Charming. And you will!

And I am skepitcal about the namebadge thing. I dont know if Paris is different but all those high level execs on the Travel Channel shows ALWAYS have their name badges on.