I need some advice

[thelittlemermaid83]

Where do I start

A few months ago i started chatting to a guy on Facebook who was American but was working in France, now i went and met up with him last month when i went Disneyland Paris and we arranged to meet up in 8 days time there again to get to know each.

Well we have fallen out, and now he says he will only meet me for a drink next week out of courtesy and that i have basically blown my chances with him as he said i cant keep promises.
(I said i wouldnt call him, and i stupidly forgot and called him as i was upset...) Basically he thinks if we got together this will keep happening.

He has told me to take my Daughter Disneyland Paris and that he will meet me just for a drink.

I really like him and ive tried to tell him this but he keeps telling me i have blown it, i dont want to push him further but i really dont know what to say or do to make him realise it wont happen again.

Why is he meeting me if he knows that we dont have a future? Its breaking my heart, i dont know what to say or do to make things better or win him back.

Also hes flying back to New York a few days after we have met, the only way I will prob see him again is...well i dont know...thinking about it breaks my heart.

You know when you think you found the 1, as stupid as it sounds i think he is. I just click with him and i made a big mistake and no matter how many times i say sorry to him its not good enough.

Any advice would be appreciated.

 

[Monte Cristo]

Ok, let me understand this...your big mistake was that you said you WOULDN'T call him and in fact you DID call him?

So your calling him was what blew it up? You promised this wouldn't happen again. So you're saying you promise you won't call him again?

I am having trouble understanding how you build a relationship with someone without calling them. Sounds like he's married.

 

[budbeerlady]

If he doesnt want you to call him if you are having a crappy day is this really someone you want to have a future with? (I think I am reading the post that way...)

Friends, couples, significant others are there for the good and bad, not when they want a drink and to hang out.

I would chalk him up as a fish in the sea and move on.

 

[thelittlemermaid83]

Ok, let me understand this...your big mistake was that you said you WOULDN'T call him and in fact you DID call him?

So your calling him was what blew it up? You promised this wouldn't happen again. So you're saying you promise you won't call him again?

I am having trouble understanding how you build a relationship with someone without calling them. Sounds like he's married.

He told me his wife is dead

But basically yes i called him a few too many times and he got annoyed and asked me not to all call him again. So i promised i wouldnt call or text for a while. And when i did he said i have blown it as i cant keep promises.

 

[TeresaBelle]

I say run...as fast as you can. Don't even meet him for that drink. Something is obviously wrong with him...not you. Why did he not want you to call? That sounds suspicious to me. Don't apologize, you did nothing wrong.

 

[Cass]

He sounds like a total jerk, RUN - do not walk away!

 

[BratTink]

Run like the wind. You don't need this.

 

[lovemygoofy]

He told me his wife is dead

But basically yes i called him a few too many times and he got annoyed and asked me not to all call him again. So i promised i wouldnt call or text for a while. And when i did he said i have blown it as i cant keep promises.

He's attached then. He's meeting you for the last time for the "goodbye" bedroom meeting. Going to play your emotions of really liking you and making you feel bad but still the "oh we had Paris memories" thing. I wouldn't go.

 

[vettechick99]

I say run...as fast as you can. Don't even meet him for that drink. Something is obviously wrong with him...not you. Why did he not want you to call? That sounds suspicious to me. Don't apologize, you did nothing wrong.

He is not someone you want to be in a relationship with. Already you can see how manipulative he is. He's playing games. If he wanted to end things, he would end them, not tease you by meeting you for a drink.

Sorry, but he's a freak!!!

 

[thelittlemermaid83]

He didnt want me to call him as he said he is busy plus he said something about the time difference, seeing as right now he is NY and im in the UK.

 

[thelittlemermaid83]

So i guess no one is in favour of me at least meeting him to see what he says?

Also he wont be taking me to no bedroom lol I wil have my 2year old daughter with me.

 

[Chicago526]

A) he's married (and lied about his wife being dead! )

B) he has major control issues

C) he's married and has major control issues

Take your pick but any which way you slice it, he's bad news. He's doing you a favor honey. I know it hurts but trust me, you're better off.

 

[crzyred]

Are you reading what you've written?

Like so many have said, run!!!!!!!!!! Don't even think about it.

You said there wouldn't be a bedroom because your child would be with you. Why would you expose them to this type of man?

 

[thelittlemermaid83]

A) he's married (and lied about his wife being dead! )

B) he has major control issues

C) he's married and has major control issues

Take your pick but any which way you slice it, he's bad news. He's doing you a favor honey. I know it hurts but trust me, you're better off.

I just really like him..even tho i know hes treating me like a jerk.

I just felt like he was the one for me, and he was going to make me happy.

 

[thelittlemermaid83]

Are you reading what you've written?

Like so many have said, run!!!!!!!!!! Don't even think about it.

You said there wouldn't be a bedroom because your child would be with you. Why would you expose them to this type of man?

She was with me when i met up with him last time for a drink and he seemed like a nice enough guy.

 

[Monte Cristo]

He told me his wife is dead

But basically yes i called him a few too many times and he got annoyed and asked me not to all call him again. So i promised i wouldnt call or text for a while. And when i did he said i have blown it as i cant keep promises.

My money is still on him being married. It also sounds like you called too many times and that kind of turned him off. From the sound of things, that could be a good thing.

 

[lovemygoofy]

I just really like him..even tho i know hes treating me like a jerk.

I just felt like he was the one for me, and he was going to make me happy.

Honestly, I'm not trying to be mean but I bet he's made tons of women around the world feel like that if he is such a traveler. I know guys that try to score in every country, city, state and town in the world. It's their game of manipulation.

 

[crzyred]

I just really like him..even tho i know hes treating me like a jerk.

I just felt like he was the one for me, and he was going to make me happy.

Oh there are a ton of different comments I could make right now about brain capacity.

HE IS NOT THE ONE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

 

[budbeerlady]

So i guess no one is in favour of me at least meeting him to see what he says?

Also he wont be taking me to no bedroom lol I wil have my 2year old daughter with me.

You deserve someone who will drop everything for you, not some controlling loser. I wouldnt meet him or correspond with him in anyway, walk away and leave him hanging. He has either got issues or is married....

 

[AprilShowers]

This whole situation should be throwing up red flags to you! Calling someone "by mistake" is no reason to end a relationship that is truly important.
This guy is bad news, and your radar should be telling you that, but you're listening with your heart and not your head.

I agree with other posters. He's either married or has some MAJOR personality flaws/controll issues.

Run like the wind my dear! It hurts now, but you will be better off in the long run. Especially with such a young daughter, you need to be careful who you bring into her life.