I got my son's ear pierced yesterday!

[Buckalew11]

A couple of weeks ago my DD (4) cut ALL of her beautiful long blonde hair off. And I mean ALL of it - after tidying it up she looks like she's ready for basic training. She cried and cried and was afraid that she looked like a boy and so I asked if she wanted earring and off we went. Then she was upset because her roots were really dark so we dyed them blonde - she looks quite cute now.

Are you going to keep coloring it when her roots grow in dark? Just curious. Haircolor would be harsh on most children's hair and since she'll be growing it out rather than keeping it short, she's gonna have a root problem about every 3 weeks.

 

[Christine]

I had to leave for awhile to get my DD off to school.

Christine - Where I come from, to call someone a "Redneck" would be a total insult (almost like fighting words). It's interesting how different areas have different feeling about different words (did that make sense sounds like a tongue twister).

Anyway, I was just defending the OP because it seems like lately around the CB that when someone posts something about their kids, it's like they are throwing themselves to the wolves. I feel bad for them I didn't realize that "Redneck" was not that bad of a word where you live, and for that I apologize for flaming you for it. We are all friends here on the CB (I hope) and I don't want to offend anyone

That's okay, I'm pretty thick skinned but I will be more careful as I didn't know that it was a sensitive word in some areas. It is definitely not a positive word here, but not a fighting word either.

 

[DawnCt1]

If my mom was alive she would have killed me!! What do you guys on the DIS think about it?

Probably exactly what your mom would think.

 

[Christine]

DS13 had his ear pierced a little over a year ago. His father (my DH) was against it, but his mother had no problem, and it really wasn't a battle worth fighting. One thing no one mentioned is that kids are doing this not as part of the "redneck" culture, but as part of the "rap" culture. DS is into rap, he wears a big piece of fake "bling" in his ear. It looks sorta stupid, but kids will be kids. Again, not a battle worth fighting. There are bigger issues we will be dealing with, I am sure.

Miss Jasmine--the funny thing around here is that at age 12/13 and up, it is NOT considered "redneck" to get the earring. Only at a very young age is it a redneck trait. Hard to keep up with, I know..

 

[DawnCt1]

I would be displaying a double standard if I had children of each sex and said one could have their ears pierced while the other couldn't.

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Girls having their ears pierced is traditional feminine dress. Boys with ear piercings is not. What's wrong with a double standard when it comes to fashion?

 

[Nite0wl71]

My boys never had their ears pierced, now when my DS was 18 he had his tongue pierced. It lasted about 2 weeks until he swallowed it

Boys cannot wear earings to school here, they either have to take them out or cover them up with a band-aid.

 

[Disneyrsh]

I would really hesitate with my kids to do anything that's permanent.

Even if he grows up and decides he's not an earring kind of guy, he'll always have that telltale divot in his ear.

Earrings for girls are pretty much an accepted societal norm, so if my daughters want their ears pierced when they're thirteen, I"m ok with it, but any other piercing I would have to tell them that permanently altering their bodies is a decision that should wait until adulthood, when they have a better grasp of consequences and their own mortality.

That, and they'd be grounded UNTIL adulthood if they came home with a tattoo or their belly buttons pierced

I like seeing all sorts of unusual adults, but kids, hmm, I think they need to get the insides working well before they go messing with the outsides...

 

[CathrynRose]

With all the problems this mother could potentially be facing with a child, if the only *issue* she has is a pierced ear - I say "good job!"

I dont see what the big deal is - but I also let both my boys pierce their ears (neither still has it) I let my oldest grow his hair out, longer than mine - and when he finally decided to chop it - the little one has decided to grow his.

I figure hair, clothes, accesories - least of my worries. Truly...

Im sure he looks great.

 

[slo]

That's okay, I'm pretty thick skinned but I will be more careful as I didn't know that it was a sensitive word in some areas. It is definitely not a positive word here, but not a fighting word either.

I'm glad there's no upsetness toward each other - I gotta go to work. See you around The DIS

 

[BuzzBoyMom]

I agree with the person who said it sounded like you wanted it more than DS. I wouldn't have allowed it. I didn't let DD get her ears pierced until she was 13. But hey, it's your son.

You're asking for our opinion....not sure why....you certainly can't change things - but I agree with the other posters who said sounds like you wanted it more than him.

Now that I answered your question, here's my question - what if your son says he wants a tatoo? I mean, he really wants it? Or better - he wants to pierce some other body part....why stop at one!

 

[chobie]

I had to leave for awhile to get my DD off to school.

Christine - Where I come from, to call someone a "Redneck" would be a total insult (almost like fighting words). It's interesting how different areas have different feeling about different words (did that make sense sounds like a tongue twister).

Anyway, I was just defending the OP because it seems like lately around the CB that when someone posts something about their kids, it's like they are throwing themselves to the wolves. I feel bad for them I didn't realize that "Redneck" was not that bad of a word where you live, and for that I apologize for flaming you for it. We are all friends here on the CB (I hope) and I don't want to offend anyone

Yes, parenting is a very touchy subject. You have to be careful what you say on here about your kids if you don't want to be called a bad parent. You would think that people would reserve that title for people who beat and starve their children. But I have even been called that for putting my kids in non-scoring sports teams so they can get excercise in an organized setting and learn about team work.

 

[Buckalew11]

DS13 had his ear pierced a little over a year ago. His father (my DH) was against it, but his mother had no problem, and it really wasn't a battle worth fighting. One thing no one mentioned is that kids are doing this not as part of the "redneck" culture, but as part of the "rap" culture. DS is into rap, he wears a big piece of fake "bling" in his ear. It looks sorta stupid, but kids will be kids. Again, not a battle worth fighting. There are bigger issues we will be dealing with, I am sure.

What is interesting is the mother allowed DS to get his ear pierced, but totally freaked out when DD14 said she wanted her belly button pierced.

I was thinking the same thing about the "rap" look. So many older guys (college and twenty somethings) wear the bling that little boys want the look too. While it can look redneck, it depends what their overall look is like.

That said, there be no ear piercing on a son at my house either way.

As bad as it looks to me on a little boy, it looks worse on an old man. Like 40 and up. Ick. (40 is only old in ear piercing and when a man dates a 20 something y.o. young chick.

 

[Christine]

But I have even been called that for putting my kids in non-scoring sports teams so they can get excercise in an organized setting and learn about team work.

Wow, what's so bad about that? Wish I could find such a thing for my son. He would love this.

 

[auntpolly]

There is a specific "look" to it but I can't really describe it--only that young boys with earrings are one of the looks.

I really think that rednecks around here would think it was sissy (there's another word I would use but I can't here -- you know what I mean).

I only talk about rednecks because I grew up a farmer/redneck, at least that's what we were called!

In those days at least it wasn't so much "white trash", to use another popular insult. We were just the unsophisticated farmer kids.

 

[Miss Jasmine]

Miss Jasmine--the funny thing around here is that at age 12/13 and up, it is NOT considered "redneck" to get the earring. Only at a very young age is it a redneck trait. Hard to keep up with, I know..

So there's an age cutoff to be labeled as such? LOL

 

[Christine]

As bad as it looks to me on a little boy, it looks worse on an old man. Like 40 and up. Ick. (40 is only old in ear piercing and when a man dates a 20 something y.o. young chick.

Totally agree. I mean I'm 42 and when I see a guy my age with an earring, I feel like you do: ICK!!

 

[chobie]

Wow, what's so bad about that? Wish I could find such a thing for my son. He would love this.

I'm not teaching to be "competetive" and apparently organized sports are the only way to learn how to compete. And in the case of my son who has mild, but delayed motor skill issues, I'm not teaching him to be a "good loser" to other people's athletically gifted children.

 

[Christine]

I'm not teaching to be "competetive" and apparently organized sports are the only way to learn how to compete. And in the case of my son who has mild, but delayed motor skill issues, I'm not teaching him to be a "good loser" to other people's athletically gifted children.

Oh, I see. Apparently, I have the same issues as you then.

 

[minnie56]

Not fond of them on boys, men or old men at all...
But it's not my son!

 

[mickeyfan2]

But that's how it is with little girls all the time. I go to the mall. I see little ones as young as 5 getting roped into ear piercings they aren't quite so sure of all the time.

I would not for a girl either. Also the cleaning and upkeep at at that age could be a pain.